DS just turned 12.
I am finding this transition from childhodd to teenhood really hard. I am at almost constant loggerheads with my son. The dominant issue seems to be that he wants to do stuff I do not want him to do - so the age old quest for independance, I guess.
He is also belligerent and very resistant to change. We actually got into an argument yesterday because I cleaned the gaming stuff. For years (yup, years) it has lived on the floor or on the TV. Stuff on the TV falls if the pile gets too high, stuff gets lost, stuff gets stepped. Oh, and it looks like crap, and it is in the family living room. So I created a slide out tray at the bottom of the TV stand, and put the gaming stuff there. It is very handy, and safer. Well, DS blew up. Claimed I was a cleaning fanatic, that he was not going to put the stuff there, and that I wanted everything my way. He said I thought I was a "Queen". I laughed at this one, but it was a sort of laugh-cry - he hurt my feelings, yk?
And the interesting thing - even though DH is right there with me with any changes we make, DS anger is directed at me. He has even said, "DH is only doing it because you want to" - so papa is off the hook. I am the designated bad guy.....It is upsetting.
Totally off topic, but I had been toying with the idea of HS him next year. At this moment in time (and yes, I know, things can change) I think we would really get on each others nerves if this happenned. Ds has been on March break - and is returning to school today, and I am glad! We both need the change of pace.
Kathy (the venting)
I am finding this transition from childhodd to teenhood really hard. I am at almost constant loggerheads with my son. The dominant issue seems to be that he wants to do stuff I do not want him to do - so the age old quest for independance, I guess.
He is also belligerent and very resistant to change. We actually got into an argument yesterday because I cleaned the gaming stuff. For years (yup, years) it has lived on the floor or on the TV. Stuff on the TV falls if the pile gets too high, stuff gets lost, stuff gets stepped. Oh, and it looks like crap, and it is in the family living room. So I created a slide out tray at the bottom of the TV stand, and put the gaming stuff there. It is very handy, and safer. Well, DS blew up. Claimed I was a cleaning fanatic, that he was not going to put the stuff there, and that I wanted everything my way. He said I thought I was a "Queen". I laughed at this one, but it was a sort of laugh-cry - he hurt my feelings, yk?
And the interesting thing - even though DH is right there with me with any changes we make, DS anger is directed at me. He has even said, "DH is only doing it because you want to" - so papa is off the hook. I am the designated bad guy.....It is upsetting.
Totally off topic, but I had been toying with the idea of HS him next year. At this moment in time (and yes, I know, things can change) I think we would really get on each others nerves if this happenned. Ds has been on March break - and is returning to school today, and I am glad! We both need the change of pace.
Kathy (the venting)
It can be tough sometimes. For us and for them.
