Bali Concealers - Offensive?

[leila1213]

The first and only bras with revolutionary concealing petals for complete modesty.

http://www.balicompany.com/collections.asp?col=23&cat=1

I guess there is a special first layer with petal-shaped "concealers" in them to hide any kind of nipple outline that might show through. The commercials are really bothering me. I have small breasts and "pointy", protruding nipples. I have always been so self-conscious of them, to the point that I would wear padded bras - not for the appearance of larger breasts, but for "modesty".

But since I have been BFing DD, I have come to appreciate my pointy nipples. They work! I am thankful that I haven't had to struggle with flat or inverted nipples the way I've seen so many women go through. So, I've come to terms with the fact that they will show through blouses and even bras. I like going braless, too (for comfort & accessibility) but DH gets upset because of the nipple thing.

I have struggled to accept my body, but am now proud of it. I have to fight DH on showing off my natural look, and now there are commercials telling me I have to buy special bras "for complete modesty"?? : Is it just me? Am I being too sensitive? Or do these products undermine what lactivists are fighting for - viewing breasts as functional, beautiful baby-feeders, not sex objects to be ashamed of??

[saimeiyu]

I don't think they're offensive in and of themselves. I think they creep into that area when it starts being insinuated that you HAVE to have them or you're a slut...
But I know plenty of women who think that boobs + babies together is fine, but without the baby, it's inappropriate.

[KirstenMary]

I don't find them offensive at all. Personally, I hate my pencil eraser nipples, and I wear an Ipex because of the wonderful coverage. The last thing I want or need is to have one of my college students talk to me while looking me in the breasts as opposed to in the eyes.

[honeybunch2k8]

I don't know if this is offensive.

I will say I hate wearing bras in general!

I may be alone on this, but I don't get the modesty issue. Nipples, so what??? Men and women got the same nipples.

I admit people do act strange when a woman's nipples show thru. I know I've gotten looks, but I figured it's more their issue than mine. Sometimes my nipples show thru regardless of whether or not I wear a bra. Meanwhile, men are walking around with DD's and headlights and that's ok.

[sapphire_chan]

(not that this seems particularly related to breastfeeding)
Do they also help keep your nipples warmer when it's so cold they go all super-pointy?

[yamilee21]

I saw these in the latest OneHanesPlace catalogue, and I did think it was odd and possibly offensive. Except for sheer bras with only one layer, (1) most bras seem thick enough anyway, and (2) modesty?!?! - all humans have nipples, what is there to hide?

I don't think you are being too sensitive, leila1213, but I think this kind of product goes beyond denying the natural function of breasts to the larger societal problem of changing everything about the body to make it reach some unnatural, "idealized" appearance.

[llamalluv]

I just posted a little "rant" to a "modesty" group I belong to about these, and their stupid cousins, the "booby stickers".

The most ridiculous part of this product is that the petals are centered in the cup of all the bras, even the larger sizes. And I know I'm not the only big girl with nipples that are "wall eyed". It's always an adventure to guess where they will point next.

[llamalluv]

Originally Posted by yamilee21

I saw these in the latest OneHanesPlace catalogue, and I did think it was odd and possibly offensive. Except for sheer bras with only one layer, (1) most bras seem thick enough anyway, and (2) modesty?!?! - all humans have nipples, what is there to hide?

It depends on the nipple in question. I have, on occasion, worn a bra that has THREE layers (inner, thin padding, outer shell), plus a knit cami, plus a shirt over that, and still had headlights.

[Contrariety]

I would have killed for a bra like that in high school! I was always crossing my arms in front of my chest!

Things have either settled down since then, or I just don't care enough to notice these days.

I don't think its offensive.

[dove]

don't think they're any more strange than any moulded-cup bra - even see those for pre-teens...ummm, yeah. nipples exist.

[bc1995]

Since my nipples seem to resemble a cow's teat more than a human nipple, I wouldn't mind the extra coverage at all.

[mntnmom]

Originally Posted by yamilee21

catalogue, and I did think it was odd and possibly offensive. Except for sheer bras with only one layer, (1) most bras seem thick enough anyway, and (2) modesty?!?! - all humans have nipples, what is there to hide?

I don't think you are being too sensitive, leila1213, but I think this kind of product goes beyond denying the natural function of breasts to the larger societal problem of changing everything about the body to make it reach some unnatural, "idealized" appearance.

I don't find the product itself offensive. But what it represents. Breasts are fine if you're shaking them in a bikini, but NIPPLES are immodest? Of course everyone has a body, but we have to hide the "imperfections" (hair, natural odors etc.) to be exceptable.
I understand that some women are insecure about their nipples, I've gotten some looks at my pencil erasers through bra, camisole and shirt.
But we shouldn't have to feel insecure about something EVERY human has.

[llamalluv]

The whole idea seems silly to me, anyway. If someone is looking at my nipples, they were looking at my breasts to begin with, instead of my FACE, and the problem is with THEM.

[MilkTrance]

It's sad that some women feel they should wear them (and I am one of those women) because they don't want to be stared at by perverted men who have been taught by our culture that protruding nipples = sexual arousal.

[honeybunch2k8]

Originally Posted by MilkTrance

It's sad that some women feel they should wear them (and I am one of those women) because they don't want to be stared at by perverted men who have been taught by our culture that protruding nipples = sexual arousal.

That annoys me so much. Grrrrr!!!!

[llamalluv]

Originally Posted by MilkTrance

It's sad that some women feel they should wear them (and I am one of those women) because they don't want to be stared at by perverted men who have been taught by our culture that protruding nipples = sexual arousal.

Protruding nipples = Nature's Thermometer.

[leila1213]

My latest problem is that my nipples are so long, they can actually fold over underneath my bra!

[Meredith&Alexander]

For me it's a fashion issue. I want to be the one in charge of whether my hi-beams are visible or not, and a bra that will conceal them when I want them concealed is a selling point to me.

Sometimes I want them to show, sometimes it doesn't matter, but sometimes they interrupt the flow of an outfit.

[WaitingForKiddos]

I thought the ad was weird...but I don't have issue with the product. Personally, I don't care who sees my nips...it's just when one is pointing ahead and the other is looking at something off to my right that I wish they weren't visible. But I just reach in and adjust 'em to face the same way, no need to cover them with extra fabric.

The ad made me ponder though...since when are all nipples right on that perfect slightly upward looking spot? My nips haven't looked like than since I was about 21 and I don't have anything but being 29 to blame on it!

[crittersmom]

It doesn't bother me.I like a seamless look especially since sometimes(usually) only one nipple is perky and they are going in different directions and I have no time to adjust.I'm vain.
This reminds me of when Jennifer Lopez wore that revealing dress to an awards show.One of the comments was that she was very...healthy looking.LOL