I'll have the book tomorrow.
First thought - in therapy, one of the things we talked about a lot was building a life out of "now", because now
is the only time we have. Only now
can I make any changes in my life - only now
can I live. But most "nows" are mundane, simple, easy to dismiss as meaningless, and what I want to control are the Big Things - who I want to be, the way I want to parent, etc. And if I spend all my time going over in my mind what I should have done
, or what I plan to do
, then I'm not actually living in the now
, which means I'm not actually living.
Still following me?
So what I figured out is that now
(this breath, this keystroke, this thought, this heartbeat) contains the space to welcome/be aware of/allow to grow the things I want, the person I want to be, the parent I want to be. Just space. No force, no plans, no little mental gerbil running in place -- just space. In that way, when the opportunity to make the choices that shape my life (my parenting), I will be able to choose, because I will be here, now, and with every moment preceding I will have welcomed that choice, and I won't be so distracted by the should haves/need to dos that I miss the chance to actually do
So I guess that's my thought on how to "hold the vision" - now I just need to have
Actually, I guess all of that reveals one aspect of my parenting vision: I want to be present in this moment with my child.
And on that note, I'm going to go play with my child and his new big red ball.