What is the worst/dumbest thing anyone has ever said to you about parenting stuff? II - Page 6

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by lisavark

This was a pregnancy comment, not a parenting one, but when I was nine months pg, my dad sent me this email:

According to CNN and a recent United Nations study, 1,600 women die in Afghanistan in every 100,000 live births. In comparison, only 12 deaths per 100,000 are recorded in the United States.

The births in Afghanistan are at home. So statistically, there is a 1.6% chance of the mother's demise during childbirth at home. In the US, the probability of mom's death during childbirth is reduced to 0.012% since most births are in hospitals. Using these data, the chance of your death during childbirth is about 100 times greater if you have the child at home rather than in hospital.

Personally, I think it makes no sense to increase the probability of your death by a factor of about 100, and I encourage you to reconsider giving birth in a suitable hospital, both for your welfare and that of your baby.

Um, yeah, because of course all those 12 women in the U.S. and all those 1,600 women in Afghan had homebirths. And of course having having wars and things in a country won't affect death rates at all either.

[CAHemmerich]

no, she def said MMR in the hospital - part of what confuzzled me.

[sunnymw]

Originally Posted by CAHemmerich

no, she def said MMR in the hospital - part of what confuzzled me.

Sorry, I was vague... I mean that yes she said MMR but was lying to you wouldn't put it past 'em.


Either way, that's some crap right there!

[RadiantMama]

Wic

Hey, I'm a little late on this one--I only check once a week or so, but inresponse to MinkaJane who said:

"I work with a pregnant woman who complained for 15 minutes about how she can't afford anything for the surprise baby and all her family is giving her all the baby stuff, then said, "I don't think I'm going to breastfeed" because everyone she knew FFed from the start and WIC pays for formula anyway."

Tell her WIC is a HUGE supporter of BFing!!!!!!! At least here in Portland they are. They want their clients to BF.

[mntnmom]

Originally Posted by CanidFL

I thought I would chime in since we are talking about babies not looking like the parents. DS does have traits from both of us but I am white and DH is black so he is tan with the best features from both of us. We were at the park one day and a random mom started talking to me and saying how cute DS was. I said thanks and continued to play with him. This is the conversation:

Her – Is he Spanish?
Me – no. I am white and My DH is black
Her – but his father is Spanish?
Me – no. My DH is black.
Her – Your DH must be mad he’s not the father. That baby is Spanish.
Me – He is the father. I’m married and DH is the father and he is black.
Her – oh so you got married first then had a baby with your husband. That isn’t normal.
Me – hmmmm (totally speechless)

I am still in awe at this conversation. It was about 3 weeks ago and I can’t stop laughing about it.

Don't take it too badly, people who haven't seen mixed babies just don't realize what a wide and wonderful variation their is in their looks. Besides, a lot of people from hispanic countries DO have some African ancestry.
Though I don't know what to make of the getting married first not being normal!?

[Jezzy]

mntnmom, where in Germany are you??

[mntnmom]

Milkybean...your family is gorgeous. I have no doubt your DS is going to grow up to be a handsome guy.
I don't see how anyone would think DH wasn't the dad! Unless they're just racist and ASSUME "brown people" are up to something.:

[FarmerCathy]

Originally Posted by mntnmom

Don't take it too badly, people who haven't seen mixed babies just don't realize what a wide and wonderful variation their is in their looks. Besides, a lot of people from hispanic countries DO have some African ancestry.
Though I don't know what to make of the getting married first not being normal!?

If you look at evolution everyone used to have dark skin. We ALL have black decendents. It's all because some of our ancestors moved to the north and needed less pigment so that we could absorb enough sunlight in our skin. If everyone knew that I think people would be a little nicer towards our dark skin cousins.

[jessica_lizette]

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[KurumiSophia]

Originally Posted by jessica_lizette

My DS is almost 4 months old, and we found out the other day that he has reflux. We're trying Zantac, and we're still working on how to give him his medicine without spitting it out.

I am also eliminating dairy from my diet for a while to see if that helps with his reflux.

Anyways, my mom was over last night when I was giving him his meds, and I had JUST finished telling her that I was going to try the no dairy thing. She was eating ice cream at the time (caramel and pecan), and saw that I was having a hard time getting DS to swallow his medicine. She offered to GIVE HIM SOME OF HER ICE CREAM to make him want to swallow his medicine! Yeah, lets give my 4 month old dairy AND nuts to make him feel better!



I think I posted a while back too that she wanted to give him some of her Mcdonalds oreo shake.

I just don't get it!

My God, that makes me want to *facepalm*

[Melly24]

My DD was two weeks old when a friend came over to visit. I handed DD to her and DD started squirming to which my friend remarks in a disapproving voice "oh shes got a mummy attachment already.." like its a bad thing!! Of course shes attached to me!

[MummaLitt]

MIL commented that DS "would be starting on solids soon".
I replied by saying that we were planning on delaying solids for awhile.

"Oh, well you know they sell baby food in the market."

[amberskyfire]

Originally Posted by eunytuny

Dh's nephew's gf just had a baby and I've been gently encouraging bf. They dont have 2 dimes to rub together so I was touting how cheap bm is and she just said "My mom said it hurts and WIC pays for all the formula anyway.

drop: That's horrible!
It hurts when I nurse, too (she latches properly, I'm just sensitive and it's still new to me) but it doesn't hurt NEARLY as bad as the lack of sleep would if I had to get up several times in the middle of the night to mix and heat formula in a bottle while my infant screams bloody murder or to have to wash those darn bottles and lug them around with me everywhere when I want to leave the house. :

I think if women were told what a hassle bottle feeding was, they might just opt to breastfeed instead if they are able to do so. I understand not being able to for different reasons, but if you CAN do it, jeez! Why make it harder on yourself?

