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post #1381 of 1466
I've been lurking for 3 days reading all the pages and am going to drop my 2 favorite gems:

Told a friend I pick up my 6-month-old if he wakes up from a nap early and I just got out of the shower even before I get dressed:

Her: "Don't you ever just let him fuss?"
Me: "No"

Out to lunch with my mom and she snatches the baby away from me and starts to walk away:

Her: "I'm taking him on a walk. He's not going to people as easy these days. You have to get him used to going to other people"
Me: "No I don't. Can I have my son back now?"

Sometimes I feel like a two-year-old saying "No" all the time, but I'm just exercising my right to raise my kid according to the dictates of my conscience.
post #1382 of 1466
Oh, and my favorite comeback for the "homeschooled-kids-are-weird-thing" is

"My husband was homeschooled. He's my favorite person in the world. I can't think of anyone else I'd rather socialize with."
post #1383 of 1466
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Originally Posted by amberskyfire View Post
I don't get people who think that kids only learn to socialize at school and never if they are homeschooled - as if they think homeschooled kids aren't allowed to leave the house.

Homeschooled kids get to socialize more and it's with people of all different age groups and people of their own choosing rather than ONLY people their exact age and then be forced to make friends within that group.

Besides, didn't these people ever GO to school? YOU'RE NOT ALLOWED TO SOCIALIZE IN SCHOOL. You sit at a desk and stay still and don't talk. Then you get fifteen minutes to play at recess. Sounds like the perfect way to socialize to me.
No kidding. At my kids school, they are only allowed to play with kids in their own class at recess. Yeah. A WHOLE LOTTA socializing going on there! I cant wait for this school year to be over...counting down the days now....
post #1384 of 1466
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Originally Posted by angelamariebee View Post
Well, I agree-- it's not the same. Depending on the child, homeschooling is probably BETTER for them! Not every child fits so neatly into the public school system. I'd tell her THAT! lol
It isn't the same, but I definitely don't think she meant it was different in a positive way. She definitely said that homeschooled children are socially awkward, and unlikely to succeed in life.

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post #1385 of 1466
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Originally Posted by dianakaye View Post
Oh, and my favorite comeback for the "homeschooled-kids-are-weird-thing" is

"My husband was homeschooled. He's my favorite person in the world. I can't think of anyone else I'd rather socialize with."
I totally agree! My husband was homeschooled where as I was in public school and my husband can talk to anyone or do anything and until this past few months (of soul searching) I couldn't even pick up the phone and order a pizza without a completely mental breakdown of having to make conversation with a stranger. Thank You Public education for making me a metaphorical closet case.

(I don't blame it all on being in public school, but some of the things I had to deal with there certainly exacerbated the situation at hand.)
post #1386 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin View Post
I totally agree! My husband was homeschooled where as I was in public school and my husband can talk to anyone or do anything and until this past few months (of soul searching) I couldn't even pick up the phone and order a pizza without a completely mental breakdown of having to make conversation with a stranger. Thank You Public education for making me a metaphorical closet case.

(I don't blame it all on being in public school, but some of the things I had to deal with there certainly exacerbated the situation at hand.)
Whoa, I seriously had to do a double take to make sure I hadn't written this post and then forgot. I seriously could have! Although my husband wasn't entirely homeschooled, he was for awhile.
post #1387 of 1466
Just read through the entire thread....wow, there are some really interesting people out there!

I can think of two instances of dumb and/or hurtful things people have said to me...

#1 When my dh and I were expecting our first baby, I had a great deal of bleeding and we truly thought we would lose a very much wanted pregnancy. We called his parents for support, and my FIL said to me, "Well, I hope you lose the baby - it will just ruin your lives if you have one now." I couldn't even speak.

#2 We had a homebirth with our last baby, and my mother remarked that having our 6 1/2 yo dd there to watch would either turn her into a lesbian or a nun. All I could do was laugh......and at 14 1/2, dd is not showing signs of being either (although I guess being present for this next baby's birth could just do her in!)
post #1388 of 1466
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Originally Posted by FiveLittleMonkeys View Post
#1 When my dh and I were expecting our first baby, I had a great deal of bleeding and we truly thought we would lose a very much wanted pregnancy. We called his parents for support, and my FIL said to me, "Well, I hope you lose the baby - it will just ruin your lives if you have one now." I couldn't even speak.

