What is the worst/dumbest thing anyone has ever said to you about parenting stuff? II - Page 7

[amberskyfire]

Just a post for everyone who gets the "babies should cry" or "you're going to spoil him/her" remarks. I have the perfect reply.

"Well, in OUR house, we treat others the way we want to be treated - with respect."

It makes people stop and think about what they've said.

[angelachristin]

This is BY FAR not the worst I've heard, but so stupid...my DH is Filipino, and I am white. When DS was born, by the 2nd day, he was getting pretty jaundiced, and the nurse mentioned it and that he might need treatment...and MIL (also Filipino) said, "No, he's fine, it's just because he's Oriental." :

[avalanchelynn]

i don't know about this being the dumbest, but it was most annoying to me

"this baby shouldn't be so attached to you, she's too close to you" - courtesy of mil...

total screwball, wtf of a remark..

[Mommy2Austin]

We're on WIC and our next door neighbor is as well. I get the breastfeeding package (for obvious reasons) and she formula feeds (never BF'd.) I've been having some issues with BFing and she tells me I should get the formula package and stock up "just in case." I politely explained that we need the food more than we'd ever need formula and if I need formula I'll just buy a can Her husband came over yesterday after he borrowed our phone and asked me "Is that a nebulizer or something?" I replied "No it's a breastpump." He got this big embarrased grin on his face and kind of chuckled uncomfortably all the way out the door.

They're really nice people and I BF'd over at their apt. all the time with no issue, they just don't know anything about BFing lol

[didkisa]

DD had her 12 month wbv a couple weeks ago and her ped, who is fully aware we are still very much breastfeeding, told me it's "very important she drink at least 12 ounces of whole (cow's) milk everyday." Now why on earth would that be better for DD than MY milk (since it would probably replace some of it, right?)?? Whatever...when it comes to sleep and breastfeeding I try not to discuss them with him or quickly change the subject.

[Zuzu822]

Originally Posted by didkisa

DD had her 12 month wbv a couple weeks ago and her ped, who is fully aware we are still very much breastfeeding, told me it's "very important she drink at least 12 ounces of whole (cow's) milk everyday." Now why on earth would that be better for DD than MY milk (since it would probably replace some of it, right?)?? Whatever...when it comes to sleep and breastfeeding I try not to discuss them with him or quickly change the subject.

My DS's old ped said the VERY same thing to me at his 12 mo. WBV! This was right after I said he nursed at least every 3-4 hours around the clock. She tried to scare me by saying he would develop osteopenia and even gave me a sheet on the "importance of calcium." Whatever! We never went back there and now see a much more knowledgeable family practice doc.

[In Exile]

Originally Posted by Zuzu822

My DS's old ped said the VERY same thing to me at his 12 mo. WBV! This was right after I said he nursed at least every 3-4 hours around the clock. She tried to scare me by saying he would develop osteopenia and even gave me a sheet on the "importance of calcium." Whatever! We never went back there and now see a much more knowledgeable family practice doc.

Got, I am so thrilled that our Ped even told me not to worry, he doesn't NEED other milk since we're nursing at 13 months, and certainly noy "bovine", I just love the man for saying, he does not need cow's milk. And he has no issue with DS eating almost no "meat", I told him what he eats, and was happy to hear all the other sources of protein and calcium...

Having said that, I love my inlaws: But what the heck is the concern? "Does he eat an assortment of meats?" ASSORTMENT?
DS was teething heavily on the weekend during a weekend and was refusing al solids, just nursed and nursed. FIL was CONSTANTLY asking if he needed water, constantly filled up cup with water and constantly put it in front of DS. It really started to annoy me. He did not eat any solids and if he nurses all day long I don't want him to fill up his stomache with water. He did not want water, he was happily nursing and FIL kept pushing the stupid water. AAAAAAARG. DS would be hungry all night if I let him drink all that water only.
I said to him, he just nursed and wants to nurse again, my FIL just does not get what breastfeeding means, don't know what he thinks is coming out of my boob.
MIL was asking my husband how much "milk" he gets. I came over joined and played dumb, honestly I was getting annoyed inside. I said he is having plenty of milk and grinned. My MIL understood, nodded and said: But what about cow's milk?

