Weekly chit-chat thread 3/9-3/15 - Page 5

[Amber Lion]

Oooh, dreams, yes! I've been having the most vivid, real dreams that I could swear they are happening. Some have definitely been X rated, some have been super sweet and like I don't want to wake up, and I've even had a few nightmares. Dh had to wake me up b/c I was yelling in my sleep over the last one... it's not like it was even that scary when I woke up: I was in the bathtub and could see three very young boys (10?) trying to break into our house, got up, threw a robe on, and when they saw me they ran away, I tried to run after them and yell at them but no sound would leave my throat b/c I was so scared. I wasn't pg in the dream though and I have this vague feeling like my baby was in the room they were trying to enter, so that's probably why it was so scary in the dream.

AAM: I've got a ton of things to do today. Gotta clean the house completely cause another midwife is coming over for an interview (including the dishes, I do NOT do dishes! : but Dh is out of town again until right before the appt), gotta give my neighbor a Reiki treatment, and I've got to start studying for my finals next week. And all I want to do is go back to sleep!

[birthdancedoula]

Originally Posted by Jörð

And don't expect to be able to feel it by now. (Just a warning because I don't want you to worry if you can't)

Totally. The average time frame for the uterus to become abdominal is 10-12wks. And there are so many factors that play a role in that...your body type, your uterus position, your baby's growth, how your uterus lies when you lie down (its kind of just hanging out in there, only attached by a few ligaments). If you can't feel it by 10-12 wks (especially for first time mamas), no worries. With my 4th I wasn't able to palpate my fundus until 12 weeks...this time at 7 weeks. So there can be a wide range even with the same mama. It is definatley a cool thing when you can finally feel it though!

[DreamsInDigital]

I've been feeling my fundus since about 6-7 weeks, but this being my 5th pregnancy I kind of expected that. It's definitely more prominent this time than it has been in previous pregnancies. I bet I'll start showing sooner too.

[Baby_Cakes]

I have been feeling so bummed lately. Today is like the worst. I don't know, I just feel so useless, and DH isn't helping much. He's not "ignoring" me, but he's letting me be alone, and sometimes I do wish he'd just come sit with me and tell me I'm not completely useless. I feel like all I can do is lie on the couch or nap. I don't know what else to do with myself, and I just feel kinda teary about it. I'm not myself. And I think he's just as confused about what to do as I am. All I want is for him to give me a huge hug and tell me that he knows my body is working hard making this baby, and that if I need rest to take it. I feel like that is what I need to hear. Boo. I need hugs.

[TaraRae82]

Baby Cakes I'm so sorry you're feeling down today. I completely understand. I have had the EXACT same feelings and I think our men just don't know what to do or how to help us feel better or maybe even that we feel this way. I hope you find a way to show or tell DH what you need from him and how he can help. More s

[Changed]

You sound just like I did my first pregnancy. It'll all be ok.

[Amber Lion]

Baby_Cakes, I know what you're going through. I took the day off of work the other day, not b/c I was feeling particularly ill, but b/c I was feeling useless and unloved. For some reason, my reaction to that is to just stay in bed and mope. Dh kind of stepped up (he fed me anyways!), but he had other things to do and he just doesn't really get how different I feel already. Have you told him how you feel? I did, and it really made me feel better. There's still not much Dh can do for me, but at least I got some affirmation that he does understand I'm going through things he can't really understand. again!

[neveryoumindthere]

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This is me. I called my midwife the other day just to get some sympathy. I talked to her about how absolutely miserable I am and how it's so bad sometimes I wish I wasn't preg. (horrible i know) but I just feel so depressed. nausea 24/7 doesn't help the situation, neither does being so deathly tired

hang in there..

[DreamsInDigital]

I've had zero nausea so far today. Yay!

[celesterra]

Carrie, sometimes being completely direct is the best tactic. Even though we wish our husbands were as emotionally savvy as we are, most simply don't know what to do with our clues. I suggest telling him exactly what he can do for you - you even stated it in your post to us. This is good practice for when yo've got the added challenge of a new baby and will definitely need to give him some direction.

You know we'd all come and give you hugs and sit with you if we could...

[birthdancedoula]

Originally Posted by celesterra

You know we'd all come and give you hugs and sit with you if we could.

Yeah, we could get a big ol couch and all of us fatigued, nauseous, and unmotivated preggo mamas could lounge around and commiserate. I've always said mamas at the beginning of pregnancy need just as much love and pampering as those who are 9 months pregnant.

Seriously though, just be direct with him. Tell him exactly what you're needing from him...even if its just validation that you are doing something (and a very miraculous something I might add!), despite the fact you think it looks to him as though you're just vegging out on the couch. Most guys appreciate when we're direct about these things. It saves them from having to feel clueless about what are needs really are. Heck, my dh has been through this lots of times and he still needs me to tell him when I'm not feeling up to changing a diaper, making lunch, or even hoisting my sick self out of bed.

Lots of and rest assured...it does get easier.

[Baby_Cakes]

Thank you all so much for the replies!!! You made me realize I'm not alone in this, and that what I'm feeling isn't all that unusual. I've been direct with Chris to an extent, but part of me feels like I'm whining, so I haven't been too verbal about it. I'm actually doing much better today. It's crazy what a good night sleep can do for someone's mental strength and spirit.

I went this morning at the crack of dawn (seriously, the sun wasn't even up) to Labcorp to get my blood drawn. Honestly, it wasn't that bad. I was there for about an hour (from 7am to 8am) and it moved quickly, it was just busy. They took 6 or so vials of blood, but it took less than 2 minutes. Then I came home and went back to bed, lol.

I'm interested in seeing the results b/c I'm slightly afraid I'm anemic. I've been trying to eat but it isn't really happening. Prune juice is high in iron, so yesterday when I had to clean the house and had no energy, I chugged a few ounces (that stuff is just nasty) and immediately started to feel better and less dizzy/lightheaded. So we shall see. Extra iron might be in my near future - but if it makes me feel better then it's what I have to do.

Thanks again for all the support. This is what this forum is all about - us coming together when we need it. Thanks guys!!!

[DreamsInDigital]

If you do end up finding out you're anemic, Floradix is my favorite iron-boosting supplement.

[Baby_Cakes]

^ Thanks, I just googled it and it does look like a great supplement. Does it taste horrible? Do you take it with OJ or anything? I've read that vitamin C helps increase the absorption of iron. I have a pretty strong feeling that I am anemic, but only the blood results will tell.

That being said, I just read to mix molasses with soymilk and drink it twice a day. Tastes....kinda like a weird caramel milk. It might not work in the morning, but once the m/s passes it might be just fine. Did I mention I'm still definitely feeling pukey? Sucks, b/c I really thought it went away. But no, still feeling like crud most of the day.

[DreamsInDigital]

Floradix has an odd after-flavor, very earthy because of the herbs. I always mixed it with something, OJ would be a great choice but it does have juice in it to give it a less horrible flavor.