intact infant care help

[moma justice]

so my dad (i just found out!) is intact and was concerned that i am not cleaning my intact 4 month son well enough. i bath him in the tub with me almost daily. i change his cloth diapers promptly and wipe the tip of his penis with a wet clean wipe.
thats it.
my dad says he retracts his to clean it and i should do it for ds.
what is true?
i have gently spread the opening to wipe it and that is it.

thanks!
(this was the most penis talk i have ever had with my dad and he only called it a "dinky")lol

[Fellow Traveler]

Originally Posted by moma justice

so my dad (i just found out!) is intact and was concerned that i am not cleaning my intact 4 month son well enough. i bath him in the tub with me almost daily. i change his cloth diapers promptly and wipe the tip of his penis with a wet clean wipe.
thats it.
my dad says he retracts his to clean it and i should do it for ds.
what is true?
i have gently spread the opening to wipe it and that is it.

thanks!
(this was the most penis talk i have ever had with my dad and he only called it a "dinky")lol

Hello moma justice! Congratulations on your son and leaving him intact. He'll thanks you one day. Now all you have to do is wipe it like a finger there is nothing else to it. Here is some info that you might want to read:

http://www.babyboy.info/index.html

http://www.nocirc.org/publish/4pam.pdf
Here is the AAP intact care guide.

And Dr. Fleiss's article: protecting your intact son.

You should also check out the sticky about protecting your intact son above. Especially be wary of doctors who try and retract at physicals and other care givers. Ask any questions if you need more resources.

[glongley]

Your Dad's foreskin is retractable. Your son's is not. It will be someday, and then he can learn to retract and rinse underneath it himself. This may not be for many years, maybe not even till he is a teen. Your Dad may not know about the normal process of development in which the foreskin is tightly fused to the glans in the early years of life.

You only need to wash off the outside. Do not try to forcibly retract. It can cause a host of problems. I wouldn't even try to "gently" spread the opening. Trying to open it up to clean is likely only to introduce dirt INTO it. The sphincter-like snugness of the the foreskin's muscle tone is going to keep most foreign material out, and the passage of urine many times a day will keep the passage flushed out in any case. If you've got a major poop blowout that's gotten smooshed in there, a good soak in the tub with some swishing should take care of it.

Here are some other useful links for you (and your Dad):
http://www.nocirc.org/publish/6pam.pdf
http://www.cirp.org/library/normal/

I just found out a few months ago that my 87-year-old father is intact. It is a good feeling to know that our dads were spared the trauma of circumcision as babies, and have had the chance to have a naturally fully-functioning sex life. But it doesn't mean that they know that much about the anatomy, development, or care of the foreskin. Your Dad might appreciate learning some more about it.

Gillian

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

: The only one to ever retract your ds's penis is your ds.

Please read the Warning sticky and the Definition of retraction & why it is BAD sticky.

[pigpokey]

I want to congratulate you too!

I would not gently spread the opening and wipe, you might push germs up in there or irritate. It is self cleaning at this point.

[Claire and Boys]

Yes, as an adult your dad is retractible, in order for you to retract your ds you would cause him pain as his foreskin is currently fused to the glans, much as a kitten's eyelids are fused together at birth. the only person to retract is your ds when he is older and able to do it.