Just a small rant...

[ann_of_loxley]

Because I couldnt scream my head off there....
Duncan and I went to a new art class yesterday - it was fun. We both had a really good time there. Its not often we can do things like that - but it was specifically designed for mothers and their babies/children.

Well there was a mother there with a young baby - about 5 months of age. Everyone kept going on about how 'good' he was because he sat in a bouncer chair the whole time (we were there 2 hours) and didnt cry! He was a 'good boy' because he was quiet and didnt fuss or cry or anything - just sat there!
ugghh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

and it was in a building we used to go to for another art class - that once my son became a toddler we were no longer welcome because he didnt want to go in the creche - he wanted to be with me. Which was fine when he was a 'baby'. They suggested I left him to cry in the creche! She was talking to me like I was a first time mother with no clue! She went on and on about how it was okay to leave him to cry because he would only be upset about it for a few mintues! Was she serious! It took a lot of my control for me to just walk out of there. Just going back there reminded me of that.... Sigh...





Thanks lol

[marybethorama]

I have to confess

I had a baby who would sit like that. It was nothing that I did, it's just the way he was. He wasn't good but I will admit it was easy sometimes. He probably gave other babies a bad reputation though

He was my third. My first two were very different. No way would they have been separated from me. Especially my second.

My first wasn't really ever separated from me or dh until he went to Kindergarten. (FTR he was fine and had no problems)

I was very lucky that all the activities we did were accomodating. I hate it when people try to force babies to be "independent" or separate before they are ready.

[crazydiamond]

My DD's like that. I didn't have anything to do with it. . she's always been pretty quiet and content no matter where she is.

I do refrain from calling her "good" because I don't want an association to be made between "content" and "good", ya know? As if her personality qualifies her worth -- kids are good regardless of their personality types. But she was and usually still is, pretty mellow and easy. I will say to other people that she's usually quiet and introverted, though, because it's true (and they need to know that) and I don't feel that I'm judging her, ya know?

Calling an easy baby "good" just gets on my nerves. . just as much as calling a misbehaving child "bad" does.

[ann_of_loxley]

Originally Posted by crazydiamond

My DD's like that. I didn't have anything to do with it. . she's always been pretty quiet and content no matter where she is.

I do refrain from calling her "good" because I don't want an association to be made between "content" and "good", ya know? As if her personality qualifies her worth -- kids are good regardless of their personality types. But she was and usually still is, pretty mellow and easy. I will say to other people that she's usually quiet and introverted, though, because it's true (and they need to know that) and I don't feel that I'm judging her, ya know?

Calling an easy baby "good" just gets on my nerves. . just as much as calling a misbehaving child "bad" does.

Exactly! I had a 'quiet' son as well. Hes always been a content little chap! But I dont go cooing over babies saying how 'good' they are based on their personality - as if a baby was crying or fussing or moving about makes them 'bad'. Thats what gets me!...its that you have to be quiet and 'seen and not heard' to be a 'good' child in our society. Thats what makes me upset!