I would be ecstatic with a special title. *nods*
I'm certainly not encouraging her calling me Mom... I know how DP feels about it, and a couple times that she did call me Mom when he wasn't around, I explained to her as best as I could that I love her very much and will always be there for her, but I'm her Jen, not her Mommy.
Her Mother is very active in her life. She takes her to dance classes and such. Her Mother and I get along for the most part. She isn't someone I'd ever choose to be friends with... but we are friendly to each other and can talk and such.
My DP's Mother and I had a chat last night... and she says most of his ideas stem from his Father. His parents split when he was pretty young and his Dad remarried a few times and his Mom remarried once. His Step-Dad was pretty abusive with his discipline techniques and DP never really bonded with him and never thought of him as a Father figure ever. They barely get along now...
His Dad always raised his kids seperate than his step-kids... all his marriages his wife had her kids and he had his ... they never came together as a true family.
I'm the one pushing for us all coming together as a family. Because I know one day DP and I will have a child together, and I WILL NOT raise a split household... DSD will be raised with my children and I will do my very best to make sure she never feels like an outsider and that she is part of the family, because SHE IS.
DP is slowly adjusting to this... because of how he grew up, it must be challenging for him to think differently.
His Mom fully agrees with me and thinks it the best for us to be a family together. She thinks a lot of her son's insecurities come from how his Dad raised him and the splitness of their homes with his various step-kids.
Anyway... his Mom thinks it isn't right to admonish a child for calling someone Mommy on their own either. Her grandkids (DP's sister's kids) call her Mommy sometimes and she doesn't correct them. She has a custody agreement to see them once a week and one weekend a month because her daughter tried to cut off her seeing them all together because she was mad at her.
DP's Mom agrees I should be called something... she suggested Mimi... which I have always liked, even though I have heard most commonly used with some children calling their grandmother, but DSD doesn't have any grandmother's with that nickname, so I think it would be okay...
I just am not sure DP will go for it...
Any suggestions on how to talk to him about this? Last time I mentioned anything about it, it turned into a big fight.