out of control kids at the Y...mine - Page 2

[laoxinat]

Originally Posted by Nanu

As a mom of 6, I have had many days like that! What I have learned is that people are more concerned with MY behavior than my child's. I try to remind myself that this is a great opportunity for me to demonstrate gentle parenting.

Gentle parenting does not necessarily produce well-behaved children. Its aim is to produce well-behaved adults. That extends to my children, but it starts with me.

When my child throws a fit in public (as sometimes happens) I don't let myself feel or act mortified. This is a child being a child. Now it's time to show people who a mature, loving adult responds.

I know this sounds like I only care what others think, which isn't entirely the case. Above all, I want to do right by my child. But modeling good parenting is also important to me.

Bless you, mama! THIS is what I have the most difficult time getting across to parents who just want the behavior to stop - at whatever cost. Bless you for saying this so eloquently!

[Magella]

Originally Posted by Nanu

Gentle parenting does not necessarily produce well-behaved children. Its aim is to produce well-behaved adults.

Well said!!!

I needed to be reminded of this today. Thank you for saying it so well. Sometimes it's easy to forget that growing up is a (rather lengthy) process.

[j924]

Walking through Disney, I found myself repeating "Keep moving nothing to see here" when I felt the eyes on my brood. It worked very well. I think I am going to start using it everywhere.

[stickywicket67]

Originally Posted by Nanu

As a mom of 6, I have had many days like that! What I have learned is that people are more concerned with MY behavior than my child's. I try to remind myself that this is a great opportunity for me to demonstrate gentle parenting.

Gentle parenting does not necessarily produce well-behaved children. Its aim is to produce well-behaved adults. That extends to my children, but it starts with me.

When my child throws a fit in public (as sometimes happens) I don't let myself feel or act mortified. This is a child being a child. Now it's time to show people who a mature, loving adult responds.

I know this sounds like I only care what others think, which isn't entirely the case. Above all, I want to do right by my child. But modeling good parenting is also important to me.

so true!
my lo is only 6 months old but we often go to the park and meet up with moms of older children. my son loves watching the older kids run around and play and i get to socialize with more experienced mamas. this is something that i've noticed about these groups- most mom's seem more concerned with how the other mothers are going to perceive their child and by extension their parenting (their ego) than actually teaching their children lessons for navigating the world. i find myself pondering the different mother's reactions more than the child's behavior. it's made me to look at myself and question myself about how prepared i am to handle the ups and downs of parenting. i'm really working on developing the kind of grace and balance you've described. nanu-thank you, thank you, thank you for the inspiration.