Originally Posted by delphiniumpansy
Also, wanted to point out that plenty of working moms nurse for many months, even years, with the help of bottles. So again, bottles are not guaranteed to threaten the breastfeeding relationship and to say so is needlessly alarmist, I believe.
Alarmist pretty much sums it up.
Two things spring to my mind on this:
First, I personally know way, way more babies who refuse bottles than those who got a bottle too early and refused to nurse. Mine among them. Nervous about the stories of nipple confusion, I waited too long. I see that "pumping and crying about what I've done" story and raise it a "listening to my child cry as the sitter tried to get her to take a bottle."
Second, I also know women who, knowing they were going back to work, decided that nursing/pumping wasn't worth it, because
they'd heard all the alarmist stories about how breastfed babies won't take the bottle at all. "He'll need to take a bottle when I go back to work, and they say breastfed babies won't take bottles."
The all-or-nothing tactic isn't very helpful for the many, many women who know that they cannot rely on nothing but personally being the only one who can feed their child, and only from the breast, on demand, for a year.