Originally Posted by Kim919
Oh Boy, the issue just got worse in my house. We told my boyfriend's parents last night, and the first thing his father said when we told him we were having a home birth was "what if its a boy?" I didn't actually understand what he was saying, but my boyfriend apparently picked up on it. He said "the midwife will do it right there" i said "No she wont" then I realized we were gearing up for a huge fight. His parents were absolutly dead set on having a circ, and when we got home and re-opened the argument he is dead set on it also. When it comes right down to the wire.... who makes the decision? Do both parents have to sign off? We are not married, do i get the final decision?
PS: If my child at any point decides himself that HE wants this cosmetic procedure, I have no problem with allowing him to make that choice.
As far as I am concerned, a mother's #1 priority is protecting her children. If anyone, including the child's father, is threatening to cause harm, then my opinion is that the mother must prevent that. Of course, I don't advocate just saying "its my way or the highway" but I do suggest presenting the information and attempting to change opinions via intelligence; however, thats not always possible.
I had this conversation w/in a few dates, so my partner knows exactly how I feel. I wish everyone would discuss this prior to dating to prevent these types of disagreements...but its like parenthood..there will be some disagreements that need to be worked out....its a matter of how its done I guess.
And really...i can find NO logical reason for circ'ing....so bowing to a man and having a child's penis mutilated just perpetuates the "men over women" idea, at least for me. You can agree to allow your son to make his own decision when he's an adult. If he decides to have his penis mutilated, then he can do it.
I do have to add that my ds's intact penis is so much easier to deal w/ than circ'd ones (and yes, unfortunately I know from experience).