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post #1161 of 1466
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Originally Posted by amberskyfire View Post
When my cousin had her baby four months after I gave birth, she told everyone she wasn't going to breastfeed him because her breasts "belong to her husband."
Okay - that one makes me ill. My breasts belong to me, with a contract lease option to any baby I have. Ick.

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She swore she would exclusively pump.

When she found out a week later that I was pumping extra milk to donate to a severely premature baby in California, she told me that she would like to have the milk instead and that I should send it to her so that SHE wouldn't have to pump anymore.



She ended up switching him to formula after two weeks.
How infuriating...and sad.
post #1162 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Storm Bride View Post
You know...that's interesting. I'd never made the connection, but I think I was like that, too. I guess dd comes by it honestly. I don't think dh is like that at all, which is probably why it annoys him a little.
DD hums, snaps, taps, sings, smacks her lips... constantly. Always has.
Some days it drives me absolutely bananas. On those days, it's really hard not to ask her to be quiet.
It's good to see some confirmation that it meets a need for her, and my best response is to just deal with it.

DS and I seek out quiet. :
DD and DP seek out music/noise and action: :

I'm glad there's no odd one out in our little family.
post #1163 of 1466
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Originally Posted by geiamama View Post
Thank you.

DH's main complaint is that everyone feels compelled to tell him the blindingly obvious just because he's a man...

MIL "Make sure she's wearing a coat"
DH "Really, I thought she'd enjoy going out in the rain in just a nappy"

GMIL "She's tired, she should have a nap"
DH "Oh so that's what yawning means"

The worst is my SIL. She has no children of her own but because she's a primary school teacher she believes she is the absolute authority on children. No matter how many times DH tries to tell her she just cannot believe that kids can act completely differently at home than they do in school and that parents who spend eighteen hours of the day and night with said kids(obviously barring the time that they're in school) might have a better idea of how to treat them!

my mom is something like that with my DH. she just CANNOT believe a daddy can take care of his children without the help of a woman. just b/c my father was useless doesn't mean all men are!! however, if he'd stop losing his temper in front of her, that would help A LOT. LOL.
post #1164 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Storm Bride View Post
No. She was going over in her head what changes have been made in the recommendations that they make. That was very clear from the subsequent conversation. I don't remember the details, but I do remember she gave me different advice on how often to feed, etc. The whole visit was painful. I refuse them, now. I have enough on my plate with my other kids, a newborn and a surgical recovery. I don't need strangers in my house giving me pointless "information" and adding to my stress.
that's unfortunate the health nurse who visited me saved my BFing relationship with my son by helping us with our latch (on a couple occasions) and she actually recommended co-sleeping and listed benefits. she was probably younger than i am and experienced with BFing & co-sleeping. she was very up-to-date on everything. i'm so glad she is the local nurse who does the first week home visits and goes to Early Years centers and helps mommies out with anything they need.
post #1165 of 1466
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Originally Posted by tjjazzy View Post
that's unfortunate the health nurse who visited me saved my BFing relationship with my son by helping us with our latch (on a couple occasions) and she actually recommended co-sleeping and listed benefits. she was probably younger than i am and experienced with BFing & co-sleeping. she was very up-to-date on everything. i'm so glad she is the local nurse who does the first week home visits and goes to Early Years centers and helps mommies out with anything they need.
Don't get me wrong. I'm glad the nurses and LCs are there to help, if needed. I just wish they'd learn to butt out when people don't want or need the help. In my case, I've had some difficulties initially with two of my three babies, but I do better when I'm left alone to figure things out for myself (this applies to almost everything in my life), and they just won't back off. This woman wasn't really doing a lot of "what issues are you having?" or "let's check your latch" kind of stuff, though - it was just really weird advice about supply, mastitis, etc.

