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post #1281 of 1466
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Originally Posted by ashleyhaugh View Post
my ds is 19months and i HATE it when people do that.... hes learned though, he bites down, and they cant take it, lol. what business is it of theirs if he has one or not:??
LOL, good for him!!
post #1282 of 1466
Oh, and when I was in the hospital I had to refuse visitation from anyone because every time anyone from my family came they were trying to give my baby chocolate. I explained over and OVER that just because it was my mom's "tradition" did not make it right and that she was my child and most certainly was not going to be getting anything but breast milk! Ughh, it was probably three months before I could trust any of them to hold my daughter.
post #1283 of 1466
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Originally Posted by choosewisdom View Post
Oh, and when I was in the hospital I had to refuse visitation from anyone because every time anyone from my family came they were trying to give my baby chocolate. I explained over and OVER that just because it was my mom's "tradition" did not make it right and that she was my child and most certainly was not going to be getting anything but breast milk! Ughh, it was probably three months before I could trust any of them to hold my daughter.
WOW! Talk about people asking for allergic reactions!
post #1284 of 1466

so irritated...

I thought DP and I were totally together on most parenting issues, until I was reading him some of the posts on this thread. There was some incredulous post about a someone telling the mom to not feed the baby in Wal-Mart and I was shocked. He said, "Why would she?"

I said, "Because the baby is hungry."

Him, "But why in Wal-Mart?"

Me, "What are they supposed to do? Get in the car, put the baby in the car seat, drive all the way home, then feed the baby? All the while this poor infant thinks mommy is ignoring his needs..."

Him, "Well, I have heard all the time how there are couches in women's restrooms."

Me, "Do you eat your dinner in the restroom?"

Him, "No, but I didn't say you should feed the baby off of the toilet seat."

Anyway, I will quit quoting the whole story, but the short of it... Even after I showed him EXACTLY how I could BF in public without anyone seeing, he was still upset that I would, "pull out your breast in front of all those other men?!?!"

ARGHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!
post #1285 of 1466
choosewisdom, I'm sure he'll come around. I think NIP is one of those things some people have to see and experience to know why it's "okay", kwim? DH was like that on a LOT of things like breastfeeding (he was convinced that we would NEED to give bottles at some point-- never happened), was totally anti-cosleeping (I moved DD into her own bed recently and he misses her), etc etc. I could probably list a ton if I sat here and thought about it. But in the end he realizes it's for the best, once it's actually been put into effect.
post #1286 of 1466
I like reading all these stories, even though some are completely awful. I have one and it still makes me stomach turn...

I made the mistake of complaining once in the lunchroom at work about how I was tired because my 2-year old daughter had suddenly started waking at around 3 in the morning for the past few nights, crying, and not settling well when we brought her into our bed.

One male coworker (who has a reputation as an annoying loudmouth) asked me, "Well, do you spank her?"

Me: Spank her for waking up in the middle of the night and crying? No! (look of shock on my face)

Annoying coworker: Well, you're just rewarding her by bringing her into your bed. You should try spanking.

Me: I will never spank my children.

Annoying coworker: I like that my children fear me. They do what I say when I say it and that's that.

Me: : I have no words.

I don't discuss parenting issues at work anymore because that conversation upset me so much. Seriously, just recalling it makes me want to throw up.
post #1287 of 1466
angelamariebee: Thank you so much for your response. I think I was just so in shock and so hurt to find out that he felt that way. He is such a supportive guy, that I honestly thought he must really be joking when he responded that way about NIP. I hope you are right and it is just an adjustment...
post #1288 of 1466
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Originally Posted by choosewisdom View Post
angelamariebee: Thank you so much for your response. I think I was just so in shock and so hurt to find out that he felt that way. He is such a supportive guy, that I honestly thought he must really be joking when he responded that way about NIP. I hope you are right and it is just an adjustment...
I'm with angelamariebee - my BF was the same way about so many things! Before Lincoln was born he was like, well we don't have to hold him all the time, we can try CIO and see if it works, why should he sleep with us?, etc.

