Thanks Marie - as a c-section mama i wish someone had told me too. So i sent her an e-mail. Its pretty emotional on my part - because she is a friend and i just would hate for her to regret this one day the way i do. Anyway - heres what i wrote:
Hey T -
How are you feeling? You are no doubt getting very excited to meet your baby and not be pregnant anymore. I called work today to see how you were doing and Steph mentioned that you have scheduled a c-section for the 10th. I KNOW that this is an emotional time for you right now, and the last thing i want to do is upset a very pregnant woman....but as someone who has had a very unnecessary c-section i wish that there was someone out there that told me the truth, the real risks and that i had an OB that practiced REAL informed consent. Because after all a “choice” without it being an informed one, isn't really a choice at all.
Just quickly from my saved web pages here are some articles you should take a look at:
C-Section Fact sheethttp://www.ican-online.org/pregnancy...ean-fact-sheet
Respiratory problem study in c-section babieshttp://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7137945.stm
C-section mothers have 3 times the hysterectomy riskhttp://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/liv...=1774&ito=1490
Death rates rise as c-section rates risehttp://www.bcbs.com/news/national/an...ate-rises.html
Cesarean Birth in a Culture of Fearhttp://www.mothering.com/articles/pr...e-of-fear.html
Aside from all the statistics and the articles, i never want my friend, my sister, my daughter to go through what i did. It was sterile and sad and i was full of drugs and felt no emotion. That should not be how any woman meets her baby for the first time. You CAN do this and i truly believe that your body would not make a baby that is too big. All the machines and doctors in the world cannot tell you if you are able to deliver your baby - ultrasounds can be as much as 2 pounds off, our pelvis is designed to stretch and there is no way to know how much yours is able to.
"birth is not only about making babies. birth is about making mothers...strong, competent, capable mothers who trust themselves and know their inner strength."
Barbara Katz Rothman
"You are a woman, a daughter of daughters.
Within you is the strength, courage, and love of a woman; of a mother.
You have been given this gift because you can do this, it has always been in you to do this.
Do not fear what is to be, rather, go forth in knowledge and confidence
Follow your heart, your iinstincts they will not lie to you."
I really truly wish you the best, and that you will never celebrate the birthday of your child and feel the regret that i feel. I was robbed of the one thing that uuniquelymakes me a woman and a mother and i can never get that back. Mostly, it is sad. I know that you want her out - and here - and that you are scared. But you can do this and 3 months from now 2 weeks wont make a difference for you. You can never get this day back, the day that you meet your daughter.
Please take a look at those links and let me know i can help in any way.