I think it's totally normal for them to look different. I'm at about 6 weeks and mine have all fallen out to some extent. some of them are still ok but a lot of them are loose. I actually took the advice from majikfaerie gave to wonderma and tied some hemp string around the loose ones. I was happily surprised yesterday when I was doing this that all my hair is still separated and trying to dread. I think the stings will help out a ton and I feel ok with them in my hair long term, unlike rubber bands.
I'm much happier today after really getting some time with my hair yesterday, lol. I am loving the freedom of having these dread babies. I am loving the craziness, the fuzziness, the whole thing!
My parents are coming next week and my mom is for sure going to get on my case. It's cool though, I'm not stressing about it this time. She's already made comments about them and I've laughed them off or just pleasently defended myself. Last time I tried dreads I let them defeat me. Not this time though. I am in a different place, a much happier more peaceful place. I am confident in my choices.
wow. long ramble. felt good though!