Well, he slept with us b/c I couldn't get out of bed to feed him after he was born - by the time I could BF had decided he likes having Lincoln in our bed and waking up next to him, can't STAND to hear him cry, and while we don't hold him all the time he loves holding him, always takes him from me first thing when he gets home to try and make him laugh. Loves rocking him to sleep, and is absolutely smitten with him in general.
post #1289 of 1466
We visited my gm yesterday and I have another one to share. Please bear (bare?) with me as this requires explanation as to why this was such a moment.

1. I was telling gm what types of foods lovey was eating and mentioned that she loved sauerkraut. Gm looked confused and asked if it was still in "strands" when I gave it to her. When i replied yes, she was horrified and went on to lecture me about the importance of "chewing" the food for proper nutrient absorbtion (i should add that my gm is a certified hydro-therapist, so I get these types of lectures quite often). I replied that this we weren't really concerned about her getting enough nutrients as she is still bfed on demand and that it was more about introducing different flavors and textures. Which she understood and actually appreciated.
A little while later, I was changing lovey's diaper when gm again commented on the undigested food bits in the poop. Reiterated that it didn't matter. "Oh, that's right" (also adding that gm is only 67 and not suffering from memory loss or mental impairment of any kind).

2. I also explained to her why we were introducing foods so slowly and staying away from known allergens (wheat, soy, etc) and that lovey only got fruits and veggies.

3. We were talking about my sister and her children when gm commented on their "horrid diet" and how they "eat too much sugar" (she once yelled at my sister for letting her kids eat bananas because they were so high in sugar , if that tells you anything).

SOOOO, she took us out to eat at our favorite (vegan chinese buffet. While there, I was offering little bits of food to dd (only things that she has eaten before - peas, apples, yams, etc). And then my gm tried to give her a HUGE piece of general tso's seitan. After all the above, she didn't see what was wrong with giving my 9mo, mostly toothless dd a chunk of a battered and deep fried piece of wheat gluten smothered in a spicy, sugar laden sauce. :

(Ok, so not really a comment on parenting, but still WTH?!?)
post #1290 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Lynn08 View Post
she took us out to eat at our favorite (vegan chinese buffet...
: Lancaster county in Pennsylvania has a vegan Chinese buffet...

hmm, 9.5 hours might be a bit too far to drive.
post #1291 of 1466
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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan View Post
: Lancaster county in Pennsylvania has a vegan Chinese buffet...

hmm, 9.5 hours might be a bit too far to drive.
It's actually closer to Philly - so maybe only an 8.5-9 hr drive. totally worth it, imo
post #1292 of 1466
A couple of weeks ago we went and visited my family for the first time since DD was born (Mom and Dad both flew out to visit when she was born). Mom, Dad and my sister all insisted I would stop BF-ing DD once she got teeth. Like I'm going to pay $$$$ to feed my daughter an inferior food...just because she might bite me. Whatever. : DH wins the "Amazing Husband" award. When Dad was telling him I'd stop BF-ing once DD gets teeth he just looked at my father and told him "You know how stubborn your daughter is. If she says she'll keep BF-ing then she'll keep BF-ing."

FWIW DD popped her first tooth this week and yes, we're still BF-ing.
post #1293 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Lynn08 View Post
It's actually closer to Philly - so maybe only an 8.5-9 hr drive. totally worth it, imo
in Malvern?
post #1294 of 1466
A little background first. Out of my mom's 4 children I am the only one she breastfed.

While pregnant with my second child I made a passing comment about breastfeeding...

Mom: What?! Why are you going to nurse this one?

Me: Huh? Why wouldn't I?

Mom: Honey, you only have to breastfeed one child to get the anti cancer benefits, you don't have to breastfeed the other ones.

Me: Gee mom, I'm so glad I was able to provide that service for you.


I love my mom, but that comment went to the crazy list in my mind.
post #1295 of 1466
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Originally Posted by SashaBreeze View Post
A little background first. Out of my mom's 4 children I am the only one she breastfed.

