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post #21 of 167
Yes, it is a Suave commercial and I love it!
post #22 of 167
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Originally Posted by Amys1st View Post
I shower every morning at 7am before dh goes to work. Have always. We awake at 6-6:15am and have coffee together and the paper. He showers, then I do. Takes the girls downstairs and has breakfast with them. I get dressed and put on makeup everyday as I have since the 7th grade. Not made up crazy but basic makeup. I do not wear gym shoes unless I am power walking. I wear boots or shoes w a heel on them. Nicer jeans or black pants and a shirt, no sweatshirts out of the house. I would have worn this "business casual" while working outside of my house. I have to or I will feel frumpy. I also have on lipgloss or lipstick always. Even if its just Burts bee lip shimmer.

It helps plenty!! You also get treated better by anyone and everyone when you look better. I have no idea why!
this is what i mean, i wish i had the motivation to do this but i just dont. i also feel that i am treated better when i dont look like a frumpy house wife. i mean at least i can dress better and not in sweat pants you know.
post #23 of 167
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Originally Posted by Ellen Griswold View Post
I find that looking more put together actually helps me to accomplish more. If I get up and put on a little makeup, brush my hair, and put on "real" clothes, then I feel like I can get to work on the rest of the house. On mornings that I don't get dressed quickly, I find myself not getting anything done until noon. Also, if I don't wear my makeup during the day (I am one pale mama) it depresses me every time I pass a mirror - like during one of my hundred trips to the bathroom. My sister with kids the same age as mine, thinks I'm nuts for doing this everyday, but it is 5 minutes and it makes all the difference to me.
My friend thinks this way as well, i am the opposite, i feel like why get dressed and pretty i am just going to sweat and clean anyway so i do nothing. but then if i have to leave the house i regret it.
post #24 of 167
I was feeling really bad, but I just went on vacation and spent some $$ on maternity clothes. More money than I have ever spent in 1 store in my life (discounting my wedding dress). I feel better now. I have decent looking clothes. Nothing fancy but not sweats. I still don't put make up on, but I don't need it.
post #25 of 167
Me too.
If you look at the pic of me in my siggy...I do NOT look like that right now. That's pre-baby #2. I still have weight to lose and my face is broken out (pregnancy always does that to me) but from my experience with my last post partum look-like-hell, it will get better. My face will clear up and the weight will come off which will equal less make up and nice clothes which will equal happier me!
post #26 of 167
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Me too.
If you look at the pic of me in my siggy...I do NOT look like that right now. That's pre-baby #2. I still have weight to lose and my face is broken out (pregnancy always does that to me) but from my experience with my last post partum look-like-hell, it will get better. My face will clear up and the weight will come off which will equal less make up and nice clothes which will equal happier me!
Just wanted to say that you are beautiful and you have a beautiful family.
post #27 of 167
I seriously feel (and look) like I have aged 10 years since I started having children and my oldest is not even 5 yet! On more than one occasion people have thought my MIL and I were sisters and she is 23 years older than me. : I really do need to care more about my appearance but I have lost my motivation. Makeup is expensive and I don't want to "waste" it by just being home with my kids. And all day long I get food and snot all over my clothes. I didn't even realize that I was always using my clothes to wipe noses until my kids started wiping their boogers on my shirt! They thought that is what they were supposed to do. It is embarrassing if someone comes to the door and I rarely wear a bra. Wow, I am depressing myself. I really need to make some changes. I also hate "wasting" my good clothes around the house since no one sees them and they get dirty. I like to save them for when I go out, which isn't very often.
post #28 of 167
When I first became a SAHM, I gave myself "casual Fridays". The rest of the week, I made a point of being put together, wearing regular clothes, and getting my "chores" (laundry, dinner, etc) done. Friday was the only day I let myself wear sweats and I didn't have to do any cooking or cleaning. We had leftovers or ordered out. It really helped me feel "normal" most of the week and look forward to Friday for my "lazy" day. When Friday came around, those cozy clothes felt even better and it gave me and DD time to really reconnect after the sometimes chaos the rest of the week.
Now I'm used to being a SAHM and don't need such "rules". But it helped give me some structure in the beginning.
post #29 of 167
even my husbands friends talk about all the cool outfits i USED to wear
post #30 of 167
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Originally Posted by hellyaellen
all the cool outfits i USED to wear
I hear that also! We are cleaning out our basement. The other day, I threw out all of my old thigh highs and an old garter belt (that I wore once on our wedding day). He pulled them out of the garbage bag, brought them upstairs, and very sadly said "you're never going to wear these again?". He looked so crushed!

Like I could even fit one foot in that thigh high these days! And even if I did put them on, it would be a frightening sight!
post #31 of 167
I feel almost hopeless that I will ever look great again...50 extra lbs is whats killing me. I did henna my hair the other day. I need to buy clothes and bras that fit me!! Not happenin' right now. Thank goodness my kids "love my fat belly" I am hoping this spring will be my" spring back" to me!!
post #32 of 167
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Originally Posted by diamond lil View Post
Just wanted to say that you are beautiful and you have a beautiful family.
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Thanks!
post #33 of 167
It's pretty funny how relative this is.

