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Originally Posted by twin_mama  teach them how to just love on each other and play nicely together
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sorry, I'm not laughing at you. It's just the laughter of a broken-down mama who went though this and then decided (duh) after they were older to do it all over again. So, here I am on my second pair of boys spaced 2.5yrs apart and there is really no trick to making them stop fight, imo. Some helpful books would be
Siblings Without Rivalry and Playful Parenting. Some tips are:
keep them in separate spaces, stay outdoors as much as possible, keep toys out that are easy to share or (blocks, playdough for instance, as opposed to the one beloved toy lawnmower - when you can have duplicates it's better - two blue balls of dough, two round cookie cutters), and this might not be popular but imo if no one is getting injured and the baby isn't being victimized, you can let them be and see if they resolve things without your interference. It might take a few times before the learn to do that without you running right in.
I think it's futile, though, to work on generating compassion and maturity they simply don't have developmentally.