WTF is going on in people when they refuse to accept that the best nourishment for a human baby is human milk, not the milk of another species???

And the thing is that my Inlaws have had pleeeeeeeenty of info, now that their grandchild is 13 months old- they still don't get it.

I just wanna hit my head against the wall, despite information believe just refuse to let it sink it, it is discouraging. I noticed that the generation 50 plus is comletely immune to really understand, despite all efforts to educate. You can talk until you knots in your tongue- and right after it they drop sh** like that on you.

[In Exile]

Originally Posted by Narn

I wouldn't be around second-hand smoke when I was pregnant. That's not good for a fetus or a mom. Or did I read this post wrong?

Ahem, that's what I was saying...didn't say I actually said I set foot into that smoke filled bar. I was just shocked how the husband "educated" his way wife that there's no reason why I should't come- because according to him the baby's in my belly and "won't get any smoke". Right, the guy obviously never heard of second hand smoke.

[nolonger]

Originally Posted by amber913

Just finished reading all of this and am amazed at how many people think it's acceptable to let a baby cry. Makes me feel I should be easier on my parents--they were once babies who were probably left to cry. :

My mother unapologetically tells of putting my bassinet in a semi-soundproofed room so that my crying wouldn't disturb the rest of the family. Now I understand those nightmares about the white acoustical tiles on the ceiling that make me wake up screaming, "I don't want to die alone! Please don't let me die alone!"

Don't get me wrong--my babies do cry, even the easygoing ds2 who has been going to work with me since he was two weeks old and certainly the angst-ridden adolescent whose insurance doesn't cover treatment for clinical depression that probably wouldn't help anyway, but they never have to cry alone.

[justmama]

My all-time favorite is the question:

so is she a good baby?

Ummmmm, what????? Aren't all babies good? I was at the girls' dad's house visiting with them(since I won't let him take the baby yet since she's just 3 months) and his grandma stopped by to see the kids and asked me that. I looked surprised I guess and slightly confused because she rephrased to ask if she slept well at night. I shocked her when I answered that Gracie woke just about every 2 hours to nurse but that it wasn't a huge deal since she sleeps right ON her food source anyway. They make nice pillows apparently.

[N8'sMom]

Originally Posted by angelachristin

This is BY FAR not the worst I've heard, but so stupid...my DH is Filipino, and I am white. When DS was born, by the 2nd day, he was getting pretty jaundiced, and the nurse mentioned it and that he might need treatment...and MIL (also Filipino) said, "No, he's fine, it's just because he's Oriental." :

Wow! I can't believe she said that!! I was always taught that Oriental is
RUGS and FOOD and PEOPLE are ASIAN.

[Juliacat]

When dd was a tiny baby, a friend of mine said to me, "Oh, I ran into your MIL downtown last week. We were talking about you, and I said Doesn't the baby look so much like Juliacat? And she said NO, the baby looks like ME!!!!! and I just thought that was a very strange thing to say." (friend is MIL's age and has a DIL and grandbabies of her own)

A friend of mine told me that his own six-week-old was crying "because he's just being willful." I thought it was B.S. at the time but since I wasn't a parent yet myself, I didn't think I could say anything.

People have said to me, "I could never cloth diaper, it's too much work." I'm like, "You can't use a washing machine?" and they're like *blink*

Oh yeah...and my niece who's my age...might want to get a clue before she has children of her own. When dd was a year old and nursing around the clock every 45 minutes and I was going insane from sleep deprivation, my niece first wanted to know "What's WRONG with her that she doesn't sleep all night?" and then "Can't you just go in another room when she cries?" And she was criticizing her SIL for not breastfeeding and I said "I think she probably didn't breastfeed because she didn't have any support--I wouldn't have been successful either without the help I had" and my niece said "How can one person possibly help another person breastfeed? What is there besides sticking the baby to the boob?" Oy, oy, oy.

[KristyDi]

Originally Posted by In Exile

WTF is going on in people when they refuse to accept that the best nourishment for a human baby is human milk, not the milk of another species???

I have some theories about that.

