friend thinking of circ...advice? - Page 2

[Microsoap]

Well, like you said, you know her and we don't. But I feel asking her to watch the the circumcision video isn't going to offend her. You're educating her! How can she fault you for that? And if she can't watch the video of EXACTLY what her son will go through -- extreme torture! -- Then what does that say about her (cowardly), KWIM?

And, yeah, I 100% agree circumcision should be illegal, but it's those jellyfish people who say, "I wish circumcision were illegal; Ooh, I hate having to do this to my boys (because of cultural pressure), but... *circumcise*" are the gutless sheep who want the power of choice taken away from them so they can stop something they feel they're against anyway, instead of using their backbones and saying enough is enough.... even though it's something they're legally entitled to.

I don't mean to offend some by using the term gutless sheep, but that's how I feel it breaks down to.

[caitlinlea]

I'd like to suggest she watch the video but yeah, I'm nervous. Nothing makes me more angry than moms that say "oh, I couldn't stand to be in the room for my son's circumcision -- I had to wait outside until it was over." How can they put their sons in a situation they can't bear to watch?!

OK....I will tell her where she can view the video. I haven't even watched it myself though -- I never thought for one second of circumcising my son so it wasn't something I wished to see.

[Microsoap]

I'm so thankful she has a caring friend like you! :

Some women actually don't want to do it and need just that one person -- whoever it is -- to say, "don't' do it!". Because there are the same women who end up doing it (circumcising and regretting it) and have a person later on (again, whoever it may be) saying, "yeah, I didn't think you should have done that" to have that regretful circumcising mother say, "why didn't you tell me that before??!!".

Also, there's also plenty of people here and their spouses/family/friends who have told of not even getting past the point of the video where the he boy is strapped down to the Circumstraint (the immobilizing device) and said they weren't going to circ!

[Fellow Traveler]

Originally Posted by Microsoap

I'm so thankful she has a caring friend like you! :

Some women actually don't want to do it and need just that one person -- whoever it is -- to say, "don't' do it!". Because there are the same women who end up doing it (circumcising and regretting it) and have a person later on (again, whoever it may be) saying, "yeah, I didn't think you should have done that" to have that regretful circumcising mother say, "why didn't you tell me that before??!!".

Also, there's also plenty of people here and their spouses/family/friends who have told of not even getting past the point of the video where the he boy is strapped down to the Circumstraint (the immobilizing device) and said they weren't going to circ!

True, how many times have you read something like: "I just wish someone had said something." in the a regrets post.

[cherri0196]

caitlinlea,

I would defiantly share your opinion with her, i think its a good idea to do it outside of the "group" I have a very tight knit group like that of about 15 women whom i have been talking to for 2 years,i have met them and talk to them daily. one of them is preggo and i have been sending her circ. links since day one. Guess what?? she just found out she is having a boy!! im still working on her but i am E-mailing her on my own personal time to her privately, not to the whole groups, there are 2 women on there who circ. ( 4, potentially 5 that are intact!! YAY!!) so i don't want to offend them , though we have talked about it to an extent, they gave their lame excuse's like "look like daddy" " i didn't want him to feel left out" " my hubby wanted to do it" whatever.

Anyway, my point is defiantly talk to her!!

Good luck!!

[caitlinlea]

I'm so disappointed. She decided to circumcise him. I do not understand how someone can do this to their son!!!!!!