OTOH, at least she didn't grab my breast and my baby without my consent, like the LC at the hospital when I had ds2!
post #1166 of 1466
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Originally Posted by tjjazzy View Post
that's unfortunate the health nurse who visited me saved my BFing relationship with my son by helping us with our latch (on a couple occasions) and she actually recommended co-sleeping and listed benefits. she was probably younger than i am and experienced with BFing & co-sleeping. she was very up-to-date on everything. i'm so glad she is the local nurse who does the first week home visits and goes to Early Years centers and helps mommies out with anything they need.
Ditto. But boy, have I seen the other side, too. :
post #1167 of 1466
my neighbor reguarding BFing " oh you'll get tired of that when you want to sleep through the night" yeah because FFing moms of newborns get a full nights rest every night huh, NOT! I wanted to say....ummm Babies dont sleep through the night when they are newborns no matter what you feed them (well the majority dont anyway) you idiot but I just ignored her. The people down the street who told me I should go out and get drunk and pump and dump...no thanks I have five kids I have no desire to leave my newborn and other children to get wasted but thanks anyway.

Oh and I just love how MY reproductive organs are everyones business too..I could be here all day on that one and one of the all time stupidest that my MIL has been saying since we had our first "it doesnt hurt them to cry its good for the lungs" ...I can probably think of more later lmao!
post #1168 of 1466
We are leaving to visit family today and I was talking to my Dad about how I'm nervous about whether or not the baby will sleep on the flight. He told me to put beer in a bottle and give it to her. He said "that's what people do."

What?!!
I said "nooooo, Dad, nobody gives their baby beer in a bottle."
"Yes they do," he insisted. "I just read it! It puts them out *snap* like that."
"Yeah, Dad, because the poor little buggers are DRUNK!"

Who would DO that?!
post #1169 of 1466
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Originally Posted by amberskyfire View Post
We are leaving to visit family today and I was talking to my Dad about how I'm nervous about whether or not the baby will sleep on the flight. He told me to put beer in a bottle and give it to her. He said "that's what people do."

What?!!
I said "nooooo, Dad, nobody gives their baby beer in a bottle."
"Yes they do," he insisted. "I just read it! It puts them out *snap* like that."
"Yeah, Dad, because the poor little buggers are DRUNK!"

Who would DO that?!
Makes you a little worried about your own experiences as a baby, huh?
post #1170 of 1466
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Originally Posted by ~Boudicca~ View Post
Makes you a little worried about your own experiences as a baby, huh?
Like how my mom and dad were having dinner outside, and DD was outside with them, and she kept spitting her binkie out onto the ground, and my dad would dip it into his wine to "disinfect it" before he gave it back to her.
She was teething at the time, too. I am not sure who manipulating who in that particular situation
post #1171 of 1466
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Originally Posted by PatienceAndLove View Post
She was teething at the time, too. I am not sure who manipulating who in that particular situation

Yeah huh? Something tells me that she didn't mind
post #1172 of 1466
I told my friend that we are having a homebirth and he said, "You know you won't be able to have an epidural there, right?"

ummm.. yes. (you know thousands of women give birth without one everyday, right?)

Then he said, "I didn't know you were even allowed to give birth at home anymore." I said, 'Allowed by who? It's my body, baby and birth. I get to decide" He said, "Oh."

Honestly, it wasn't funny, it was sad.
post #1173 of 1466
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Originally Posted by amberskyfire View Post
We are leaving to visit family today and I was talking to my Dad about how I'm nervous about whether or not the baby will sleep on the flight. He told me to put beer in a bottle and give it to her. He said "that's what people do."

What?!!
I said "nooooo, Dad, nobody gives their baby beer in a bottle."
"Yes they do," he insisted. "I just read it! It puts them out *snap* like that."
"Yeah, Dad, because the poor little buggers are DRUNK!"

Who would DO that?!
Ummmm (clearing throat nervously).....apparently your DAD would

Didja ask him if he ever did this with you? I'd be so freaking curious if it were me!!!

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Originally Posted by femalephish View Post
I told my friend that we are having a homebirth and he said, "You know you won't be able to have an epidural there, right?"
It *would* have been classic if you had stopped cold, looked at him in HORROR and said OMG....NO!!!! I had NO idea!!!!! WOW! Thanks for clearing that up!!! I mean SHEESH...what is the world COMING to these days?!?!!
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i live away from my child due to my job. she's 3 years old and
she's always with her nanny. Every weekend, i came to visit her.
i hate it when she calls her nanny mommy and she can't recognize who i am.
post #1175 of 1466
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Originally Posted by timang View Post
i live away from my child due to my job. she's 3 years old and
she's always with her nanny. Every weekend, i came to visit her.
i hate it when she calls her nanny mommy and she can't recognize who i am.
that would be horrible. I assume the nanny discourages this?