1. They can't see the milk going in, so it doesn't count as liquid/nutrition.

2. They can't participate in feeding the child, so it doesn't count as liquid/nutrition.

3. So many of the previous generations have little or no personal experience with breast feeding that there's some kind of mental block about it. Kinda like how my very intelligent father can't seem to grasp when to double click with the mouse and a computer and when not to. He double clicks everything, every time, no matter how often I explain it.

Oh and so I say something on topic: My GMIL swears her milk turned to water when her daughter was 5 months old and I need to keep an eye out in case it happens to me. She truly believes her breasts stopped producing milk and started producing water.

[leafwood]

My ped won the award last week.....we are doing sel/del vax with ds (now 3m) so for this visit I said we were only doing one vax and waiting on Polio (if we do it at all). She read me the roit act, told me that people like me were the reason there seeing Polio again (um, no) and then when I asked a question about dd's seasonal allergies (she's 4y) she said "so you're willing to consider giving your daughter Claritin to prevent serious allergies from turning into bronchitis like it did last year, but you're not willing to vax your son agains Polio....that's quite hypocricital....think about it".

Well doctor, I've been thinking about it ever since, and it still makes no sense and has officially qualified as "the dumbest thing anyone has ever said to me about parenting stuff". Congrats!

[annettemarie]

Mamas, every now and again I have to come on this thread and remind you all that namecalling, no matter how well-deserved, is against the User Agreement.

So, on the namecalling, please. Thanks!

[Hippie Mama in MI]

My in laws have discovered that my 20mo ds will sit in front of the TV show "Little Bear" for hours, if he's allowed. (They discovered this while I was not around, believe you me!) Now, every time we come over they instantly put "Little Bear" on. They've even taped hours of episodes for us to take home.

I feel like saying, "Great idea! Why play with him or talk to him, when you can just turn on the Amazing Brainwashing Machine and turn him into a walleyed zombie all afternoon? No wonder my husband never goes outside!"

[N8'sMom]

Originally Posted by leafwood

My ped won the award last week.....we are doing sel/del vax with ds (now 3m) so for this visit I said we were only doing one vax and waiting on Polio (if we do it at all). She read me the roit act, told me that people like me were the reason there seeing Polio again (um, no) and then when I asked a question about dd's seasonal allergies (she's 4y) she said "so you're willing to consider giving your daughter Claritin to prevent serious allergies from turning into bronchitis like it did last year, but you're not willing to vax your son agains Polio....that's quite hypocricital....think about it".

Well doctor, I've been thinking about it ever since, and it still makes no sense and has officially qualified as "the dumbest thing anyone has ever said to me about parenting stuff". Congrats!

NICE! REAL NICE!

[Narn]

Originally Posted by In Exile

Ahem, that's what I was saying...didn't say I actually said I set foot into that smoke filled bar. I was just shocked how the husband "educated" his way wife that there's no reason why I should't come- because according to him the baby's in my belly and "won't get any smoke". Right, the guy obviously never heard of second hand smoke.

I'm sorry! I kept reading it over and over...

[not now]

Originally Posted by angelachristin

This is BY FAR not the worst I've heard, but so stupid...my DH is Filipino, and I am white. When DS was born, by the 2nd day, he was getting pretty jaundiced, and the nurse mentioned it and that he might need treatment...and MIL (also Filipino) said, "No, he's fine, it's just because he's Oriental." :

When I was born the nurses thought I was getting jaundiced and my momma told them "No, she's Mexican. She has that undertone." I was never jaundice, I've just got that olive undertone. If I don't pick up a tan I have a yellow/green undertone. When I put my arm next to The Man's arm I look yellow, he looks pink.

* Someone told The Man that we had to get rid of our cats since they "Steal the baby's air." His response was "Are we really having this conversation?"

* My best friend and I were deciding where to have lunch. I have no cravings and she's on a very particular diet. I told her to choose since I really don't care were we eat as long as I eat. She said "No, you have to eat what you're craving or your baby will be born with an open mouth" Huh?

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by not now

I was never jaundice, I've just got that olive undertone. If I don't pick up a tan I have a yellow/green undertone. When I put my arm next to The Man's arm I look yellow, he looks pink.

My ancestry is entirely northern European, mostly from the UK, and I've got definite yellow undertones. I blush pink, but that's about it.

<--me