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post #41 of 60
How does she feel about the scheduled c-section with such a normal size baby? Does she see how wrong Dr was?
post #42 of 60
Thread Starter 
mommyminer - what's sad is, she doesn't. She seems very satisfied with the whole experience and totally trusting that doc did the right thing. She's just an acquaintance, so I haven't really said anything. And since everyone knows how pro-homebirth I am, they don't really ask my opinion
post #43 of 60
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Originally Posted by KLM99 View Post
Update from original poster - mom decided to schedule a c-section 2 weeks before her due date because doctor had convinced her baby was going to be too big. Baby weighed in at 7 lbs. 5 oz.
Man that is so infuriating! Three of my four babies were bigger than that. My last (I tend to carry a lot of water making my babies seem larger) my midwife thought was going to be 9+ pounds. I was overdue and she still didn't bat an eyelash about my ability to birth a large baby. He was 8 pounds 2 ounces btw.
post #44 of 60
I hate how OBs think they know exactly how big the baby is!! They act as if they KNOW when it is a wild guess (at best). My cousin was induced THREE weeks early because "the baby has stopped growing and they want him out NOW". Give me a break! So he was born at 5.5 lbs and a month later he is just over 6.5 lbs. Soooo tiny and having problems nursing (shocking). How would they have any idea that he "stopped growing"? 5.5 lbs 3 weeks before edd is normal!

Sorry for the tangent, I just went to see my cousin today and I am still mad about it!
post #45 of 60
Ugh, all these new responses make me SO glad I'm choosing homebirth this time! You couldn't PAY me to deal with this crap in a hospital!

It both infuriates and depresses me that so many women just willingly accept this BS as gospel because it's coming from a doctor's mouth. Don't ANY of them think, "hey, this seems a little odd?" It just makes my heart hurt that nobody seems to think for themselves at all anymore!
post #46 of 60
How about passing along the link to this book:

Obstetric Myths Versus Research Realities: A Guide to the Medical Literature (Paperback)

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post #47 of 60
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The other end of the spectrum is the natural birthing moms who lament not having a long enough labor to get in their birth tubs. LOL!
That's me!
post #48 of 60


That's sad.
post #49 of 60
My mom told me last weekend that when she had me (20 yrs ago) that she went for a regular appointment at noon 12 days past her due date and they said her cervix was still high & tight. Back then they didn't worry so much, and told her to go home and relax it would be at least another week. I was born at 11:45 that night. (11hrs 45min later) Naturally, vaginally, with no tears or medication. (I was her first and she says it wasn't even that incredibly painful. I was 8lbs 1oz.) I'm due w/ #1 in Oct & I'm praying that I have the same luck!

I'm so sorry for your friend! She needs to do some research.
post #50 of 60
Stories like this really get to me.

I hate when things like this happen and the mother is totally oblivious to how she was just mutilated and endangered both hers and her child's life for absolutely nothing. Many people have that tendency to look back and think it was all ok. They are then the people who tell their daughters that giving birth without an epidural is just crazy or that a c-section is no big deal.

Medicine is an institution and an institution, by definition, is concerned with preserving itself and designed to create problems that only it can solve. Doctors are not superior beings with some information the average person cannot grasp. Blindly listening what a doctor says is just as ridiculous as trusting a random mechanic to tell you what work as to be done on your car when he knows he will get to perform it. It just does not make any sense.

I have been thinking about the kind of training OBs get in medical school and am wondering why we are not pushing for more change there. If students were forced to learn about natural birth and other stuff like that, they might not become such patriarchal, condescending jerks.
post #51 of 60
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Originally Posted by soso-lynn View Post

