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post #21 of 88
I think it is great.
post #22 of 88
We love the nude beach. We stopped going because the kids said they didn't like it anymore. I miss it and do try and get a kid-free day here and there to visit. It the kids were good with it, we'd still go as a family. The clothing-optional beach by us has an area that is traiditionally the family area. I found most of the kids over toddler-age kept their bathingsuits on anyway.

I find the vibe to be much much much less sexualized at the nude beach than the "regular" beach---which is quite the meat-market. Could be because the regular beach is pretty young-person heavy and the nude beach is mostly older, partnered people and young children.
post #23 of 88
Nope. I wouldn't.
post #24 of 88
Family-oriented nude beaches? Sounds like heaven for pedophiles.
post #25 of 88
I would freakin love too. Where is one? I wanna go like right now.
post #26 of 88
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Family-oriented nude beaches? Sounds like heaven for pedophiles.
post #27 of 88
due to my faith i would have to say no to this! i do not have kids yet but i can tell you right now it would not fly with DH or i!
post #28 of 88
My (sincere) question is, how do you know that everyone at the beach has the same family-oriented mindset that you do? If I had that guarrantee, I would be there with the fam turning cartwheels. But because I've lived my 26 years in a very clothed culture, it would take me a while to stop being suspicious of half of the people there....

I know that sounds judgemental, but I'm being torn both ways on the issue: really wanting to ditch the wedgie-prone swimsuits but protect my family from people who go with the wrong idea.
post #29 of 88
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My (sincere) question is, how do you know that everyone at the beach has the same family-oriented mindset that you do?
That's just not something I would worry about. You can't control other people's thoughts, and you'd (hopefully) be watching your kids well enough to notice if someone approached them in an inappropriate way. It's not like any beach is a safe place for kids to just wander off.
post #30 of 88
If your DS is truly fine with it then why not? I'd just make sure he knows that it's fine if he changes his mind.
What I like about nude beaches is that people in general are more respectful. No one is going to come and sit down right next to you, or try to hit on you, or stare at you. There aren't large groups of teenagers blasting music or getting drunk. There is really nothing sexual about it, naked bodies are less sexual than those in sexy swimsuits, imo. People are there because they like to be naked on a beach and in the sea.

I've been to many and have never seen anything inappropriate. I doubt a pedophile would spend much time at a place where children are sure to be accompanied by their parents. Regular beaches have a better chance of being frequented by kids who are there with a group or have been dropped off.

However, I have never been to a nude beach in the U.S. so if it's different there I don't know. I would imagine Brazil to be more like Europe as far as nude beaches are concerned.
post #31 of 88
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Family-oriented nude beaches? Sounds like heaven for pedophiles.
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My (sincere) question is, how do you know that everyone at the beach has the same family-oriented mindset that you do? If I had that guarrantee, I would be there with the fam turning cartwheels.
All I have heard and read about pedophiles says they are the kinds of people trying to pass off as as normal as possible. They are much more likely to be at a "regular" beach and wanting to see their victims as mainstream children in swimsuits. Also, most pedophiles are men and men who are interested in less innocent ways are quite obvious at a nude beach (nudge, nudge).

There could be pedophiles anywhere (and, again, statistically the predators are not strangers). I cannot control how people in public see my child. I can control how my children feel about their bodies, what they think of bodies and how I teach them to carry and care for themselves. I can teach them to be safe, to respect their bodies but not to fear their world. And I think if they enjoy safe public nudity, that can be a powerful lesson taught in a really fun place. Also, as a fat mama who bf'd 3 babies, there is just nothing like swimming naked and letting the big boobies float! My back never felt so good!
post #32 of 88
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All I have heard and read about pedophiles says they are the kinds of people trying to pass off as as normal as possible. They are much more likely to be at a "regular" beach and wanting to see their victims as mainstream children in swimsuits. Also, most pedophiles are men and men who are interested in less innocent ways are quite obvious at a nude beach (nudge, nudge).

There could be pedophiles anywhere (and, again, statistically the predators are not strangers). I cannot control how people in public see my child. I can control how my children feel about their bodies, what they think of bodies and how I teach them to carry and care for themselves. I can teach them to be safe, to respect their bodies but not to fear their world. And I think if they enjoy safe public nudity, that can be a powerful lesson taught in a really fun place. Also, as a fat mama who bf'd 3 babies, there is just nothing like swimming naked and letting the big boobies float! My back never felt so good!
Well said.

