(O/T - I love the way that thread title sounds. 
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Like I said in my other thread asking for resources, I'm just starting to think about discipline now that my son is 12 months old. I know that he doesn't understand much, so the easiest way to avoid having to say "No" is just to avoid those situations. Consequently, our house is pretty much completely baby-proofed, and we don't tend to need to use "No" a lot.
But in situations where he does need to be told "no" and then redirected, I'm running into a problem. My son seems to be very determined/strong-willed, and redirection doesn't seem to be working. For example, he loves to pull my DH's glasses off his face. This really isn't okay, since the frames are thin wire and could be bent or broken easily. And since DH's glasses are VERY expensive (he's legally blind and we pay quite a lot of money to have special lenses made that are functional and yet not terribly thick), DS breaking them is not something that I want to deal with. So if he does pull off DH's glasses, DH or I will tell him something like "No, you can't play with Daddy's glasses - you might break them. But here's a [insert toy or whatever] that would be lots of fun to play with!" and then we'll hand him something else he can play with and try to get him interested in that. I even bought him a little pair of plastic glasses, thinking that might be fun.
But he'll scream and throw whatever I give him across the room, and continue to cry and reach for DH's glasses.
: This goes on until he either wears himself out (usually several minutes of screaming, crying, kicking, etc) or DH leaves the room or I take DS to another room. Which I guess is okay, but I thought the redirection thing would work better (as in he would stop being upset because he had something else to focus his attention on). I'm getting a little frustrated, even though I understand that it's hard to be so small and have a hard time communicating your wants and feelings. 
This is just one example - there are many other situations like this in which I try to redirect his attention and he just seems to get more frustrated. Any advice? Or is my little guy just very determined, so I just need to learn to expect and deal with tantrums when he is disappointed?
Thanks for any input - I'm new to this GD thing, and there's a lot I have to learn.
)Like I said in my other thread asking for resources, I'm just starting to think about discipline now that my son is 12 months old. I know that he doesn't understand much, so the easiest way to avoid having to say "No" is just to avoid those situations. Consequently, our house is pretty much completely baby-proofed, and we don't tend to need to use "No" a lot.
But in situations where he does need to be told "no" and then redirected, I'm running into a problem. My son seems to be very determined/strong-willed, and redirection doesn't seem to be working. For example, he loves to pull my DH's glasses off his face. This really isn't okay, since the frames are thin wire and could be bent or broken easily. And since DH's glasses are VERY expensive (he's legally blind and we pay quite a lot of money to have special lenses made that are functional and yet not terribly thick), DS breaking them is not something that I want to deal with. So if he does pull off DH's glasses, DH or I will tell him something like "No, you can't play with Daddy's glasses - you might break them. But here's a [insert toy or whatever] that would be lots of fun to play with!" and then we'll hand him something else he can play with and try to get him interested in that. I even bought him a little pair of plastic glasses, thinking that might be fun.
But he'll scream and throw whatever I give him across the room, and continue to cry and reach for DH's glasses.
: This goes on until he either wears himself out (usually several minutes of screaming, crying, kicking, etc) or DH leaves the room or I take DS to another room. Which I guess is okay, but I thought the redirection thing would work better (as in he would stop being upset because he had something else to focus his attention on). I'm getting a little frustrated, even though I understand that it's hard to be so small and have a hard time communicating your wants and feelings. This is just one example - there are many other situations like this in which I try to redirect his attention and he just seems to get more frustrated. Any advice? Or is my little guy just very determined, so I just need to learn to expect and deal with tantrums when he is disappointed?
Thanks for any input - I'm new to this GD thing, and there's a lot I have to learn.
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