Medicine is an institution and an institution, by definition, is concerned with preserving itself and designed to create problems that only it can solve. Doctors are not superior beings with some information the average person cannot grasp. Blindly listening what a doctor says is just as ridiculous as trusting a random mechanic to tell you what work as to be done on your car when he knows he will get to perform it. It just does not make any sense.
Good analogy! It's not much of a stretch to change the white coat to a blue work shirt...you still have the customer nodding blindly while they say, "Yeah, your flange-gripper was blown, so that had to be replaced, and oh, I also tightened and greased your alpha-sliders, and it's a good thing I did, because they were about to break and that would have had me replacing your entire clincher-board. Here's a bill for $8,570."
post #52 of 60
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Originally Posted by KLM99 View Post
Update from original poster - mom decided to schedule a c-section 2 weeks before her due date because doctor had convinced her baby was going to be too big. Baby weighed in at 7 lbs. 5 oz.
I wish doctors would have to sign contracts guaranteeing that the baby is over 4500 grams or they don't get paid for the c-section. Bet you the c-section rate would drop by at least 10% from that alone. Bet more moms would realize just how they'd been lied to, too.
post #53 of 60
Score one for the docs and birth as a business. I hope that someday, like some mamas on here, they will realize what has happened and "see the light" so to speak.
post #54 of 60
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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan View Post
I wish doctors would have to sign contracts guaranteeing that the baby is over 4500 grams or they don't get paid for the c-section. Bet you the c-section rate would drop by at least 10% from that alone. Bet more moms would realize just how they'd been lied to, too.
Yep!
post #55 of 60
It's funny, they make us sign consent forms, but I am sure they would refuse to sing anything themselves.
post #56 of 60
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Originally Posted by Kidzaplenty View Post
It's funny, they make us sign consent forms, but I am sure they would refuse to sing anything themselves.
Of course! Like the "bad-mommy" forms you have to sign to refuse vit k, and vaccines, where you take full responsibility for any negative outcome. Would the same doctor requiring you to sign that sign him/herself a form taking responsibility for and damage caused by treatment? No.
post #57 of 60
I have to jump in and agree with everyone about pretty much everything that's been said. The really sad thing to me is when I know midwives (hospital-based, though even one hb mw whom I hired for about a week had a similar attitude about big babies) who act the same way! My last son was "big", according to my mw. At about 37 weeks she thought he was already 8 lbs! She wanted me to have an ultrasound to get him measured but I put her off as long as I could. I was afraid they would "risk me out" of their practice if I didn't get the u/s. I finally had it after 38 weeks. He measured something like 8#5oz or so. He was 8 1/2 lbs at birth, 24 hours later. I went into labor on my own and delivered him without a problem, but even my midwife threatened me with pitocin or c/s when I "stalled" at 5-6 cm for 2 whole hours! Gasp!

I do have to point out that, in my humble opinion, the most important thing about the original topic is that the mother has a positive view of her experience. If she doesn't have any emotional trauma associated with the birth and the baby is doing okay, I'd say she dodged a bullet. No need to create stress in her life by showing her why she ought to feel betrayed or violated by an over-zealous ob. I'm sure it'll be a few months or years before she even gets pregnant again. That would be a better time to talk about how things could be different this time around, if you ask me.
post #58 of 60
Thread Starter 
Yet another mom-to-be I know was induced two weeks before her due date because baby "was going to be too big." Mom agreed because she "didn't want a c-section." Mom was induced, 12 hours later still hadn't felt much, so they upped the pitocin, mom started feeling contractions, begged for an epidural. Hours later, baby still wasn't descending. Doctor said baby's not coming out, c-section. He couldn't get the baby out of the incision, so they apparently had to suction him out (I haven't even heard that this could happen...). Baby was all bruised up and (drumroll please!) 7.5 lbs.

I'm getting less mad and more and more just sad every time I hear one of these.
post #59 of 60
Oh geez! This stuff makes me crazy! It's SO against logic and against everything about a healthy pregnancy and birth. I have a friend who was just induced 10 days EARLY because her doctor told her it would be too big to deliver naturally. She's a young, fit woman with a completely normal pregnancy too. All I can say is I am so so grateful I have been able to be very informed in my pregnancy decisions and have not had to deal with things like that.
post #60 of 60
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Originally Posted by KLM99 View Post
He couldn't get the baby out of the incision, so they apparently had to suction him out (I haven't even heard that this could happen...). Baby was all bruised up and (drumroll please!) 7.5 lbs.
As a former L&D nurse I was SHOCKED at the number of vacuum extractions done during a C-section. Dr.'s tend to try to cut small incisions and then try to vacuum extract the baby out...but then also end up just ripping the skin, muscle, fascia, and uterus too when they finally realize they need more room to get those "HUGE" 7-8lb babies out.....it SICKENED me to see the trauma on a mother's body, and gives me nightmares to think about my poor uterus being ripped like a piece of meat during my C-section (that was 100% medically necessary AND a result of an induction).
Alicia
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