You FIL sounds like my stepson : When we were told we had had a miscarriage with our first pregnancy the little %$&* had the guts to literally DANCE in front of us and tell us how happy he was, he didn't want a 'screaming brat' around in the first place. When I ended up in emerg surgery a month later, after find out it was ectopic and not a miscarriage, he did the same after I came home.
Some people just shouldn't speak.
post #1389 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin View Post
I totally agree! My husband was homeschooled where as I was in public school and my husband can talk to anyone or do anything and until this past few months (of soul searching) I couldn't even pick up the phone and order a pizza without a completely mental breakdown of having to make conversation with a stranger. Thank You Public education for making me a metaphorical closet case.

(I don't blame it all on being in public school, but some of the things I had to deal with there certainly exacerbated the situation at hand.)
Oh my! I too could have written this post. But I never realized that it could have been the homeschooling. I guess at public it is just too easy to go your whole day not talking to anyone. And even to this day we bicker about who calls in the order for Chinese. And he usually does!
post #1390 of 1466
About breastfeeding and DD not really taking to solids:

Me: Well, at least she doesn't really need them yet. Maybe I'll just bf forever and then we won't have to deal with it! Ha, ha!

MIL: Well I won't even tell you about my sister's nightmare of bfing her two year old.

Me: What happened?

MIL: Her breasts went completely flat. That boy just sucked them flat and she never got them back! Now, I know you've got more to start with than she ever did, but you just watch out or you'll have a flat chest too.

Me: Uh...oh. (thinking yeah right, my DDs are just going to turn into a flat chest?!)

MIL: She shouldn't have been nursing him in the first place. That boy has all sorts of problems, you just shouldn't nurse a kid that old. It's not healthy for them.

post #1391 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Amber Lion View Post
About breastfeeding and DD not really taking to solids:

Me: Well, at least she doesn't really need them yet. Maybe I'll just bf forever and then we won't have to deal with it! Ha, ha!

MIL: Well I won't even tell you about my sister's nightmare of bfing her two year old.

Me: What happened?

MIL: Her breasts went completely flat. That boy just sucked them flat and she never got them back! Now, I know you've got more to start with than she ever did, but you just watch out or you'll have a flat chest too.

Me: Uh...oh. (thinking yeah right, my DDs are just going to turn into a flat chest?!)

MIL: She shouldn't have been nursing him in the first place. That boy has all sorts of problems, you just shouldn't nurse a kid that old. It's not healthy for them.

that is so full of stupid I don't know where to begin!
post #1392 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Tari Mithrandir View Post
You FIL sounds like my stepson : When we were told we had had a miscarriage with our first pregnancy the little %$&* had the guts to literally DANCE in front of us and tell us how happy he was, he didn't want a 'screaming brat' around in the first place. When I ended up in emerg surgery a month later, after find out it was ectopic and not a miscarriage, he did the same after I came home.
Some people just shouldn't speak.
I don't think UAV even covers that!

Swearing Swearword with a side of Profanity!!!!
post #1393 of 1466
My MIL always says that traits, looks, intelligence, etc..comes from the "Weathers" side. I ask "Ya' think I might have had something to do with it or anyone from my family"? Since I am adopted it is just assumed I have no genes that go back farther than me or even if I have any. Frustrating...Especially since my daughter tends to have mainly my traits, toes, temper...Ok, I am digging my own grave. She does have my hubbie's uni-brow which (is not that bad but bugs me) I will fix when she is old enough. Hubbies is much worse...LOL!
post #1394 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Amber Lion View Post
About breastfeeding and DD not really taking to solids:

Me: Well, at least she doesn't really need them yet. Maybe I'll just bf forever and then we won't have to deal with it! Ha, ha!

MIL: Well I won't even tell you about my sister's nightmare of bfing her two year old.

Me: What happened?

MIL: Her breasts went completely flat. That boy just sucked them flat and she never got them back! Now, I know you've got more to start with than she ever did, but you just watch out or you'll have a flat chest too.

