In the NICU when my son was a few weeks old one of the nurses was constantly talking about how he needed to learn to soothe himself from crying and to sleep alone, because otherwise it was "unfair" to give him expectations I didn't plan to meet. I responded that actually, I absolutely planned to meet his expectations that his needs be met and cries responded to, and if he wouldn't be sleeping alone at home, why would I need to "train" him to do it in the hospital? I tried to explain a bit about my parenting philosophies to her, and at one point she goes- "Well he is going to have to grow up sometime.." Uhh yeah, he is three weeks old, that time is not now!! Lol. She sputtered something, like, that's not what I meant, but I hope it made her realize how ridiculous these expectations are for infants.
My mother said to me the other day, I know you oppose bottles (for the record, I don't oppose them, but I am with my child and thus he has no need for one right now, and I am not comfortable introducing them whilst transitioning him off the nipple shield which we are working on) but I am worried that with all the time he spends nursing, he is missing out on other developmental tasks and his motor skills and cognitive development are going to suffer." So basically, I should pump and feed him my milk in a bottle because nursing the way nature designed is going to stunt his development. I told her that research on the benefits of breastfeeding on physical and mental development were not based on pumping and bottle feeding breast milk, but on breastfeeding as nature intended it, and that my baby knows his needs better than anyone. (To which she actually replied, no they do not!)
My father was adjusting his pants because his belt had come undone or something, and he said excuse me or pardon me, I have to adjust my belt.. and then added something snarky like, since you pull your breasts out all the time I figure you won't mind.. uhh like that's the same thing. I mean, I don't really care if you adjust your pants, but it has nothing to do with my feeding my baby!
My grandma is actually very open minded and progressive in many ways, but she has a few.. she says the whole crying exercises their lungs thing (not
as advocating letting a baby cry per se, but still) and when I said something about vaccines and mentioned that I am not doing most of them, maybe all of them, and that his doc recommended a certain one that I am still ambivalent about (HIB), she said, "Well I hope you didn't get your info off the internet, you know there's all sorts of unreliable information out there.. and if his doctor says he should get it, well, I am sure the doctor knows what she is talking about." Now my grandma should know me well enough to know that I am anal about my research and using reliable sources, so she knows better. I have access to hundreds of thousands of research journals and databases through my university library (online) and that's not valid because it's on "the internet?" She has never been on the internet though, so I don't think she really understands, and just sees it as this vast scary place where anyone can write anything, yk? But the whole "the doc knows everything" really gets to me too- they know what they have been told, and they are fallible. Docs have clearly recommended many many things which have later turned out to be harmful or fatal. A close family friend is infertile because her mother's doctor encouraged her to take DES during her pregnancy. I have a health condition which was not diagnosed for almost a year despite frequent doctor visits- I finally did my own research and diagnosed myself. I have enough knowledge and experience to know that just because a doctor says something does not mean much, and I wish she could see that too- it scares me that she is so naive in some ways, yk?
I also get kinda irritated when the second my son fusses, people tell me, oh he's hungry! Like ok, just because he is breastfed and he sometimes yes he cries does not automatically mean he is hungry all the time, and even if he is, I am probably in a better place than you to evaluate and respond to that.. lol. The other day at Easter brunch with family he was fussing and I tried nursing him a few times and he would pull away, and after all that my grandmother goes, I think he's hungry! I was kinda irked at that point and snapped, well considering I have been trying to nurse him for the past ten minutes and he won't do it, I don't think that is the problem.
And people also don't get that nursing is not just "eating," it encompasses non-nutritive and nutritive sucking, as well as the need for closeness and comforting, so I get a lot of stupid comments about that- "nursing sure takes a lot more time than just feeding him bottles" etc.
I am sure I'll think of more but those are what popped to mind.