Stupid comments - Page 2

[healthykidsinNY]

I've been lurking, but I have to speak up here!!!

First off, I can't believe how many long, long looks I've been getting. You'd think people had never seen a pregnant belly!!

I have seen two older women from my past, and both have said "Are you figuring out what is causing that yet"? I said umm, yeah, I think we're figuring it out, and DH said we're having fun figuring it out.

Then yesterday, the nurse at my doctor's office bulged her eyes at me over my 8 lb weight gain in 3 weeks, and actually said "What have you been eating??" Excuse me?? DH said all day long I eat bon-bons and ice cream. Jeepers...how 'bout checking out my swollen calves and feet lady?? I actually wanted to say "Come a little closer, and we'll see what I eat next!" :

sigh...

[limabean]

Thankfully I haven't really gotten any stupid comments this pregnancy, although I'm a little tired of the double-takes at my belly when we go out now. But last night I was talking to my aunt on the phone and she just couldn't understand why I'm not committing to attending my cousin's baby shower, an 8-hour drive from my house, 3 weeks after my due date.

[celestialdreamer]

Originally Posted by healthykidsinNY

I actually wanted to say "Come a little closer, and we'll see what I eat next!" :

I think I just burst a blood vessel laughing so hard!

[porenn]

I think it depends on who's doing the talking, because the women I work with are always teling me "WOW! You just started to pop, huh??" or "look at that big belly!" and it doesn't bother me, but if the woman I barely know in the IT department down the hall comes over and camps out at my desk for 15 minutes just to talk about how I'm feeling, I get really peeved.... Because I'm really sick of talking about this baby with people... its feels like it should be a private thing (which of course it isn't) and all i want to say is "how you you think I feel? I'm 8 months pregnant and huge!"

But I have to remember that she is only trying to be nice.

And what does bother me, even from those people I like, are comments like, "How's Violet doing today?" or "What's Violet ordering for lunch today?" or "What's Violet planning on doing this weekend?" like I'm not even there, or I've taken on an alternate personality.

[AmyMay]

OH MY GOURD. I thought my comments were bad. Nobody has referred to my sex life or inferred that I'm a whore at least. I am not sure I'd have anything to say but a punch in the face to anyone who said that to me.

I get a lot of "Girl you're about to POP!" and "Overdue, huh?" and "OMG You STILL haven't had that baby yet?" comments. No, actually, I am not about to pop, and you better hope I don't pop you. No I'm not overdue and obviously I haven't had the baby yet...I'm not due for three more weeks.

I actually had a good cry about all of the attention the other day. Feel like a walking freak show everywhere I go. I know I'm big, but people, I know you've seen a pregnant woman before. Can you NOT act like I'm Jesus Christ walking on water right in front of you? I'm done with it. Soooo over it.

I'm seriously going to gather up some witty comments and make some t shirts for 3rd trimester moms sometime.

[milosmomma]

There's a woman who works in another dept who has been seeking me out ever since she found out I was pregnant and telling me ALL about her pregnancies/deliveries/kids (ummm, I DO already have a daughter, I HAVE ridden this merry-go-round before). Her latest thing has been to tell me, everytime she sees me, "OH MY GOD, THAT BABY HAS DROPPED!!!" or "WOW, HE'S DROPPED EVEN MORE!!!"

I finally responded the other day "Yep, he's eventually going to just drop right out, huh?" I think that took care of it.

[pixiepunk]

the day i announced to one of my yoga classes that i was pg, one of my students asked - in front of the whole class - if DH and I hadn't figured out what caused that yet. So i innocently looked at her and stage-whispered "no... actually, i'm so glad you brought this up, can you explain it to me?" we all had a good laugh about it, but it was still pretty rude.

i've had loads of people ask me if it was planned.... which is really screwed up, especially since it wasn't planned. mostly i just lie and say it was because i don't really think my fertility is any of their business.

and goodness gracious i've been getting a ton of comments about how big i am, especially when i go to teach a class. i mean, i know i'm wearing spandex-y stuff so i can move properly, so it probably makes me look even bigger, but have some freakin' manners people!

and there's one girl at work who asks me *every* time i see her if i'm "done" or "ready to have that baby" - she seems genuinely shocked when i have repeatedly answered that, no, not really, i'd like some more time.

being around pregnant women makes people stupid, i think. it's like they don't know what to say.

[NaturallyPeachey]

wow. some people have a lot of nerve to make those comments!

my mother has decided to tell the entire family they moved my due date UP a week so I've gotten several phone calls and emails asking why and am I nervous and how big am I? now i know better than to tell my mom anything. i happened to mention that at my last appt. i was MEASURING a week ahead (which means nothing). I tried to tell her it means nothing but apparently she has her own interpretation/definition.

the director of my dept. at work, who like, never acknowledges any one and locks himself in his office with the door closed all day repeatedly whispers to me if we pass in the hall that he doesn't think my "pregnancy is a secret anymore, it's a little obvious now." duh, thanks for the FYI

this random girl at work who i've never said as much as a word too (i don't even think a hello) stopped me the other day and said "wow, so you are still pregnant huh? it seems like you've been pregnant forever. when are you due?" :

[lobster]

Last weekend we were at my in-law's place, and I was really uncomfortable (heartburn, cramps in my legs, etc). I said something to the extent of "Oh, I'm so sick of pregnancy", to which my FIL replied, "Well GEEZ you'd better leave yourself some space between this baby and the next, then - haven't you figured out how to avoid this stuff yet?"

EXCUSE ME!?

I'm also getting sick of all the moms at playgroup asking me, on a daily basis, when the baby's coming, how much longer, when am I going to pop, how am I feeling, how's Lynden handling everything... the answers don't change from one day to the next, so STOP ASKING.

[Grivas]

Originally Posted by splath

I just thought of another obnoxious one... I was at the airport a few months ago and the security guy looked at me and said with a smirk, "I know what you've been up to..." How freaking rude is that?

eww... that's gross