"You can't nurse her baby!" - Page 3

[mommyswenn]

That is so so so cool!

Too bad about the idiot who came in at the end, though.

My BFF was unable to breastfeed either of her kids due to no supply (seriously -- she was maxed out on domperidone to the point she was getting blurred vision and headaches -- this was after she had already tried fenugreek, blessed thistle, etc.)

I offered to pump for her (and totally would have, supply is not something I've ever had to worry about), but her dh would not go for it.

She totally knows the benefits of breastfeeding and was heartbroken that she was unable to nurse her two boys.

I wish her dh could have gotten past his issues... :

[bri276]

I think it's great that you did that, and you were NOT rude at all- how dare she a) insinuate that your milk is a diseased substance, if it were why would you feed it to your OWN baby let alone someone else's, and b) second guess the judgment of the baby's mother, who knows you and is the only one besides the father who can decide whether it was safe or not. The ignorance is sad, but the open commenting is beyond uncalled for.

I am so happy his mom was open minded enough to realize it was a good idea, and that he latched right on!! at least his little tummy got a few sips of the good stuff.

[goodearthmama]

Wow, so cool! I agree that she has an open mind to let you bf her son.

I nursed my sister's dd several times and would have no problem doing the same for any of my bf's who needed it. My sis has had so many problems bfing and is eping, so while she was still bfing I nursed and now I even pump for her when I am visiting to get her "up" a bottle. No big deal.

[kavamamakava]

Originally Posted by TattoMomK

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I brought up this subject at my local mom's group one day. I was saying I wouldn't mind nursing someone else's child and I wouldn't mind someone nursing mine. The general consensus among the new or first time mom's is that they wouldn't mind nursing someone else's child, but they wouldn't want their LO's to receive someone else's milk. Interesting, and I see their point, and they are new at this, so their whole lives are centered around their baby. Me, I have four kids, and my life is centered around all four of them, and my husband, not just the baby. I figured if I were to say: end up in the hospital tomorrow in a coma, I would rather a lactating friend take my breastfed baby and nurse him, rather than DH having to give him formula.

Anyway, thanks for sharing your positive story with us, and good for your lactivism in public!

I'm one of those who wouldn't mind someone else nursing my child but dont' really want to nurse someone else's child. I'm really picky about latch and also don't like my supply schedule to be messed with. I would hate to be triggered to make more milk because another baby nursed and then end up being engorged and my baby didn't feel like nursing. My sisters and sister-in-law have nursed my kids. I nursed my sister-in-law's daughter once when she was 8 months old.

[Tinker]

Good for you!

I probably would have looked at her said I'll bet my friend knows alot more about my health and habits than you do about the cow your baby's milk came from. But I'm just a smart mouth that way.

[mytwogirls]

Almost happened again!

My same friend came over to my house just the other day and stayed longer than planned and didn't bring any formula with her so AGAIN I offered to feed him and she said, "Gee I don't want this to be a habit for you or for my son" and then she left to go get formula. A teeny tiny part of me wanted to sneak some milk into him while she was gone, but I knew I needed to respect my friend's wishes and let her do her own thing. Too bad, I feel guilty nursing mine in front of her son because I think he really enjoyed it. I would LOVE to nurse other's babies, it just makes me feel so useful.

[Tinker]

Originally Posted by mytwogirls

My same friend came over to my house just the other day and stayed longer than planned and didn't bring any formula with her so AGAIN I offered to feed him and she said, "Gee I don't want this to be a habit for you or for my son" and then she left to go get formula. A teeny tiny part of me wanted to sneak some milk into him while she was gone, but I knew I needed to respect my friend's wishes and let her do her own thing. Too bad, I feel guilty nursing mine in front of her son because I think he really enjoyed it. I would LOVE to nurse other's babies, it just makes me feel so useful.

Sounds like she might be a little uncomfortable or unsure about what happened. Maybe you could talk with her about it and ease her worries or whatever she might be feeling.

[Septagram]

I nursed a baby at a LLL meeting once.. Her mama was in class and her babysitter/wetnurse wasn't so wet.. So I offered since I was totally full and DS1 wasn't hungry and they took me up on it.
That little baby ate like she was starving.

[VijayOwens]

My mom and my sister took my youngest to the playground without me when she was a toddler. V got hot and tired and thirsty and climbed into this lady's lap (an Australian woman in her 60s who was there with her grandkids) and "assumed the position" and kind of waited for the lady to lift her blouse, lol.

The woman was very good natured about it (according to my mom and sister) and said that she had nursed all 5 of her kids but there hadn't been any milk there for a looong time! If my sister was lactating (she is 18 and hasn't had any kids yet) I would have been fine with her nursing my DD.

I have often thought wouldn't an experienced nurser help a mom who is struggling with supply? I had supply issues with my first and pumping never helped. But maybe a few sessions a day with a good nurser during those crucial early weeks might have?

-Vijay

[dimibella]

I probably would've just laughed. That lady is nuts. Soo awesome for you and your friend though. That is truly just awesome.

[heatherweh]

Neat! I always have to fight the urge to nurse other peoples babies, like when they get a boo-boo or are just beside themselves. It just feels like this natural reaction to clutch them to your breast for comfort!

[ChinaDoll]

That's awesome! I've nursed my nephew at times when his Mom didn't bring formula (she nursed him til 6 months, and she was ok with my nursing him occasionally).