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post #41 of 48
3/21/08 at 8:17pm
Crooked or yellow teeth I would have fixed. Acne scars, yes. Any scars, yes. Noticeable deformaties, yes. She doesnt like her nose or wants bigger/smaller breasts or liposuction? No. A large and dark facial mole? I don't know. I would hate to have part of a person removed for vanity reasons, but I do thing teasing sucks. So if it really bothered them, I guess so. They can choose to wax whatever they want, I don't care. Perm or straighten or color their hair, I don't care. Its only hair. Ears that stick out, can't they just grow longer hair if they don't like them? I guess if they were real bad I would if they wanted it. But not if they just stuck out a little.
post #42 of 48
3/21/08 at 8:23pm
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Originally Posted by Jannah5 View Post
I was faced with this when DS was born on 9.6.07. DS was born with 2 completely fused toes on his right foot. If the fusion doesn't affect his walking than I have decided not to do surgery. You might think, who's going to see his toes? Well, as a Muslim, one requirement is to wash the feet for prayer. So, a lot of boys/men will see his feet. I'm just going to teach him very early that having fused toes is COOL.
I have fused toes. Not completely but the same toes on both feet. I never knew it was a "birth defect" until I was an adult. My mom said she never even thought of it as a problem until a doctor told her it was.
post #43 of 48
3/21/08 at 11:32pm
Yes I would. Like many others have said, teasing can cause long term psychological issues and if I can prevent that for my child, then I will.

My sister had terrible acne as a teenager and my parents did everything they could to help her, but nothing worked. I think the treatments were started too late. She suffered awful teasing to the point where she ended up switching schools.
post #44 of 48
3/22/08 at 2:58pm
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Originally Posted by LynnS6 View Post
Ds was too young when we had the surgery for him to be able to give a yes/no. He didn't notice, didn't care. But, knowing him as I do now, he WOULD have been very embarrassed by the time he was 5 or 6, so I'm glad we did.
First of all, he is ADORABLE!

Second... not that you care lol but I think you totally made the right choice. I think that sometimes the right time to do something like that is BEFORE the teasing starts. Very little kids never notice stuff like that. It's great it hasn't had time to impact his self-esteem AND/OR his body image.
post #45 of 48
3/22/08 at 3:07pm
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Originally Posted by GooeyRN View Post
Crooked or yellow teeth I would have fixed. Acne scars, yes. Any scars, yes. Noticeable deformaties, yes. She doesnt like her nose or wants bigger/smaller breasts or liposuction? No.

This thread has me SERIOUSLY thinking. Because GooeyRN I completely 100% agree with what you just posted here. But I'm kind of wondering what the difference is.

Let's take tiny breasts. Hmmm no bad example because surgery could impact BFing. Okay let's take a large nose. We're talking a REALLY big nose on a child (and I actually think this is an important thing) for whom noses of that shape are not part of one's genetic and/or cultural heritage or identify. A nose like that can make the entire face less attractive on such a child, much less a grown woman. And talk about teasing. Teasing with a capital T. You cannot hide a nose. So let's say your 16 year-old dd is desperate for a nose job... not to look like Britney Spears but just to look "normal". Do you do it? I'd say sure. But yes, technically it's cosmetic surgery. And it's a "nose job" (insert eye rolling and snarky comments here).
post #46 of 48
3/22/08 at 3:40pm
A 16 yo who wants cosmetic surgery is an entirely different scenario. I thought this thread was about parents choosing cosmetic surgery for children.

If my teen wanted something medically addressed, I would heavily consider their desires.

If my child had a difference (with potential teasing) that could be corrected without general anesthesia, I would be more likely to choose it.
post #47 of 48
3/22/08 at 3:54pm
Well sort of... but some people have said yes to disfigurement, but no to standard cosmetic surgery such as nose jobs and boob jobs. But you can't perform those on chlidren anyway, so I was just wondering what the difference is between correcting a deformed ear and correcting a really large nose.
post #48 of 48
3/22/08 at 11:24pm
If my dd was getting teased we would explore the non-surgical options first and then consider surgery depending on the severity of the condition and our finances.

I knew a couple of girls when I was young who had large breasts at a young age (grade school). I think it impacted how they were treated by other kids and adults. I'm not sure about surgery to reduce breast size before a child is a teenager. I'd probably want to wait until my dd was older unless it was impacting her physically (back pain).

For crooked teeth it would depend on how bad it is. My dd has slightly crooked teeth but it doesn't affect her bite. We'll probably discuss correcting it when she is older.
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