Fixing Circ Adhesions???? - Page 2

[Frankly Speaking]

Originally Posted by zjandosmom

I had NO idea adhesions could and do occur. Why why why don't they tell you this when before the do the procedure. Why why why did I let my dh talk me into with my first 2. ohh the regret.

You have to realize that the vast majority of male circumcisions are done by OB/GYNs who are specialists in the female genitalia and reproductive system. (1) They have little reason to become familiar with male genitalia. (2) Their only function for a male is to cut him up as soon as he is born. (3) They never get to see the end results of what they have done. (4) They don't see all the problems they cause. (5) Because they don't hear of the problems, they assume all of their little patients are problem free. (6) For them to educate parents of all the issues would take a considerable time with each parent and they get paid on a flat rate basis. The less time they take with each patient, the more money they make. (7) Many have a great fear that if they say anything negative about circumcision, they will lose patients who pay their salaries, thus you get information that really doesn't tell you anything. They try very hard to present a neutral face and that means confusing information or no information at all. (8) Finally, they see meatal stenosis, adhesions, etc. as very minor problems that they can address with surgery and think all is well. They just don't understand how mothers agonize about these problems.

Understand??? If so, I betcha don't like it!


Frank

[zjandosmom]

actually, makes me feel quite sick. I educated myself on all areas of birthing and read many books on taking care of children, attended LL meetings, etc. I/we did not enter parenting lightly, yet we failed on this one seemingly simple area. Those parents who 'get it' with their first I am so jealous. Again, so glad ds3 is 'whole'.

Ds2's bridge appears pretty thin so I am thinking (hoping) the cream will allow him to detach it. I'll let you all know if it works.

GinaRae - I hope you are able to get the answers/help you need. Offering a cyber hug.

As far as contacting a lawyer....that is just not something I had thought of and really we are not big believers in suing. I am just not sure it's something I want to persue. Maybe we'll change our minds later, but it has been 7 1/2 years!

[Frankly Speaking]

Originally Posted by zjandosmom

actually, makes me feel quite sick. I educated myself on all areas of birthing and read many books on taking care of children, attended LL meetings, etc. I/we did not enter parenting lightly, yet we failed on this one seemingly simple area. Those parents who 'get it' with their first I am so jealous. Again, so glad ds3 is 'whole'.

It's not surprising at all. When all you have been exposed to in men and boys is the circumcised penis and with all the myths about circumcision preventing problems instead of causing them and when the doctor is standing there ready to do it, it is not unusual that you would not see any red flags.

Ds2's bridge appears pretty thin so I am thinking (hoping) the cream will allow him to detach it. I'll let you all know if it works.

Please do! I will be very interested in hearing if it works. BTW, how long did the doctor tell you to use it?

As far as contacting a lawyer....that is just not something I had thought of and really we are not big believers in suing. I am just not sure it's something I want to persue. Maybe we'll change our minds later, but it has been 7 1/2 years!

At 7.5 years, most likely the statute of limitations has run out for you anyway. Most states have limits of 2 - 3 years that legal action can be brought. But, your son will have a shot at that doctor when he turns 18. Again, he will have a statute of limitations limiting the time he has to bring suit, usually 2 - 3 years from his 18th birthday. If he should want to bring action, it should start well before his 18th birthday, maybe 6 months before his birthday.



Frank

[Tagihaj]

hey I know what you guys are talking about. I'm not a mother, I'm 15 and i have a skin bridge like the ones in the link previously posted. and i've always been embarrassed and always had a low self esteem around the girls and i dont want my shyness to continue. Is there any way that you can get rid of skin bridges without consulting your parents? like a homemade cream, or anything. i would hate to resort to cutting it. The width of the bridge is little bigger than a centimeter. theres no white puss or anything coming out, its actually clean and theres no pain when i get erections (the adhesion is too big for it stretch out and hurt) but i want to get rid of it asap.