I just have a problem with the way people put the onus on potential victims to change their behaviour and what they say, wear and do in order to not attract the 'wrong' kind of attention. Reminds me of that old 'she was asking for it because she was wearing a short skirt and flirting' defense for rape.
post #33 of 88
I would love to go if there were one within driving distance. My dh is very modest, but I am so not modest. My kids were raised to be comfy naked, but my current dh is not their dad and when we started to live together, he was very worried that someone would get the wrong idea about something. It's sad that our culture has so oversexualized nudity. That being said, in the summer when we got two trackin' into the forests (northwestern Michigan) and stop at a river with a decent little beach the kids strip down and take a swim.
post #34 of 88
Absolutely!! I woul dlove to go!!!
post #35 of 88
No biggie. My Dh would never and I am not sure about Ds. Dd and I would be cool being around nude people, but I have no clue if we'd go nude. Maybe? It just depends. I have zero problems with nudity in and of itself. It's not dirty, it's not shameful, it's not immoral.

(Now if someone has a faith requirement the prevents mixed nudity or whatever, I get it. I'm not trying to bash that. )
post #36 of 88
We would go. I would never ask or require that our child actually be nude at a nude beach though. If they want to, great, if not, fine. We are active Christians, and I really see non-sexualized nudity as a perfectly acceptable thing. In many ways, I think it promotes a sense of acceptance of your own body, and normalizes the human body. Our bodies are beautiful, useful things. There is a line between normal nudity and provocative nudity though.

Swimming naked rocks though. Swimsuits never stay put in the right places!

I model, nude, for life drawing classes. I love the fact that these classes are looking for "life". Life involves the stretch marks left on my breast by my daughter, or the cellulite on my bum, the weird bruise on my thigh, the pimple on my chin. Sitting for these classes has really empowered me to take possesion of my body. It's mine, it works. Neither DH nor I has any problems with the modeling. But, it's not something I advertise with most of our Christian friends. I don't hide it though, and it came out in a small group one day, and I will never forget the looks I good. Horror, revulsion, I felt like they thought I was the devil's tool. It was horrible. I have no problem with people who aren't comfortable with their *own* nudity, but I think it's really unfortunate that people can't conceive of nudity as anything other than "dirty". Maybe that's more of a reflection on society at large than people specifically.

Anyway, have a wonderful vacation!

Katia
post #37 of 88
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I don't have a teenage boy, but I'm pretty sure it's not the nudity that "tempts them to lust." It's those raging hormones and that insatiable urge to procreate that does it. Seems to me that problem exists whether your at the beach or not. (hee hee)
I can't argue with that. Thinking back to my teens, there were a fair number of boys who spent a lot of energy and creative thinking on getting girls out of their clothes....so it's pretty obvious they were already "tempted to lust" before the girls got naked, yk? Crazy hormones.
post #38 of 88
I keep thinking of being nude and getting sand in places where sand should never go. lol

Seriously, I don't think we'd go. No real religious reason or anything, I wouldn't be comfy going nude in front of strangers and I don't think hubby would be either. But to each their own.
post #39 of 88
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From my understanding, however its based upon appropriate dress for worship. Jesus was a Jew and he laid aside all garments at the last supper.
During the last supper, but not at the table, Jesus humbled himself before his disaples and did a cermonial foot washing. For which he (behind closed doors with men only) disrobed (outer clothing) and tied a towel around his waist. After washing each man's feet, he dried them with the cloth around his waist. He did this as a servant would.
In my opinion (one of the reasons) he did this to show that being a good leader means to serve others.

See bible quote below: (John 13:2-5)
2The evening meal was being served, and the devil had already prompted Judas Iscariot, son of Simon, to betray Jesus. 3Jesus knew that the Father had put all things under his power, and that he had come from God and was returning to God; 4so he got up from the meal, took off his outer clothing, and wrapped a towel around his waist. 5After that, he poured water into a basin and began to wash his disciples' feet, drying them with the towel that was wrapped around him.

In the book of 1 Timothy and 1 Corinthians, the author Paul does say that women should dress modesty... there are old testament references too, but I don't know them off of the top of my head.

As for naked baptism... I don't protest that it may have happened. In biblical times most were baptized in rivers or lakes or other large bodies of water. I would guess since most people back then didn't have a closet full of clothes the would shed at least their outer garments. There is not one reference to this in the bible however.

I would have to guess based on biblical principals that clothes would only be removed to a point of modesty if the opposite sex was in attendance.

I didn't want to de-rail the thread from it's original topic (which to answer, I wouldn't go to a nude beach, but I'm sure your not surprised )... but since your the OP, I figure it's still okay.

I hope that helped answer your questions, if not feel free to respond here or PM me
post #40 of 88
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Would your family do such?
Hell no :
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