Oooh, I love this thread (in that tragic-funny way)! I finally have one to add.
DS, who's 3 months old, needs to go to bed sometime between 630 and 8 every night - he gets really
grumpy if we keep him up later than that, and he sometimes has trouble sleeping on me, especially in the evening or in new environments. Well, we were at a family holiday recently with about 30 people, most of whom had never seen him, and dinner didn't even start until 8ish. (Thankfully, I had him in the Moby, where he stayed the whole night so he wouldn't have to play pass-the-baby. LOVE the Moby for that!) Anyway, I spent pretty much the entire evening walking around the house with him, trying to get him to sleep, but he was so distracted by all the noise and people that he got into that dazed-overtired state where he couldn't sleep. So of course, FIL comes up to see him and gets in his face, making loud excited sounds (at like 9pm when he's exhausted).
Me: "he's really tired and trying to sleep." (read: back off!)
FIL: "no, he's not tired, he's just zoned out." (continues in-your-face cooing at DS)
Me: "no, really, he's exhausted
FIL, to DS in baby-talk voice: "you're not tired, are you? you're just zoned out."
And of course, when we finally got to leave, before dinner was even over, he had a total breakdown in the car on the way home. It was AWFUL. I'm never doing that again.
Why is it that people ignore the mother, or argue with her? NO ONE knows my son better than me! He sleeps with us too, so except for the 3 hours or so that he's sleeping alone before we join him, I spend all day and all night with him. FIL sees him for an hour every few weeks and thinks he knows what's going on with him?