boyfriend/girlfriend stuff in your child's K-3 class - Page 2

[MattBronsil]

Originally Posted by Lingmom

So for you... the dating, the gifts, the boyfriend status... this is all okay for kindergarten children?

Yes. I do draw the line at pregnancy, though.

At three, it *is* cute. I recall my daughter giving her pre-school friend an invitation to his (their) wedding and thinking that was pretty funny. Pre-school romance is all a big, silly, fantasy and that's one thing. But when one child begins giving gifts and claims to have an exclusive boyfriend relationship ("she's *my* girlfriend and nobody elses") it's less cute, and when parents get involved encouraging their kids to date, it feels downright creepy to me.

That's a little different than anything else we've mentioned so far. Unless I missed something in a post. That's posessiveness. That's not healthy.

Matt

[MattBronsil]

Originally Posted by Marsupialmom

My grandma talks about her first love when she as about 7. She is in her 87.

I think kids play this way because they are trying to figure out thier world. They can pretend to be doctors but not married....doen't make since. At that ages they are still trying to figure out relationships. They are likely to say they want to be dad's wife or mom's husband.

That does't mean at times you don't need to limit, explain, and/or set expections. The behavior doesn't bother me to much but at times it does like any other behavior need to be guided in the right directions. I think kids play these games because they need to hear mom and dad teach what is expected and acceptable of them.

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