Originally Posted by rayo de sol
The sexist notion that females shouldn't sit with their legs open is so appalling to me that it makes me feel physically nauseous to think of all the unfortunate girls out there with this ridiculous limitation placed on them.
How is it fair that males can sit with their legs spread as far apart as possible, showing off their whole genital region (especially if they're wearing snug pants) while females are expected to sit with their legs crossed or primly squeezed together at all times?? It seems to send the message that female genitals are objectionable or gross in some way and also that males get to take up more space than females. There's also a sexist message that it's girls' responsibility to shield the stereotypical uncontrollably sexual male from her sexuality; if she sits with her legs open, she's inviting rape.
I would never want to pass these hurtful, dysfunctional, and just plain wrong messages on to any child of either sex. Children should be able to sit and hold their bodies in any way that's comfortable and preferable for them.
A big YEAH THAT! to this whole thing.
I'm not opposed to males and females having differences. I beleive some (but NOT ALL) of those differences are probably genetic, though ALL of them are culturally influenced (The whole pink thing makes me laugh, because it is 100% societally determined. It's not like they come out of the womb saying "oh, my vagina makes me love pink!')
But what I really hate are the number of the differences that people claim are "innate" and are definitions of feminitity that are really about telling girls that their bodies are wrong and dirty, that they are weak and incapable of taking care of themselves physically (even opening doors!), and that they are the guardians of everyone's virtue, boys included. Their faces are wrong and must be painted and fixed. Their bodies must be hidden and controlled, and not take up too much space in the world, either through leg spreading or by being too tall or worst of all, gaining too much weight. I want my daughter to take up all the space she needs to do what she needs to do and not fear its "Unladylike" to do so.
I further hate the ones that tell boys that showing any care for other human beings is wrong, that feelings are for girls, and that the only way to communicate as a boy is to hit and hurt and wound, and the only things they're allowed to like are trucks and sports. Geeze, where would the world be if Michaelangelo had been told that he had to only play with trucks and balls?
It's a long way from saying "girls tend to be better verbally than boys"