Me: Uh...oh. (thinking yeah right, my DDs are just going to turn into a flat chest?!)

MIL: She shouldn't have been nursing him in the first place. That boy has all sorts of problems, you just shouldn't nurse a kid that old. It's not healthy for them.

Aaaaagh! The Stupid, how it burns!

Seriously, it's so bizarre to me when people think breasts are like water balloons, especially women. How can you be an owner of breasts and think that? Surely women must notice that there's a lot of tissue there that isn't milk, (like when she is not lactating,) when she is putting her bra on every day?
post #1395 of 1466
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Originally Posted by CorasMama View Post
Aaaaagh! The Stupid, how it burns!

Seriously, it's so bizarre to me when people think breasts are like water balloons, especially women. How can you be an owner of breasts and think that? Surely women must notice that there's a lot of tissue there that isn't milk, (like when she is not lactating,) when she is putting her bra on every day?
Most of a typical woman's life her breasts are "non-functional" (if they ever use them at all) and they certainly don't teach this subject in school so I can understand how they just wouldn't be aware. It's really astonishing how much most women do NOT know about their bodies (breasts, vulvas/vaginas, reproductive system, etc). Sad, really.
post #1396 of 1466
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Originally Posted by FiveLittleMonkeys View Post
#2 We had a homebirth with our last baby, and my mother remarked that having our 6 1/2 yo dd there to watch would either turn her into a lesbian or a nun.
I love the assumption by your MIL that being a lesbian or a nun is a bad thing. :
post #1397 of 1466
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Originally Posted by angelamariebee View Post
Most of a typical woman's life her breasts are "non-functional" (if they ever use them at all) and they certainly don't teach this subject in school so I can understand how they just wouldn't be aware. It's really astonishing how much most women do NOT know about their bodies (breasts, vulvas/vaginas, reproductive system, etc). Sad, really.
That is very true. The outcry you hear when you mention menstrual cups....I am supposed to put THAT WHERE?? So many women are completely unfamiliar with their own bodies, it's amazing. Most women will never know the location of their uterus, how it can "wander" during a cycle etc. Oh well.
post #1398 of 1466
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Originally Posted by dianakaye View Post
I've been lurking for 3 days reading all the pages and am going to drop my 2 favorite gems:

Told a friend I pick up my 6-month-old if he wakes up from a nap early and I just got out of the shower even before I get dressed:

Her: "Don't you ever just let him fuss?"
Me: "No"
I have what you could call an exceptionally well demeanored preemie. i have heard him cry only a handful of time. otherwise he protests mildly to whatever is bugging him. he is very chill at 2.5 months. everyone asks me first, if he cries. then when i say no..."oh that'll change! pretty soon he'll be screaming all the time!" well, there's no reason it needs to...his needs are met by silent cues still. he hardly ever has to make a noise. except his hang out sounds. i love those.

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Out to lunch with my mom and she snatches the baby away from me and starts to walk away:

Her: "I'm taking him on a walk. He's not going to people as easy these days. You have to get him used to going to other people"
Me: "No I don't. Can I have my son back now?"

Sometimes I feel like a two-year-old saying "No" all the time, but I'm just exercising my right to raise my kid according to the dictates of my conscience.
im sitting next to ds in swing RIGHT after getting him to sleep. he hadnt been sleeping well that morning and still needs lots of rest. mil comes upstairs and sits down next to him and proceeds to touch and talk to him. very playfully i said "dont you dare wake him up! i just got him down."
mil: i have grandma rights! i can do what i want. i dont have to explain what i do with MY GRANDBABIES!"

no you dont. yes you do. no they arent!

grrrrr:
post #1399 of 1466
oh yeah. heres 2 more from another parent in the NICU:

no! dont bite his nails! they'll grow in weird.

im not kissing my baby on the lips or hands for AT LEAST 6 months. you shouldnt. it can be really bad. all the germs you know?


i giggled quietly.
post #1400 of 1466
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Originally Posted by chinchen View Post
im not kissing my baby on the lips or hands for AT LEAST 6 months. you shouldnt. it can be really bad. all the germs you know?
Do they not realize that the baby come out their crotch? I mean kissing their hands is a lot less messy lol.
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