I have never work makeup, and with the exception of jobs where I was provided a uniform, I have worn jeans and tees every day since I was 18.

Yet even I feel frumpy occasionally. (though in my case I think it's because of a massive weight gain that surprises me every time I look in the mirror) I tried to get over this by doing something that was unnatural to me (wearing makeup and more in-fashion clothes), but it made me feel self-conscious and the clothes were itchy. (nothing puts off a pulled together look if you're constantly needing to rub doorframes to scratch your back and unconsciously are scratching at your neck and boobs in public.)

However, at the suggestion of a kind friend I updated my skincare routine from nuttin' honey to a cleanser and moisturizer morning and night. And I went to Lane Bryant and explained myself and the very nice cute ladies there picked out some (comfy!!!) new tees and fitted me for jeans (and they played peekaboo while I was trying stuff on with the kids in the triple stroller parked by the mirrors in the dressing room area). I hadn't bought new clothes in like 4 years at that point.

I find I feel worse now if I haven't washed my face and put on moisturizer. Why? I dunno. I don't think I look better to other people, certainly (though I'm not totally hideous or anything). No one is rubbing my (soft n silky!) cheeks! But it feels refreshing to me. I am pretty comfortable not dressing up though. The jeans and tees slob driving the beat up Civic may be a microsoftie millionaire! So people tend to treat everyone the same. There are a lot of cute burb moms of kids in my daughters K class (most of the kids that go to her class come from the mcmansion neighborhood), but they're all sweet and nice and don't seem to care what I wear.

I think sometimes doing something just a step beyond the usual WITHOUT going whole hog with something you're not going to keep up (for me, this is facial care routine and a few pairs of updated jeans vs. becoming Mary Kay and fitted blouses and skirts) can really give you an internal boost.
post #34 of 167
I'm old. Having kids made me look haggard and old. No amount of makeup can make me look the way I did before I had babies.

I'm at pre-pregnancy weight but have saggy flaccid breasts. They used to be so cute. I appreciate them for how they have nourished my babies so beautifully, but if I could afford a breast lift I'd get one in a minute after DD2 weans.

I'm invisible now. Even if I dress nicely when I go out. I never appreciated how much it meant to be youthful and pretty until I wasn't anymore.

I love my kids and would die for them but I do regret losing my looks for them. I guess I'm vain.
post #35 of 167
I live in sweats. I wear a bun or pony tail. When I return to work I will just wear scrubs. For this reason I have very limited real clothes. I wear crocs, or sneakers. Sometimes hiking boots. I don't wear make-up other than lip balm. I am addicted to it. I look frumpy. I still have 12 lbs to loose. I do shower/wash hair daily, brush my teeth and hair regularly so I don't look gross or anything. I never smell bad. I just never look "done".
post #36 of 167
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Originally Posted by chinaKat View Post
I'm old. Having kids made me look haggard and old. No amount of makeup can make me look the way I did before I had babies.

I'm invisible now. Even if I dress nicely when I go out. I never appreciated how much it meant to be youthful and pretty until I wasn't anymore.

I love my kids and would die for them but I do regret losing my looks for them. I guess I'm vain.
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I seriously feel (and look) like I have aged 10 years since I started having children and my oldest is not even 5 yet!
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DS saw our wedding picture and asked me, "Who's that girl with Dada??" It's only been 7 years!!

I haven't changed anything I do - I've always been a jeans and T shirt type, no makeup, shower 3x a week. You know, the Nature Girl look. The problem is SLEEP DEPRIVATION. And weight gain.

Sometimes I catch a glimpse of myself and have to do a double-take. I don't even recognize myself anymore.

On the other hand, if I was any hotter I'd just have to fight off DH more than I do already.
post #37 of 167
I'm pretty sure having children causes brain damage, too. I used to be smart. Now I can't even remember my own phone number.
post #38 of 167
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Originally Posted by gottaknit View Post
I'm pretty sure having children causes brain damage, too. I used to be smart. Now I can't even remember my own phone number.
: Me too. :
post #39 of 167
this is a great idea. I don't even get to shower everyday. I need to make that a goal!

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Originally Posted by zoedeansmom View Post
When I first became a SAHM, I gave myself "casual Fridays". The rest of the week, I made a point of being put together, wearing regular clothes, and getting my "chores" (laundry, dinner, etc) done. Friday was the only day I let myself wear sweats and I didn't have to do any cooking or cleaning. We had leftovers or ordered out. It really helped me feel "normal" most of the week and look forward to Friday for my "lazy" day. When Friday came around, those cozy clothes felt even better and it gave me and DD time to really reconnect after the sometimes chaos the rest of the week.
Now I'm used to being a SAHM and don't need such "rules". But it helped give me some structure in the beginning.
post #40 of 167
Spanx!

I bought my first pair of Spanx yesterday and it holds things in a bit under my clothes.
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