How do you answer "When are you due?" - Page 2

[zoebird]

i don't, really. i just say "august." because that's when i'm due. well, anywhere from august 15 to sept 9, depending upon which method of counting one uses. i never had an u/s or whatever to discover an "edd."

so, i just use my own calculation, which is "august."

[yogamama2]

This is our third, and I expect to go late (last baby came at 41 weeks, 5 days) - so we started by telling everyone June, then June 15th (it's actually June 5th) - but I told my parents the real date thinking they would keep it on the down low. Nope. I heard my mom announcing it at the last family gathering. If we go for #4 EVERYONE gets the date plus 2 weeks - including my parents! Last pregnancy my aunt kept calling my father to tell him how risky it was that I was over 40 weeks - because being a medical biller at an OBGYN apparently made her an expert on birth - and scared the heck out of him. He kept asking me if I knew how dangerous it was to go late. Sigh. This time all she's said is that she is nervous for us - planning a homebirth and all. I just don't engage.

My MIL kept insisting on a actual due date as well, but I believe my husband gave her the later one. Why must people fixate on the actual date? We will be screening any and all calls starting in mid-May to discourage the whole checking up on us thing! I want everyone to get use to leaving messages and our not answering right away - plus it will be good practice for after the baby is born. One of the bad things about cell phones, people seem to think that having a cell phone means you SHOULD be available whenever they want to reach you!

Namaste.

[roadfamily6now]

i'm due OCtober 4th but I like to say, sometime in the begining of Oct.

I normally go over.

[aishy]

I tend to go early so I went with "end of May" if I were one who tended to go late I probably would have said "Mid-June" haha.

A few people have asked for the date and I just tell them im not giving it or since I have been saying end of May I give the last date in May (if they are insistant). I'm actually not sure whats on my chart w/ the midwife, LOL.

[barefootpoetry]

I just say "August."

[Xenopus]

"Late July"

If anyone insists on a date, I make a joke of it and drop it... "Well, he or she is not arriving by Fedex. So I don't have a tracking number."

or somesuch silliness...

[NatureMama3]

I say "the end of May, but I'll be happy if he's here by father's day".

[indeospero]

Originally Posted by Red Sonja

I'm just keeping it kind of general, saying late July or early August, somewhere around then. For some reason it's driving some of my family members crazy not to know the exact date. Every time I talk to them they say "have they given you a due date yet?" Umm, yeah, I'm just choosing not to share it.

This. "Oh, late April, early May."

I made the mistake of freely giving the EDD with my first dd, and in the end, even though I absolutely knew better, I got a little fixated on it myself. (Not to mention my MIL, who was calling daily "to see if [we'd] had the baby yet." Um, we'll let you know!) I think having that date in my head for all those months and repeating to people ad nauseam greatly contributed to my loss of patience at the end of the pregnancy, when I went beyond it (41.5 weeks -- quite average, really!).

So not announcing a specific date is really as much for my own emotional benefit as it is about avoiding annoying questioning toward the end.

Oh, but my poor MIL is tormented... Every conversation: "Have they given you a due date yet?!" I can't pretend it doesn't bring me just the littlest bit of pleasure. I think I may snag the pp's FedEx quip the next time she asks me.

[MamasBoys]

My EDD is wacky (between 11/12 and 11/23) so I just say "Thanksgiving"

[zoebird]

Have they given you a due date yet?!"

i would answer this with "yes." and then say, but i prefer not to share it because it is just an estimate.

[~Megan~]

I give the month and if pressed say, "Mid July. They aren't an expiration date! " That usually works.

If I were in the position of the OP, I'd probably say, "Any time."

[Kidzaplenty]

I am "due" July 24. I have told everyone, except my children, that "the baby will be here in August". Never mentioned when.

No one has pushed for a date yet. And if they do, I will just say August sometime.

[enchantedlife]

I know what you mean! I was at 38+6 when I had my son, and I was already getting the "Wow, I'm sure you're ready to pop that baby out!" comments. I always politely disagreed and said I still felt great! What is wrong with a pregnant woman enjoying those last few days/weeks, I'll never know. :roll: But this time around, I think I'll just say, "Any day now" if I go overdue.