Tara, because you replied, I can only assume that you do want someone to comment.
You are in a very difficult situation, but the bottom line is, you are the mother and you have every legal and moral right to stand up to protect your son. It truely doesn't matter if your hubby refuses to talk to you about it or learn anything about it. You wouldn't allow him to have your newborn daughter's labia and clitoral hood surgically removed. You wouldn't allow him to cut off any other perfectly healthy body part on your child. You, yourself, know that it is wrong... that's education enough for both of you
|I'm hoping since the OB we chose is pretty darn crunchy, she'll bring it up and offer him education. Coming from a professional, he would listen I think. *sigh* It's all very sad.
Absolutely bring it up with the OB, in private, that you want your husband to hear the facts from a professional. If your OB is an ethical doctor (I know many un-crunchy people that are against circ), she will gladly tell him the truth. And the truth is, it is an unnecessary cosmetic procedure with major risks and over-estimated benifits. And that if your son wants to make the choice to cosmetically alter his body as an adult, he will be given adequate pain relief and follow up care. And will not have an open wound seeped in urine and feces... That's the big thing for me. It cannot be "better" to have an open wound in a diaper than as an adult who can care for it himself.
And, have you SEEN how it is done? I've only looked at still photos and that was more than enough for me. And to know that my Dh went through that as a baby is very, very sad...
And no, I'm not trying to lecture or offer help, I am trying to lend support with what is a horrifying situation to be in.