What time does your 13 yr old go to bed? - Page 2

[mommaof3boz]

We are homeschoolers so...I have no idea when he goes to bed. My dh and I work opposite shifts so that someone is here with them 24/7 and work with them on school. However, since dh works 3-11 and I work 7-4 they can go to bed as late as they want and get up as late as they want. I go to bed at 10 with 7 yr old lol.

[Ms. Mom]

My 13 yo ds and my 10 yo dd get ready for bed around 7:30. We usually read for 20 min. and chat a bit, but all electronics are off after 7:30. They head up to bed between 8:00 - 9:00 depending on how the night goes and how they're feeling. Ds does not fall asleep well, so he may be up half the night reading or playing guitar - as long as it's a quiet activity. If his sleep is really bad, he may crawl into bed with me after 1:00 am. Dd usually falls asleep as soon as her head hits the pillow, but she'll occasionally wake and end up in my bed too.

[TattooedMommy]

When my oldest was 13 she went to bed at 9pm on school nights/ at her own discretion on nonschool nights.

[allgirls]

My 13 year old is generally in her room at 9pm. She can stay awake as long as she wants but the lights have to be off and the tv/music off at 9;30 because usually her sisters are in bed and they will wake up with any noise at all. So she has to be very very quiet.

she is usually in bed at 9:30 asleep. She is already talking about her earlier bed time when she goes to highschool next year and has to get up earlier.

I have spent a lot of talking with her and she agrees it's silly to stay awake just because she's older if she knows she is tired the next day. We all go to bed fairly early except for tonight. My 4 year old had a nap and is still away at 11pm.

[Jenlaana]

My son would (and has) been up until the sun rises, when he has had his choice. We just bumped his bedtime from 9 to 10 (he's 13) during the week, and no bedtimes on Fri/Sat nights. The only agreement is that he goes into his room at 9ish. He has his books, video games, tv and toys in there though so its not like a "bedtime" but just a time for him to cool down and start to slow down, and for his stepdad and I to get some downtime as well. We kind of all retreat to our ends of the house once our 2 yr old goes to bed at 8:30pm.

I don't care so much about actual bedtimes as I do my son getting enough sleep (hence the weeknight only bedtimes), and my getting some kidfree time in order to relax before I pass out as well.

[love2all]

All of my kids, ages 12, 9, alomost 4, go to bed between 8 and 9- lights out by 9- go up earlier if you want to read.
On the weekends- 10-11- but they rarely make it this late.....

[UUMom]

My 14 and 15 yr olds go to bed early, before 10, usually by 9, unless American Idol is pushed up an hour.

This is their natural pattern. Even on weekends. One is hs'd, one goes to school.

[Canadianmommax3]

my son will be 13 in a month, he usually goes around 10:00-10:30,
he gets up on time in the morning so i see no problem when he goes to bed.

My parents use to set an early bedtime for me and i would lay there for hours, or sneak and read! Hated it!

[mommy68]

My 13 yr old goes to bed anywhere from 8:30-9:30 pm. He goes in his room when the rest of us go to bed and he watches t.v. or reads and goes to sleep when he's ready usually. We have only one rule and that is that he has to be quiet. He also has to wake up between 6am-6:30am in the morning. He is homeschooled.

[Kenziesmom]

13 yo dd goes to bed at 9:00 on school nights, weekends she goes to bed whenever.

[mama_ani]

Our house rule is "in your room by 9:00pm, asleep when you are ready."

Oldest (13 in August) usually goes to sleep around 11pm.

[kay4]

My 13 is in her room by 9 and then can read or whatever till about 9:30 or so. She has to get up about 6:30 in order to get ready for school

[SJane01]

I dont mean to offend anyone, but its very shocking to learn that these tweens / early teens are actually getting ready for bed and going with it at 7:30 or such.

[Mama Dragon]

Midnight-1am...doing so has taught her to go to bed when she's tired, ie, when she's up earlier in the morning, she puts herself to bed at 10pm.

[nd_deadhead]

Bed time is completely irrelevant unless one includes wake up time. The thing we have always stressed in our house is whether or not you are getting enough sleep.

Our twin boys (13, in 8th grade) go to bed around 10, though if one of them is tired, he will go to bed earlier. They have to get up around 6:30 on Wednesdays, for chamber orchestra at 7:15; Monday and Friday they have to get up at 7, for orchestra at 7:45. Tuesdays and Thursdays they don't have to be at school until 8:30, but they get up at about the same time on those days. I think it's very important to keep a pretty consistent schedule all week.

My sons usually stay up a little later on weekends, but not a lot, and they don't usually sleep too late on weekend mornings.

At one point they argued about 10 bed time, and I explained that if they consistently got up before the alarm, that would show that they were getting enough sleep, and could stay up later. Since they usually need to be awakened in the morning, they understand that they need all the sleep they're getting.

They stay up later - and sleep later - in the summer, when they don't have a schedule.

[Danielle1973]

My 13 yo goes to bed at 10 pm, there are days when she decides to go to bed much earlier and days she fights me tooth and nail on it

[xixstar]

almost 13 here and it's 8:30pm for bed. From age 10 or so, it was 9:00pm for bed, but middle school starts early and we found that she was not waking up early enough for her 7am bus with the 9pm time, so it got upped.

Don't get any flack about it, but she never remembers herself and I get tired of reminding her. Having her manage it herself would be nice, but if I make sure she goes to be on time, she makes sure she gets up (I'd rather not have to be responsible for that, especially being tired and pregnant right now).

[EStraiton]

My 14 year old goes to bed at 9 pm on school nights - weekends usually 10ish unless she goes to a sleepover or event.

[Jennyfur]

Our boy/girl twins (13 and in 8th grade) have a weeknight bedtime of 9:30 p.m. However, there are some nights when homework takes hours, and sometimes lights don't go out until closer to 10:00.

On the weekend, we like them to be in bed around 11:00. However, if they're in the middle of a movie, we're not going to push it. If they're having a sleepover, we don't really set a bedtime, but around 1:00 or so we'll ask them to get ready to settle down.

[doctorjen]

I don't enforce a bedtime for my 13 yr old anymore. She has to be up by about 6:45 to make the bus most mornings, and the deal is as long as she gets herself up, she can decide her own bedtime. She's nearly always in bed by 10, sometimes earlier if she's tired. On weekends she stays up if she has no where to be in the morning (in the winter she swims on swim team and quite a few Saturdays involve a 5 am trip to a pool somewhere.) I have not had to wake her up once this school year - she sets her alarm and is up and dressed of her own accord every day. She does like to stay up late and sleep late when she has the opportunity, and she has the opportunity rarely enough that we don't bug her if she gets to stay up to 2 am playing Rock Band with her brother home from college and then needs to sleep until noon. She's my second child and so far I'm shooting for them all to be doing their own bedtime by middle school. My next child is 10 and going to middle school this fall. We are still encouraging him to go to bed at night (by 9-9:30) but he can read in bed. I still wake him in the morning, too, since I drive him to school. He is looking forward to getting himself up this fall.