[pigpokey]

Originally Posted by Frankly Speaking

At 7.5 years, most likely the statute of limitations has run out for you anyway. Most states have limits of 2 - 3 years that legal action can be brought. But, your son will have a shot at that doctor when he turns 18. Again, he will have a statute of limitations limiting the time he has to bring suit, usually 2 - 3 years from his 18th birthday. If he should want to bring action, it should start well before his 18th birthday, maybe 6 months before his birthday.

I believe statute does not start running until the medical malpractice is discovered. I believe it is 2 years from that point. Call Llewellyn.

[zjandosmom]

Frankly Speaking - thanks so much for all your info and insight. The Dr rec the cream for 3 weeks. I have talked to my son about using it and what it's for. He's fine with doing that and not the least bit shy about it which is nice.

You are also right about being only exposed to circed men. At the time of ds1's birth I really didn't know any men who were not circed. I HATED sending him off for the procedure but thought it was the only choice. So glad people are raising awareness about this issue now.

I noticed from your username you are in Ga.....we are too!

GinaRae- I really fell as though I have 'stoled' your thread and I am sorry! But thanks for letting me tag along. I really needed the info.

[Frankly Speaking]

Originally Posted by Tagihaj

hey I know what you guys are talking about. I'm not a mother, I'm 15 and i have a skin bridge like the ones in the link previously posted. and i've always been embarrassed and always had a low self esteem around the girls and i dont want my shyness to continue. Is there any way that you can get rid of skin bridges without consulting your parents? like a homemade cream, or anything. i would hate to resort to cutting it. The width of the bridge is little bigger than a centimeter. theres no white puss or anything coming out, its actually clean and theres no pain when i get erections (the adhesion is too big for it stretch out and hurt) but i want to get rid of it asap.

You shouldn't have low self esteem about this. This was not your fault and obviously, you are not the only one to have it. The really important part is about 2.5' to 3' above your penis.

But, I can understand you wanting to correct this. However, this is not a do-it-yourself project. It will require professional medical intervention in an in-office procedure. It will not be painful, fully effective anesthetics are available and aftercare pain management is available for the asking. The healing time will be a couple of weeks and it will not hinder you unless you are already sexually active.

This is not a sexual issue but a health and body image issue. As such, you should not be hesitant to ask your parents for help any more than you should be hesitant to ask their help for any other health issue. However, if you just can't get past it, less than 3 years is really a short time until you can handle it in complete confidentiality when you turn 18.

The issue can be addressed with your parents. I would address it something as follows:

"Mom and Dad, There is a problem with my penis and through the internet, I've discovered there is a simple medical solution. I want your help in taking care of this.

The problem is called a skin bridge. It is where my circumcision wound healed to the head of my penis. The solution is to have it surgically released. This is an in-office (outpatient) procedure. My understanding is that this is best performed by a cosmetic plastic surgeon and I would like to set up an appointment for an examination."

What are they going to say? "Of course son. We'll check it out tomorrow" I suspect.

Of course, I hope you realize this won't cure your shyness about girls. They are such intimidating creatures and for good reason! LOL! I think all men have some shyness about women. You'll only replace the reason for your shyness with some other reason.


Frank

[Frankly Speaking]

Originally Posted by pigpokey

I believe statute does not start running until the medical malpractice is discovered. I believe it is 2 years from that point. Call Llewellyn.

You are correct in the case of a few states. Thanks for bringing that up! In most cases and states, the statute of limitations begins for the parents with the circumcision and for the men at age 18. In the states that have a discovery clause, legal action can begin anytime up to a period after discovery.

Frank

[Frankly Speaking]

Originally Posted by zjandosmom

Frankly Speaking - I noticed from your username you are in Ga.....we are too!

Yup, I've got a home in the North Atlanta area and another about an hour north of Atlanta. Lately, it seems I'm spending all my time at the country place. Atlanta traffic is such a hassle and everything seems to take such a drive!

I'm working on another issue that is totally unrelated to circumcision and is Georgia specific. I'm sending you a PM about it. Any other Georgians here?


Frank

[GinaRae]

Originally Posted by zjandosmom

GinaRae- I really fell as though I have 'stoled' your thread and I am sorry! But thanks for letting me tag along. I really needed the info.

I am SO not the kind to worry about that, believe me!! Good luck.