I just need some support - Page 2

[tea4tamara]

That's so sad that you have to defend yourself -- breastfeeding is the best thing you can do for your baby! I can only imagine how frustrating it must be to not get support from your family. My first night in the hospital after my daughter was born, the nurses tried to push formula on me, and it was just awful. I was so tired from the labour and I hated having to argue with them. At least I could leave the hospital and that was the end of it, but family is a little harder to get away from. =) Best of luck, stay strong, and feel good about your decision to breastfeed.

[TattoMomK]

I could have written your post 8 years ago. I would shower and come out to find a sample bottle of formula in my dd's mouth! No wait! My grandma would literally CHASE ME around the house with a bottle insisting I try it since my DD was "obviously starving."


Just keep fighting the good fight mommy. Make yourself scarce. Turn off the phone and don't answer the door. Tell them after about a week of ignoring them that you'll bring the baby around 'em if they'll leave your parenting choices alone. If they are like my family they'll carry-on about what a horrid person you are for denying them access to the baby, but just laugh it off. And say "so you say--so wanna see the babe or not? That's my conditions."

My family says things STILL about how I never shared the baby with them and how I kept her all to myself. My response is simple: "well if I RECALL CORRECTLY you two kept trying to undermine my breastfeeding, so I did what I had to. If you would have supported me you would have held her more." Shut's 'em up every single time. Especially now when the news-junkies see how good breastfeeding is. THEY ACTUALLY COMPLIMENT ME ON BF'ING! But yeah, my mom would snap at gma then turn and say something silly to me like your mom's bottle statement.

Stay strong, you have our support, and total understanding from me!


rofl about the bottle/custody thing btw!

[aaronsmom]

Originally Posted by TattoMomK

I could have written your post 8 years ago. I would shower and come out to find a sample bottle of formula in my dd's mouth! No wait! My grandma would literally CHASE ME around the house with a bottle insisting I try it since my DD was "obviously starving."


Just keep fighting the good fight mommy. Make yourself scarce. Turn off the phone and don't answer the door. Tell them after about a week of ignoring them that you'll bring the baby around 'em if they'll leave your parenting choices alone. If they are like my family they'll carry-on about what a horrid person you are for denying them access to the baby, but just laugh it off. And say "so you say--so wanna see the babe or not? That's my conditions."

My family says things STILL about how I never shared the baby with them and how I kept her all to myself. My response is simple: "well if I RECALL CORRECTLY you two kept trying to undermine my breastfeeding, so I did what I had to. If you would have supported me you would have held her more." Shut's 'em up every single time. Especially now when the news-junkies see how good breastfeeding is. THEY ACTUALLY COMPLIMENT ME ON BF'ING! But yeah, my mom would snap at gma then turn and say something silly to me like your mom's bottle statement.

Stay strong, you have our support, and total understanding from me!


rofl about the bottle/custody thing btw!

Thanks. I'm glad I'm not the only one with a ridiculous family. Seriously though, it helps to know I'm not alone.

[goodheartedmama]

It sounds to me like they need to respect your limits, and you should make sure they know them. Are they still trying to have control over you in other ways? Anyway, good for you for standing up for yourself! I was talked into FFing my first, too