Do you have anything to share where we could come up with good come backs? Part of the point of this thread is to have a bit of fun with thinking of things to say to mean people.
post #1176 of 1466
I have a dear friend who is a nurse who told me when I said my next one would be a HBAC "You know that if something happens, homebirths mean dead babies." :

I told her that considering my last labor was laboring out of the hospital 50+ hours before I needed the c-section () I'd take that risk. Which of course meant everyone sitting with us was like "well that's just SELFISH to risk your baby like that."

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post #1177 of 1466
this is only one thing but what im reading now reminded me, i might post more later lol

my grandma took us to mcdonalds one day ( yes i know bad, dont go there please we dont NORMALLY eat it)
i told her my 2nd doesnt eat meat. she brought him apples and crackers because i told her he eats their apples if i go there. okay fine.
well then, he was apparently starving "and the poor little feller has cravings!" and so she was going to get him a burger and fries. i said no, he ate 2 fries and that was more than enough and burgers are meat.
"well ill get him nuggts then" UMMM : thats MEAT!!
and yeah, i was starving him because i didnt give him chicken and burger :sigh:

this is the same person who was arguing with me in mcdonalds telling me i have to get my tubes tied cause i have too many kids and its not right, and i dont need them.

and told me to smack my 5mo and got mad that i wouldnt let her because he was cruising on her stupid coffee table.

not really parenting but ive been told "once youre in labor you will have to have an epidural, you cant do it without one!" uhh..okay. and i already had 2 kids so im thoroughly baffled about that. apparently i didnt birth them? hmm.
and "they" didnt let me birth alone, nor in a birth center. i had my second in a hospital and with doctors, nor a ucx, and i just didnt notice :

ive also been told bfing my then 2 and 3yo son would make him gay. for one, how in the heck is a boy liking boobs remotely gay? and for another, and i said it "i dont know how that would work, but why si that a bad thing anyway?" geez..

oh and his ^%^&^ mom said that our oldest couldnt be his cause hes redheaded :. now our third has red hair, too but she wont acknowledge that any of them are his so i assume thats helping if she knows yet. i dont know jhow she says our second isnt his though from looks... hes brown headed.
post #1178 of 1466
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Originally Posted by femalephish View Post
I told my friend that we are having a homebirth and he said, "You know you won't be able to have an epidural there, right?"

ummm.. yes. (you know thousands of women give birth without one everyday, right?)

Then he said, "I didn't know you were even allowed to give birth at home anymore." I said, 'Allowed by who? It's my body, baby and birth. I get to decide" He said, "Oh."

Honestly, it wasn't funny, it was sad.
OMG watch out for the birth police!
post #1179 of 1466
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Originally Posted by onelilguysmommy View Post
this is only one thing but what im reading now reminded me, i might post more later lol

my grandma took us to mcdonalds one day ( yes i know bad, dont go there please we dont NORMALLY eat it)
i told her my 2nd doesnt eat meat. she brought him apples and crackers because i told her he eats their apples if i go there. okay fine.
well then, he was apparently starving "and the poor little feller has cravings!" and so she was going to get him a burger and fries. i said no, he ate 2 fries and that was more than enough and burgers are meat.
"well ill get him nuggts then" UMMM : thats MEAT!!
and yeah, i was starving him because i didnt give him chicken and burger :sigh:
I get completely where you are coming from. Most of my family have been wonderful giving DS meat-free alternatives when he comes over for tea but great-grandma did the classic "but it's only chicken" line, as if chicken somehow grows on trees! But then this is the woman who almost killed my cousin because she believed that a peanut allergy was "just a silly fad" and that that not giving him peanuts was "giving in to his picky eating".
post #1180 of 1466
In comparison to the things I'm reading here, my one dumb thing that someone's said to me seems absolutely irrelevant, but it's been bugging me for days...

In my apartment building, I live next door to my landlady and across the hall from an absolutely wretched wicked old lady. The other day, with baby in the carrier, I took the dogs out and when we came back in to get the mail, we ran into the landlady. She made small talk about the dogs, then looked up at my daughter and said, "She cries, eh?"

My response was "Sometimes babies do that." But now every time my daughter cries, even a little bit, all I can hear is my landlady's voice ringing in my head with "She cries, eh?" As if I'm a bad mom ...
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