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Originally Posted by Plummeting
 I can understand why people do it, but realistically I don't know if I would ever be able to do it.
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My DH wasn't on board with it at first. He thought I was totally overreacting. BUT ... he was also the first to acknowledge that I had done far more research than he had, so it made sense for me to have the most say in the decision.
Ironically, a lot of decisions we've made (and I say "we" for a reason, because whether it was his preference or not at the time, it was still his decision to do/not do whatever) started out like that: not spanking, not circ'ing, not vax'ing. As he's taken the time to learn more about each subject and has seen the results with our own children, he is 100% on the same page now and says that he's glad that his ignorance didn't stand in the way.
For my part, I appreciate the fact that he recognized his ignorance for what it was and didn't force it to stand in our way. He can be stubborn and VERY slow to examine a new viewpoint, but he never ever resorts to strong-arm tactics, and when he's finally ready to learn more, he learns quickly and embraces what he's learned with his whole heart. He tells me he thinks he's becoming a hippie, and to his surprise, he kind of likes it.
I don't think I could have lied to him about all those things, though. I don't know how a true and loving partnership can survive that much dishonesty and secrecy. I would hope a true and loving partnership wouldn't breed it in the first place, really.
