dd (3yo) started her first day away from me last monday at montessori. she has never been away from me since birth, not for more than two hours which happened twice in 3 years... i was expecting a total meltdown when saying that i had to leave...
well.... the directess was there to greet her and she did, and then i said "ok, mummy will be back later to pick you up"... her face scrunched up (and i thought "uh oh, here it comes") and then un-scrunched... then dd said "ok. bye mummy!" and walked off with the directess.
no tears (believe me, i checked - i think i asked all the teachers there about a thousand times for the next 20 minutes), no clinging.... the next day was the same, except this time she pretty much skipped her way in. she doesn't even look back once she goes past those gates. no tears to date, no hesitation... we tell her that tomorrow she has school again and she says "yay".
ummm, what did i do wrong in my 3 years of parenting? aren't kids meant to scream bloody murder the second thier parents leave them at school, especially the ones that have been at home with thier mum since birth? i mean, i am very relieved that she wasn't upset, i probably would have cried with her and kept waiting outside the gates... but i can't help but feel that something is amiss? i have never ever heard of a child that didn't cry first day. dd has always been the type to run off (even in public) and do what she wants to do at that moment without much hesitation from our part unless it was un-safe (roads) or would cause damage to someones property... we tried our best to raise her in the CC way.. is this CC at work, or is my kid just really un-attached? she does have a huge smile when she sees me waiting at the gate and runs to me excitedly. i'm confused....
well.... the directess was there to greet her and she did, and then i said "ok, mummy will be back later to pick you up"... her face scrunched up (and i thought "uh oh, here it comes") and then un-scrunched... then dd said "ok. bye mummy!" and walked off with the directess.
no tears (believe me, i checked - i think i asked all the teachers there about a thousand times for the next 20 minutes), no clinging.... the next day was the same, except this time she pretty much skipped her way in. she doesn't even look back once she goes past those gates. no tears to date, no hesitation... we tell her that tomorrow she has school again and she says "yay".
ummm, what did i do wrong in my 3 years of parenting? aren't kids meant to scream bloody murder the second thier parents leave them at school, especially the ones that have been at home with thier mum since birth? i mean, i am very relieved that she wasn't upset, i probably would have cried with her and kept waiting outside the gates... but i can't help but feel that something is amiss? i have never ever heard of a child that didn't cry first day. dd has always been the type to run off (even in public) and do what she wants to do at that moment without much hesitation from our part unless it was un-safe (roads) or would cause damage to someones property... we tried our best to raise her in the CC way.. is this CC at work, or is my kid just really un-attached? she does have a huge smile when she sees me waiting at the gate and runs to me excitedly. i'm confused....
My 2 year old DD is being raised exactly the same (obviously), but I know that she would run into a classroom and never look back. She probably wouldn't even let me get out the "bye, love you, be back later." In fact, when she comes with me to get 3 year old DD at school, she wants SO badly to pick a job. I think I've sent the wrong child to school. 
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