Originally Posted by treqi
but they declined my quick "hey I bought door latches" note and have not responded to my detailed note that outlines my reasoning.... and I'm not calling about the latches I'm calling saying hey I'm out near your house would you like to go to the park or hey we're(SIL, J dd and I) going to story time and would love for you to come (MIL goes every week but wasn't going this week because FIL was working and couldn't drive her) we can pick you up at 9:30..... Or hey I know you were wanting to quit smoking here's some information on local resources....... I don't want to be accused of keeping dd from them and will continue to give them a call or drop a note every other day until I get some sort of reply......
I'm one that agrees with the idea that family is important enough to make those kinds of efforts, even if we don't like the circumstances.
Best advice I ever got from my mom was that if there is a situation you don't like you have 2 choices. If you can't live with the suituation, it's incumbant upon you to do whatever it takes to resolve it. If you CAN live with it, or aren't willing to do what it takes to resolve it, then you have to be quiet and let it alone.
Steady on girl.. The squeeky wheel gets the grease. Some people are stubborn and persnickety... but be gentle, respectful of their boundaries, patient and understanding, and I'll bet they will come around to a place where they will have some ideas for how to resolve the safetly scene there in a manner you can all live with.
It might not hurt to show some humility and own that the concern you feel is such that you were kind of intense, it wasn't your intent to offend, and that you really are waiting to hear some ideas from them...