How do you answer "When are you due?"

[thenaturefreak]

Well if technically a healthy gestational period is from 37-42 weeks, why do we say our 40 week date when asked when are we due?

I guess this is just on my mind lately since I am now a few days over 40 weeks, but really feel like this baby is going to need another week or so. And I so do not feel "overdue" but have to catch myself constantly from saying I am "x" days past my due date. I really like this positive feeling, and know that the constant impression others have that anything past 40 weeks is overdue and hard could possibly take away the ease I am experiencing in just enjoying my pregnancy to the fullest until the right time for my baby's birth.

This may not make any sense, but I am a rambling pregnant woman late at night, and I know you will forgive me.

[Red Sonja]

I'm just keeping it kind of general, saying late July or early August, somewhere around then. For some reason it's driving some of my family members crazy not to know the exact date. Every time I talk to them they say "have they given you a due date yet?" Umm, yeah, I'm just choosing not to share it.

[tireesix]

Ok, with last baby my due date came and went and myfamily were like 'they will be inducing you soon wont they'? And I would say 'ummmmmm no I don't want an induction'.... Acouple of days later and they would say 'they won't allow you to go on much longer'? and I would say 'I will go on as long as baby needs'.......... Really, my parents wanted to visit (they live in a different country) and wanted to know a date when baby would be here...... I think my refusal to just have an induction really bothered them. Anyway, Kama arrived on her own accord nearly 3 weeks after our EDD.

My parents know my EDD this time around but they also know I birth when baby is ready, not when the hospital says and not when my parents think it should lol.......

[stormborn]

I just give a month. I think by ultrasound the date was June 26 so when people ask I say "July". With my first I made the mistake of giving a day and wow did I regret it; the phone did not. stop. ringing.:

[3cuties]

Generally -- I just say "late June".

[RoseDuperre]

I've been saying "about the second week of May". I just don't want to feel like a watched pot.

It's amazing how many moms will tell me "Don't be afraid to ask them to induce you! Insist on it!" I usually just smile & say "Mmm," unless I know them well enough to get into it with them (funny how that doesn't stop them from advising me, but whatev).

Little do they know that IF I were even seeing an OB instead of a CPM, I would fight an induction every step of the way, unless and until they could prove to me that there truly was a serious medical risk at stake! Different worlds, eh?

[Slabobbin]

My "due date" is August 5th but I always say "late July, early August" because I honestly have no idea when the baby is going to decide she is ready to come out.

[slmtoya]

When the baby gets here. (sorry I tend to be really sarcastic)

I say late September early October.

My cycles weren't regular yet since I had DS, and I wasn't charting the month we conceived so I have no idea. But babies come when they want to. The litte wheel thing my midwife used says October 4 but because I have short cycles she thinks I'll go early. DS was two weeks old.

[pazerific]

with this one, my "edd" is 7/12/08, so we've just been saying july. if anyone gets really pushy about it (like mil, "july what?") we launch into the "anywhere from 38-42wks is fair game, and since we went over with dd it's quite possible this will be a 42wk pg as well. sooo our edd is 7/12, but the entire month of july is a possibility." if that doesn't satisfy them, nothing will!

as for being "over," with dd i went 2 weeks past my edd. once i was officially "overdue", i would just say "any time now" when people would ask. we were just like stormborn--very sorry we had told anyone an actual date. the phone was ringing off the hook the entire 2 weeks i was "overdue"!

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by Red Sonja

I'm just keeping it kind of general, saying late July or early August, somewhere around then. For some reason it's driving some of my family members crazy not to know the exact date. Every time I talk to them they say "have they given you a due date yet?" Umm, yeah, I'm just choosing not to share it.

Ugh... I'm getting that exact problem now.

Especially since my SIL is super-educated on TTC stuff from her own experiences and we talked about that stuff a lot when I first started TTC so she's also asking stuff like "well, when do you think you ovulated?"

[thixle]

another vote for Late october, early november because my EDD is November 1st

[sunnymw]

My favorite word has been "Julyish"... "But don't you know an exact date?" (MIL, so she doesn't make other plans...) "Yes, anytime from the 2nd week of June to the end of July.... Julyish!"

I'm due "July 10th".. no, I'm not. I'll be "of 40 weeks gestation" on July 10th.

[PassionateWriter]

i say sometime i Oct. my EDD is 9/26 but i dont think ill go that early.

[ColwynsMommy]

In your case, I'd say "Soon" or "In a week or so."

For me, most of the time, I just say, "June" or sometimes I'll even say "late June" even though I'm actually due June 4th.

[sarahtar]

Last pregnancy, I said "April." When pressed, I either said "some time mid april" which was when I was to hit 42 weeks, or I said "why is the date that important to you?" This time, I don't tell anyone anything because we haven't told anyone yet, but I plan to keep it pretty general this time, too. I will say "late October or early November" because technically I'm due at the end of Oct, but I don't want Oct 31 to get here and people start freaking out on me.

I also really don't like to keep any actual date in MY mind, either. Last time when I went 41.5 weeks, not having that date like a "deadline" helped me have good mental health about it.

[starkyld]

I say "November," and no one has asked me to be more specific yet. If pressed, I think I'd first respond "sometime in November" and then "by November 30th" (my 40 week date is November 12). I'll be surprised if this isn't a November baby.

[Codi's Mama]

I've been giving my EDD, July 9th (Planned Parenthood's date), but also telling them that baby could actually in June, July or August. I'd much prefer just saying 'this summer', but the family wants a date.

[georgia]

I just say "sometime in ____." Wish I could tell you exactly

[ecstaticmama24]

That does make sense. I used to say, February is my birth month. Or, "It depends who you talk to", or I would just ad on a couple days to whatever the dr. said. She actually came January 25th, but was not "early" at all.

[Changed]

I'm only 12 weeks and already I'm regretting giving my family a due date. What the hell was I thinking!? I was just excited I guess... sure wish I'd kept my mouth shut. I'll be 40 weeks October 6-9th-ish I'm not sure sure. I should have just said, sometime in October.