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Look Suuckie! Another Puppy! My sister is really weird! LOL
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So many new stories, must comment on all of them!! :

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#1 When my dh and I were expecting our first baby, I had a great deal of bleeding and we truly thought we would lose a very much wanted pregnancy. We called his parents for support, and my FIL said to me, "Well, I hope you lose the baby - it will just ruin your lives if you have one now." I couldn't even speak.
Um, so do we have the same FIL? Because, my FIL told DH the same thing when were pregnant with DS. It was more like, "You guys shouldn't have gotten pregnant, it was the worst thing you could have ever done for your life."

I still haven't gotten over that comment, and it ticks me off when I see him being all sweet to DS. :

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Aaaaagh! The Stupid, how it burns!

Seriously, it's so bizarre to me when people think breasts are like water balloons, especially women. How can you be an owner of breasts and think that? Surely women must notice that there's a lot of tissue there that isn't milk, (like when she is not lactating,) when she is putting her bra on every day?
But, like OMG, flat boobs are like, so totally awful, don't you know?
You know, for a culture that claims to be so sexually advanced, and in turn with our bodies, we sure can be backwards..Yikes.

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Sometimes I feel like a two-year-old saying "No" all the time, but I'm just exercising my right to raise my kid according to the dictates of my conscience.
YES! Me too! Dealing with the IL's has been more of a challenge then raising my child. I say "no" more to them, then I do to DS, and it's mainly because they ignore me or DH.
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Originally Posted by In Exile View Post
That is very true. The outcry you hear when you mention menstrual cups....I am supposed to put THAT WHERE?? So many women are completely unfamiliar with their own bodies, it's amazing. Most women will never know the location of their uterus, how it can "wander" during a cycle etc. Oh well.
I fully plan on having DD study Taking Charge of Your Fertility and books like it when she's older. This is stuff they NEED to know!
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I fully plan on having DD study Taking Charge of Your Fertility and books like it when she's older. This is stuff they NEED to know!
Toni Weschler wrote a book for teen girls: Cycle Savvy: The Smart Teen's Guide to the Mysteries of Her Body
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Toni Weschler wrote a book for teen girls: Cycle Savvy: The Smart Teen's Guide to the Mysteries of Her Body
Awesome, thanks! I've got quite a few years before I have to worry about this though. DD isn't even three yet.
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My grandma (love her to death, but just different eras, you know?) kept saying that the baby was hating being on my back in the wrap, hated being in the ring sling, and she'd be much happier if I'd just bring a stroller for her when we go to the zoo. Me, my sister, and my mom all kept telling her she loved it. She still felt sorry for the baby and was beyond delighted when I put her in the older kid's stroller during lunch. There Maile was, giggling and babbling while on my back, and grandma would not quit insisting that she must hate it. Why do people think babies don't like being held?
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im not kissing my baby on the lips or hands for AT LEAST 6 months. you shouldnt. it can be really bad. all the germs you know?
nak

i was concerned about ds and kissing him on his sweet baby lips because if the germs (in my mouth) one day i said "to hell with it" an kissed him on the lips..

he let out a HUGE belch just as i did! i'm lucky it was just a burp!
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Not sure if this counts...

I am 6 months preggo with 2nd baby girl and don't know if this counts but was trying to explain anterior placenta to an aquaintance. I had explained that I do feel baby move but you just can't feel it on the outside yet. She responds with "You don't think the baby could be stillborn do you"? OMG! Not the first stupid thing I have heard out of someone's mouth lately...
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Originally Posted by PatienceAndLove View Post
Toni Weschler wrote a book for teen girls: Cycle Savvy: The Smart Teen's Guide to the Mysteries of Her Body
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Originally Posted by angelamariebee View Post
Awesome, thanks! I've got quite a few years before I have to worry about this though. DD isn't even three yet.
My DD isn't one yet, but I am bookmarking that book in readiness for when she is older. The general lack of knowledge and understanding women seem to have of their bodies is astounding!!!
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This past weekend we went to spend the weekend with my MIL. It was mostly a good weekend with a couple of gems in there.

My favourite was when we were all eating birthday cake she'd made for my DP (his birthday was Wednesday so we celebrated a few days early with her while we were down). I was sitting at the table with DS1 and DP was standing up eating holding on to DS2 who was perfectly content (but only as long as Daddy was standing ).

She came over from eating her cake with icing on her finger and tried to put it in the baby's mouth. DP said No, he can't have that and turned to face the other way. She walked around him and tried again from the other side. : DP walked all the way over to the other side of the room and said "No, he really really cannot have anything except breastmilk". She replied, "You know you're allowed to give him little tastes!" as if DP had just not been told this, and she was informing him of something very important to childrearing.

Did I mention the baby in question was only 3.5 months old??? AND has multiple sensitivities to foods through my milk already, multiple allergies to fabrics, and at least one drug allergy that we know about already AND has a gut that is still healing from antibiotics (all of which she knows btw).