While pregnant with my second child I made a passing comment about breastfeeding...

Mom: What?! Why are you going to nurse this one?

Me: Huh? Why wouldn't I?

Mom: Honey, you only have to breastfeed one child to get the anti cancer benefits, you don't have to breastfeed the other ones.

Me: Gee mom, I'm so glad I was able to provide that service for you.


I love my mom, but that comment went to the crazy list in my mind.
Talk about making you feel special Let alone the fact that she is wrong The more children you BF, and the longer the duration, the more 'anti-cancer benefits' you get. Short term nursing of only one infant doesn't give you very much protection at all
post #1296 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Lynn08 View Post
It's actually closer to Philly - so maybe only an 8.5-9 hr drive. totally worth it, imo


WHERE????

sapphire_chan, my bro is graduating from Butler this weekend, so I'll be in your neck of the woods.
post #1297 of 1466
So, DD and I just moved to a larger city, and there is a park near by. It being May in Texas and all, we go to the park in the late afternoon so it's not so hot. Well, so does everyone else.

When i was younger, my dad instituted (and taught me) a rather loud whistle that he would use when we were in large outdoor areas, esp. if there was lots of people. One whistle was "round yourselves up, ,we're leaving soon" and two was "emergency, get over here NOW". I have since taught that to DD.

Well, it was time to get home, and I didn't see her among the throng of other small children, so I whistled for her. She ran over about a minute later, "time to go, Mama?" "Yep! And that you for listening and coming so quickly!" A lady near by me goes "I can't believe you trained your child to come when you whistle! She's not a dog!!!" "Well ma'am, I am sorry you disagree with me, but it works for us." She huffs and then walks off screaming for her children.

I still think my whistle is more efficient.
post #1298 of 1466
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Originally Posted by PatienceAndLove View Post

I still think my whistle is more efficient.
I wish I could whistle like that!!
post #1299 of 1466
Oh gosh, where to start. We battled with my IL's over co-sleeping and feeding solids before 6 months.


We're all sitting down to eat dinner, DS is on my lap, he just finished nursing, and was quite content. He was about 4 months old, so he was reaching, and grabbing for some things.


Me: Hun, can you pass the peas?
MIL: Are you FINALLY going to give him a taste?
Me: A taste of what?
MIL: Food! He's sooo hungry! LOOK! He's eating the table!
Me: Yeah, no, he's not hungry. Babies generally put things in their mouth.
DH: No, no food. He just ate.
FIL: Awww, he's grabbing the plate! HE'S SO HUNGRY!
Me: NO. He is NOT hungry.
MIL: Here, let me give him a taste! (She reaches toward him, and I turn so DS is facing DH)
DH: He's a BABY. He EATS BREASTMILK. He's not hungry. If there was a bloody knife on the table, he'd try to put that in his mouth too. Now, pass the rice!

I feel like when I'm with my inlaws, I'm repeating myself constantly. They don't listen to either DH or myself, and they are always in DS's face. We tell them to let him warm up when we get there, but no, they have to grab him get thisclose to his face, and wonder why he meltsdown within 2 hours.


At our last visit, FIL goes:

"It must be so much easier giving him solids now!"

Me: Uh. Nope. I don't know what's easier about preparing a snack, versus me whipping my boob out for a quick drink, or snack. Definitely not easier.
post #1300 of 1466
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Originally Posted by PatienceAndLove View Post
in Malvern?
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Originally Posted by smeisnotapirate View Post


WHERE????
yeah rts 30 & 401 to be exact
(I guess I should just be glad she offered to take us there instead of preparing a meal for us. Usually if we go over for dinner we bring our own food because otherwise she only has salad for us. )

Ugh, and don't get me started on the relatives who cannot fathom raising a vegan child. I don't comment on the over-processed, chemical & preservative laden, hfcs sweetened, hydrogenated oiled, artificially flavored & colored, nutritionally void CRAP they "feed" their children; why do they feel the need to comment on the organic, plant-based, whole foods mostly from scratch that I prepare for my family? :
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