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post #1421 of 1466
This advice wasn't for me, but for someone else who posted in a group I'm in. She was asking for ideas on what to feed her baby now that he was on solids and someone replied:

"My friends daughter is 7 mos old and she love kraft mac and cheese becuase the baby food crap is nasty and has no flavor, and I wouldnt feed that crap to my kids if someone paid me too..."

It's relatively low on the stupid-scale, compared to some of the other stuff posted here but I still couldn't help but think, "Really?!" I'm not a fan of jarred food either, but I'd certainly choose that over Kraft mac and cheese!
post #1422 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Crystal_R View Post
Do they not realize that the baby come out their crotch? I mean kissing their hands is a lot less messy lol.
That being said, you'll do your kids a huge favor keeping people with mouth herpes, er, cold sores, from kissing them.
post #1423 of 1466
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Originally Posted by angelamariebee View Post
I'm not a fan of jarred food either, but I'd certainly choose that over Kraft mac and cheese!
I love Kraft Dinner. Its my weak spot : But I'm not a baby!

teale: I'm taking notes, my MIL is warming up the crazy.
post #1424 of 1466
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Originally Posted by teale View Post
If you managed to get through all of that, and not have your head explode, kudos to you. The stupid makes my head feel like it's going to fall off.
Oh. My. God.

Just READING that makes me so frustrated.... I can only imagine what it was like to LIVE it.


It sounds like your MIL needs very clear, fast, and unbending boundaries. As in "No, DS cannot have chocolate. Period. If you say one more word about chocolate, we are leaving immediately." Then do it without saying a word. Every time, with every one of these ridiculous situations.

Sorry- I know you didn't ask for advice. I'm just thinking it through in my head for when I face something similar.
post #1425 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Jarynsmommy View Post
I tell ya...some of these "old wives tales" scare me to death. I'm willing to bet that's why many poor babies didn't make it past a year old. I was terrified the first time ds had a fever and I was at work. I threatened dp if he did anything his mother told him to do before consulting me I would kill him. I just knew she'd tell him to pack ds in ice or rub him with alcohol.... :
I know what you mean. My mom and grandmother firmly believe that if a baby doesn't fall from a height of at least 1 foot before they are one year then they will not live past their first birthday. I might add that they are BOTH college graduates, but they hold on to this one and a few others with a passion.

A lot of old wives tales are just good common since, some of them however are.... well the opposite.:
post #1426 of 1466
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I know what you mean. My mom and grandmother firmly believe that if a baby doesn't fall from a height of at least 1 foot before they are one year then they will not live past their first birthday.
Sounds like a correlation/causation problem. Lethargic babies are both sick and less likely to do the sort of rolling and exploring that results in falls. So that might be where the idea that they *need* to fall came from.

It's sort of like how someone over in LWAB had her pediatrician tell her she would have to work on getting her LO to point. One sign of autism is not pointing, but it's not like pointing will prevent autism. I can just see it, ten years from now, special sticks to insert in baby-sized gloves.
post #1427 of 1466
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Does your MIL really "mock" your DH?? That totally sounds like something I would do (not give some one else's baby chocolate, but act spacey when I don't want to "get" what some one is telling me about child-rearing).
Yeah, I've seen them mock DH before (we had an incident at Christmas where they openly mocked him, as in the same stuff I saw in junior high, with the snickering, and so forth), so this behavior does not surprise me at all. We've just learned to just roll our eyes and ignore it for the most part, but it's starting to get personal, if that makes sense?

I just can't imagine another adult, in a mature, civil conversation acting like that, other then to be malicious or to throw a proverbial temper tantrum.

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teale: I'm taking notes, my MIL is warming up the crazy.
I could literally write a book with the crap they've pulled. My close GF's wonder why we still are in contact with them- this stuff is minor compared to some of the crap they've pulled previously. Unfortunately, it's getting more often, and they are being more belligerent about not listening.

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It sounds like your MIL needs very clear, fast, and unbending boundaries. As in "No, DS cannot have chocolate. Period. If you say one more word about chocolate, we are leaving immediately." Then do it without saying a word. Every time, with every one of these ridiculous situations.
Absolutely. I told DH that he needed to say something first, so that if this happens again, I can step up and say, "DH talked to you about this, we weren't joking, and now we're leaving". Before, we just stewed about it, vented to each other, avoided them for awhile, and then went back to their house, only to have the circumstances repeat. I'm hoping that despite the immature response we got, that they did "get it", and will back off.

I just wanted to precedence to be officially set before we started onto the harsher consequences (versus the lack of consequences we had before).
post #1428 of 1466
So last night I was at a mom's group, where a GF and I were discussing the NCSS and the NCDS (No Cry Discipline- I'd never heard of it). We were talking about how it's hard to instill the discipline when our kids are a younger age and don't grasp concepts.