The worst part is she sees nothing wrong with that... so we can't even trust her to not do it again. We're adamant that he not have anything other than me until at least six months, and no dairy/egg/gluten challenges until after twelve months and she doesn't see it as important so we'll have to be on guard at all times.
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This one has been mentioned before, but WHY do people think babies are bad if they cry!

Yesterday DH's aunt was over and DS cried at various times when he wanted something... usually attention and since he's at that stage and doesn't really see her that often he wanted reassurance that yes, mama is still here and still knows that he's playing on the floor and that no mama isn't going anywhere. These are not bad traits! He was NOT throwing a temper tantrum, and once I answered him or called out to him he immediately stopped!

Yet she feels it's ok to look at him and say aren't you a bad boy. I was totally floored! HE'S 11 MONTHS OLD HE DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO BE BAD!!!!
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Yet she feels it's ok to look at him and say aren't you a bad boy. I was totally floored! HE'S 11 MONTHS OLD HE DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO BE BAD!!!!
not to mention how it makes me *shudder* when people call children "bad."
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Originally Posted by goodheartedmama View Post
My grandma (love her to death, but just different eras, you know?) kept saying that the baby was hating being on my back in the wrap, hated being in the ring sling, and she'd be much happier if I'd just bring a stroller for her when we go to the zoo. Me, my sister, and my mom all kept telling her she loved it. She still felt sorry for the baby and was beyond delighted when I put her in the older kid's stroller during lunch. There Maile was, giggling and babbling while on my back, and grandma would not quit insisting that she must hate it. Why do people think babies don't like being held?
My MIL said to me today (again, might I add) that I'm going to want to get a "carrier" (baby bucket) because he's going to keep getting big. I said, "For what?" and she replied, "For when you go out...like to restaurants. He's going to get too big to hold before he can sit up." Not only do I not believe that (He already has crazy head control for a 1 month old) but I don't mind holding him. And, he's usually content to just lay on a booth next to me when we go out to eat. Why does everyone think that baby buckets are the best thing ever? I hate them. They just look so bulky and cumbersome. I really don't want to carry it around.

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Originally Posted by newmommy7-08 View Post
Yet she feels it's ok to look at him and say aren't you a bad boy. I was totally floored! HE'S 11 MONTHS OLD HE DOESN'T KNOW HOW TO BE BAD!!!!
If I had a dollar for every person that has asked if DS is a "good baby" (or commented on what a "good baby" he is) we'd be on our way to a college fund!

Hmm..maybe that's the key. Start charging for the "good baby" "bad baby" stuff...
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So, if a baby is too big too hold, how is adding an extra 10lbs to the weight make it easier to carry him/her?
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So, if a baby is too big too hold, how is adding an extra 10lbs to the weight make it easier to carry him/her?
My thoughts exactly. Plus the SIZE it adds?
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Originally Posted by AFWife View Post
My MIL said to me today (again, might I add) that I'm going to want to get a "carrier" (baby bucket) because he's going to keep getting big. I said, "For what?" and she replied, "For when you go out...like to restaurants. He's going to get too big to hold before he can sit up." Not only do I not believe that (He already has crazy head control for a 1 month old) but I don't mind holding him. And, he's usually content to just lay on a booth next to me when we go out to eat. Why does everyone think that baby buckets are the best thing ever? I hate them. They just look so bulky and cumbersome. I really don't want to carry it around.
I don't get this either. We had an infant seat but it rarely left the car. DD was probably seven months old before we were comfortable letting her sit by herself in a high chair at restaurants and even then it was bittersweet. I teared up a little the first time she sat in one, I missed her!

Which brings me to another point-- they really aren't small for that long. Seven months of holding her while I ate was NOTHING. People can't seem to put that into perspective. Like with breastfeeding, I couldn't imagine having only nursed her for a few months (I nursed for 30). That just seems like such a short time for me! Even the 2+ years that I did nurse went by so fast. I think I spent a lot of time waiting for DD to reach the next milestone and "grow up" because it was exciting. The next baby (if there is one), I'm going to REALLY cherish those early months because they just fly by! It's amazing!
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Another gem from the inlaws, it's a two part story!

We've had some major issues with the IL's listening to us regarding anything parenting. It's infuriating, and eye-rolling at best. Anyway, so this weekend we had the final situation that made us finally decide we need to stand our ground.

We're getting ready to leave their house (after the lovely homeschooling comments- my brain hurt too much to socialize anymore), and DS was walking down their stairs, where he noticed a box of candy that MIL had for her office.

