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3/5/08 at 1:21am
she is a young mom who i have kinda taken under my wing as she seems to be very into nfl and ap and homeschooling etc.
she just got divorced.
and hit on dh.
i want to say something to her, but what????
i live in a very small town and i see her several tims a week.
i want to be honest and the bigger person but i feel pretty betrayed.
Well, I've had lots of experience here, as DH is a martial arts teacher. From women signing up and then quitting as soon as they realize we are married to just blatantly outright throwing themselves at him. Fortunately DH is so completely utterly trustworthy I am never worried. HE OTOH tells them to cut it out or they can no longer participate in the school. My favorite though? One woman told me, in front of several people, "Oh you don't have to worry about me, I would never, blah blah blah" To which I replied, "Sweetheart, if I had to trust you, I wouldn't be married to him." For some reason, we haven't seen her recently
It sounds like your DH is handling it well. I would just watch, and I also wouldn't ever make an issue of it.
having gone through getting a divorce as a mama---it plays weird things with your mind. You do crave attention from men cuz you feel so shattered, broken, wasted. its all the stereotypes about single moms, like you are "used up" these things go through your mind. Its terrible! She might be forgetting her boundaries cuz she is so desparate for some kind of affirmation that she is normal? not that flirting is the way to go---but its more understandable than just trying to sleep with someones husband. which is wrong no matter how you slice it. And no i have never flirted with a married person , period. So i cant really fully put myself in her shoes.
anyway i hope you figure it out! sounds sad. but i am glad your DH was so up front.