twin advice from non twin moms - Page 3
My twins were pretty harrowing at first, and still are sometimes, with gerd etc. But I still find my almost-five-year-old the most challenging of all three kids. The twins are 15mo and they do get into stuff and fight sometimes etc. But it is NOTHING like my oldest. She just needs constant attention and always did. She is super sensitive has food issues, sensory intergration, and pretty big temper to top it off. THose wouldn't really qualify as special needs but I found even being with her one-on-one (and still do) more difficult than dealing with newborn twins.
I am pregnant with Identical Twin Boys and I have 2 months to go until their arrival. I am getting so annoyed, all be it pissed off at mothers who have one baby and tell me "They know what I'm going through" or "they've been there". I am just like "Umm no you don't know carrying twins is a whole different animal than carrying one so please don't tell me that you know how I feel or what I'm going through because you really haven't a clue". Also people who try and tell me what I;m going to want to do once they are born, like they know what it's like having two at once or something. It is just so frusterating I am seriously considering making a massive post on Facebook telling people that if they come in contact with me, to please refrain from giving me your unsoliceted advice on having twins, being pregnant with twins or anythiing related to twins unless you've actually had them yourself because I just might blow up at the next person who does! Would that be too mean? :) Anyways I just had to vent, because I don't feel like anyone understands what I am actually going through and I really don't want them too, I just would like them to leave me alone and stop giving me advice about what you know nothing about.
Hang in there Candace. It sucks to get all the unsolicited advice, because truly, having twins (or other multiples) is one of those things that you just can't understand until it happens to you. As a mom of twins, I would certainly never begin to presume to know what it is like to have triplets...right?! Oh well. People just love to talk...that's what I find. They speak without thinking, or think it is coming from a kind place. And really, the big thing I have learned so far, 8 1/2 months into this adventure, is to remember that..."it's all hard." That's my new catch-phrase. It's pointless for anyone (even us twin moms) to play the misery poker game. Who's to say who has it harder, ya know? Parenting is hard...period. Sometimes when people feel the need to remind me "you have your hands full!" I want to say, "no shit Sherlock!" But I just breathe and go on my way. xhugsx