DS: Deesh? (This?)
MIL: Oh yes! I'll get you one!
DH: What is that?
MIL: Nothing.
DH: No, seriously, what is it?
Me (whispering to him): Chocolate.
DH: Is that chocolate?
MIL: Yeah, he wants some (unwraps the chocolate)
DH: No, he doesn't need it.
MIL: It's okay, it won't hurt him.
DH: I know that, but he's not having any. There is no need for him to have any junk at this age.
MIL: Oh c'mon. (Hands the chocolate to DS)
DH: No. (Takes the chocolate out of DS's hand)
MIL: It's just chocolate, he can have it (Takes it out of DH's hand and hands the chocolate back to DS:
Me: MIL, he doesn't need it.
DH: Seriously. We said no. (Takes the chocolate and hands it to me)
MIL: Where did the chocolate go?
Me: I ate it, so DS wouldn't.
MIL: I'll get him another piece!
Me: (under my breath) What the $%^?!
DH: No, Mom, he doesn't need it, we're not giving him chocolate.
MIL: It's okay! REALLY! You need to relax! He deserves it! (Hands DS chocolate AGAIN)
DH: C'mon, stop it! (Eats the chocolate out of DS's hand)
Me: DH, let's get out of here. Bye MIL.


So, on the way home, I told DH it was time to tell them that they need to listen to us, or there's going to be consequences. For so long, we've fought with them, and this just was too much. It wasn't even about the chocolate in the end, it was the fact that she wouldn't listen. DS has had tastes of things before, but I never let the IL's do anything like that because they don't a) know when to stop and b) don't listen to either of us when we tell them to stop. We're DS's parents, we make the decisions, and they need to listen to us when we tell them to stop.

DH went to talk to his parents just last night about it.

DH: So, I just wanted to talk to you guys about what happened on Sunday.
MIL: What happened?
DH: When we say no to you about something with DS, you need to listen to us. We're his parents.
MIL: Is this about the chocolate?
DH: Well, no, but that situation is why we are talking to you about this.
MIL: It's JUST chocolate!
DH: Mom, that's not what I'm trying to tell you. I'm not here to debate chocolate, I'm here to say that we are DS's parents, and what we say goes.
MIL: Chocolate is actually good for you, you know.
DH: C'mon. He's 17 months old, we've decided no candy or junk food. He loves fruits and veggies, we'd like to keep it that way as long as possible.
MIL: Well, there is nothing wrong with chocolate.
DH: Mom. It's not about the chocolate. We've made this decision as his parents, and you need to listen to us.
MIL: Well, what about smarties? Can he have smarties?
DH: NO. Those are candy, NO CANDY.
MIL: So what are you going to do when he's older and all the other kids have smarties, because all kids eat smarties, and he's the only one who can't?
DH: Are you serious? Because it feels like you are trying to egg me on now. That's ridiculous.
MIL: Fine.
DH: We just want you to respect that we make the choices for him, and we decide what happens with DS because he is our son.
FIL: So what can he have?
DH: Anything but candy, junk food, or stuff that is bad for anyone, no matter their age.
FIL: Can he have an orange?
DH: Yes.
FIL: What about a hashbrown?
DH: Yes.
MIL: Oh, he can have a hashbrown but not chocolate?
DH: Hashbrowns are potatoes. Not even the same thing.
FIL: Can he have water?
DH: What?! Are you mocking me now? You know he can have water.


If you managed to get through all of that, and not have your head explode, kudos to you. The stupid makes my head feel like it's going to fall off.
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If you managed to get through all of that, and not have your head explode, kudos to you. The stupid makes my head feel like it's going to fall off.
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Got through, but boy did I want to get up and leave that house
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Oh my gosh, teale! You handled that situation much better than I would have! I so would have snatched that chocolate from MIL after the second time, dropped it on the floor and ground it deep into the carpet with my foot.

I do NOT tolerate people treating me like I'm not worth listening to :

Kudos to you for being so calm and sweet!
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MIL: Well, what about smarties? Can he have smarties?
DH: NO. Those are candy, NO CANDY.
MIL: So what are you going to do when he's older and all the other kids have smarties, because all kids eat smarties, and he's the only one who can't?
DH: Are you serious? Because it feels like you are trying to egg me on now. That's ridiculous.
MIL: Fine.
DH: We just want you to respect that we make the choices for him, and we decide what happens with DS because he is our son.
FIL: So what can he have?
DH: Anything but candy, junk food, or stuff that is bad for anyone, no matter their age.
FIL: Can he have an orange?
DH: Yes.
FIL: What about a hashbrown?
DH: Yes.
MIL: Oh, he can have a hashbrown but not chocolate?
DH: Hashbrowns are potatoes. Not even the same thing.
FIL: Can he have water?
DH: What?! Are you mocking me now? You know he can have water.


If you managed to get through all of that, and not have your head explode, kudos to you. The stupid makes my head feel like it's going to fall off.
This is the funniest thing I've read all day. Keep the ILs around just for the comedy it brings MDC

Does your MIL really "mock" your DH?? That totally sounds like something I would do (not give some one else's baby chocolate, but act spacey when I don't want to "get" what some one is telling me about child-rearing).
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