[amberskyfire]

My husband has a 12yo DD from a previous marriage. I started dating him when she was four and he never really was attached to her because he has emotional issues (he's a great guy and I love him a lot, he's just detached - we think he might have a mild form of autism).

Well, I had planned to have an unassisted birth and practice natural parenting for the last eight years, so he knows where I stand. He always seemed fine until I had my baby three weeks ago. He was even totally supportive of me having an unassisted birth.

A few days ago, however, we went in to Wal-Mart to return a bunch of baby stuff his coworkers had bought. I had DD in a sling and she started to fuss and root. DH looked at me and said "I swear, if you whip that 'thing' (meaning my breast) out in here, I'm leaving!" I was totally shocked! Especially since we live in Hawaii and everyone here breastfeeds in public. I told him I'd never been so ashamed of him as I was in that moment
He shut up and I nursed her.

Then yesterday, I had to cook dinner so I put DD in her bouncy seat which I keep on DH's desk so he can watch her when I have to put her down for a second. He doesn't like holding her.

Anyway, she started to cry and wanted to be held. DH looked at her, then went on playing on his computer. I told him to pick her up and he looked at her like she might explode, then took one finger and poked the seat a few times so it would bounce. She continued to cry so I asked him to PLEASE pick her up. He did and she quieted right down. He walked around with her a minute, then started to jump up and down (his version of rocking which he thought was pretty funny) and I was horrified to see her little head bouncing up and down. Of course she started screaming and DH said "Oh, you have to take her now, she wants the boobie."

She doesn't want boobie! She probably thinks she's going to die. He said "no, I used to flip C up in the air all the time when she was a baby and she loved it." After the shock wore off, I told him to calm down and stop making her cry and he looked at me genuinely and said that "babies need to cry. It's good for them. When I had C, we used to just let her cry herself to sleep every night."

I was HORRIFIED and snatched DD away. Jeez! No wonder she still wets the bed!

Then he tried to give her (3 weeks old!) a cookie. I glared at him and he said "that's okay, I'll slip you the good stuff when mom's not looking."

Yeah, like I'm ever going to let him be alone with *MY* baby after all that.

I swear, he's a really sweet guy and I love him to death, I just wonder what the heck planet he came from and how his other DD ever survived past day one.

[Lizzardbits]

my second " i love my hubby" post.

Hubby ran into his ex and her mother after a long day at his job and he just wanted to get home.
Ex: Oh hey! (waves him down so he can't just walk past and not see her) Your Missus pregnant?
Hubby: (annoyed) Not anymore.
Ex: Oh that's too bad, when she loose it?
Hubby: She didn't "loose IT", she gave birth to our son in January. (trying to walk away)
Ex:You like being a dad? Those night time feeds are a b!tch, yeah?!
Hubby: Oh, she's breastfeeding so she lets me sleep at night. I love being a daddy.
Ex's mother makes a yuck face and says: Eww
Ex: you better get her to stop that and give the bub some proper bottles otherwise you will never bond especially during the night feeds!
Ex's mother thouroughly agrees: yeah stop her now!
Hubby: (stiffling urge to slap the both of them) It is what works best for our family, it is the best for my son, now I must go home to them. (turns and walks away hearing them mutter behind him)

At the end of relaying this story to me, he says" Like I am going to really listen to a woman who fobs her 2 kids off to her mother's or daycare when ever she can then turns around and brags that she can play the system to get free daycare when she doesn't work. Basically she had kids to get money and gov't housing, and I'm going to take her advice-I think NOT!!! I am so glad that you breastfeed our son and that he's well looked after."

[Onemagicmummy]

yey to your hubby

kiz

[amber913]

Just finished reading all of this and am amazed at how many people think it's acceptable to let a baby cry. Makes me feel I should be easier on my parents--they were once babies who were probably left to cry. :

[KurumiSophia]

Originally Posted by amber913

Just finished reading all of this and am amazed at how many people think it's acceptable to let a baby cry. Makes me feel I should be easier on my parents--they were once babies who were probably left to cry. :

Yep. Went to my mother's Fri. night because DH and I were fighting and I needed a break. My dad wanted to hold her because he hadn't seen her in a while and she starts screaming bloody murder. No one's handing her back to me and I'm starting to have a panic attack because a.) I'm still really twitchy about the fight DH and I had and b.) my daughter's screaming and no one's trying to comfort her.

And here my parents are talking about how it's the face I used to make when I cried at her age while she's screaming bloody murder.

I finally got her back into my arms and she calmed down so my mom starts in on me about how she needs to learn to be independent and be around other people. My Gods, she's 6m. I'm lucky if she entertains herself for 30 minutes let alone allows someone other than my MIL, DH, or myself to comfort her. *facepalm* What's sad is my brother was spouting the same crap. Yes, that's it, my 6m old will manipulate me and her being attached is unhealthy.

I love my family but, OMG, the ignorance is amazing.

[Mommy2Austin]

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[Neth Naneth]

Originally Posted by MummaLitt

MIL commented that DS "would be starting on solids soon".
I replied by saying that we were planning on delaying solids for awhile.

"Oh, well you know they sell baby food in the market."

What? Guess she thought you were delaying solids because you could not find any baby food.