Another mom in the group pipes up and says (we'll call her OM)

OM: Have you heard of The Baby Whisperer?
Me: Uh..yeah, I'm not a fan of scheduling like that, personally.
OM: It's not scheduling.
Me:...Yeah, it is.
OM: No, it's not. It's E.A.S.Y.
Me: I know. It's scheduling, and I don't think scheduling a baby is beneficial to them in anyway, especially when it's so structured and stringent.
OM: It's not scheduling though.
Me: Yeah, it is. I'm not insulting you, but it is scheduling, and I personally think that things like that can be detrimental to a baby's development.
OM: It was helpful for me....
Me: And that's fine, but it's scheduling, and I'm not really up for debating something that I'm totally against.
OM: How can you be against something you've never read?
Me: Ha. You don't know that. I've definitely taken the time to do my homework, that method is scheduling.

She tried to keep the debate going, but I just started talking to another mom. Apparently, The Baby Whisperer's method is NOT a schedule, even though, yanno, it's a schedule.
post #1429 of 1466
Teale, I like that you actually spoke up. Put the idea into her head that there may be something wrong with it. It sounds like it won't do her or her baby any good, but I always like it when I can give someone my differeing opinion, just so they know they exist, kwim? I'm really bad at that though, I probably would have just smiled and nodded along...
post #1430 of 1466
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Originally Posted by angelamariebee View Post
Teale, I like that you actually spoke up. Put the idea into her head that there may be something wrong with it. It sounds like it won't do her or her baby any good, but I always like it when I can give someone my differeing opinion, just so they know they exist, kwim? I'm really bad at that though, I probably would have just smiled and nodded along...
She had gotten on my last nerve at this point. She had expressed some off the wall opinions earlier in the meeting, and I just bit my tongue, but when she interjected into the conversation like that, I couldn't keep quiet anymore.
post #1431 of 1466
Just a quick one...

My SIL shaved her infant daughter's head...because she thought it would make her hair grow in thick :
post #1432 of 1466
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Originally Posted by amberskyfire View Post
Just a quick one...

My SIL shaved her infant daughter's head...because she thought it would make her hair grow in thick :
Actually, I know a girl who is pregnant, and when she was still TTC she told me she almost hoped she didn't have a girl, because in their family they always shave the baby's head to make the hair grow back thick. She says she doesn't want it done ('it ruins the baby soft and curls! And it doesn't work anyway!'), but knows if she ever leaves the baby, even for a few minutes, she'd come back to find it shaved!
I was shocked! :
post #1433 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Tari Mithrandir View Post
Actually, I know a girl who is pregnant, and when she was still TTC she told me she almost hoped she didn't have a girl, because in their family they always shave the baby's head to make the hair grow back thick. She says she doesn't want it done ('it ruins the baby soft and curls! And it doesn't work anyway!'), but knows if she ever leaves the baby, even for a few minutes, she'd come back to find it shaved!
I was shocked! :
BAH! I would lose my mind if someone did that to my baby!
post #1434 of 1466
Health Unit Nurse, to group of bf mothers at a new mom's group (my sis was in the group)...

"If your baby seems constipated, make sure you eat lots of fibre in your diet and it will pass through into your milk and help your baby!"

Eating a healthy diet is, of course, important while nursing...but, um, fibre doesn't absorb and goes through the digestive system, and comes out the other end....
post #1435 of 1466
My dh had a good one yesterday (bless his heart, tho - he really was sweet by trying to help me out ). DD is going thru a very clingy/needy stage right now; she cries all.the.time. over the littlest thing and will not be consoled by anyone other than me (when she can be consoled, that is). Dh suggested we transition her to a crib. When I asked why, he said "Well, I think her sleeping with us is causing her clinginess."

I had to chuckle and explain that it was just a stage and where she sleeps has nothing to do with it. He was relieved because it's only been the last week or so that she cuddles up to him at night, and he loves it.
post #1436 of 1466
My husband and I recently began applying continuum concept like methods to our parenting. We were amazed when we realized that all we had to do was let 7 mo old ds play in a baby proofed area and follow us around and he would be perfectly content. My mil is an extremely high strung woman and she really over stimulates ds on her visits. You know, lots of in your face, high pitched squealing baby talk and tickling, really hyper active stuff.

So we explained the c.c. to her and was like "Ooh, yea, thats totally how I parented, blah blah blah" So then dh says "Great, maybe you could help us do this with ds while you visit" and she just brushed us off, "I could but Im a grandmother and I just have to pay him lots and lots of attention!! *squeal squeal at baby*"

Not the worst thing, I know, but the previous posts about being disregarded by in laws reminded me of it... *sigh* soo irritating.

And to the pps who mentioned stupid horrible comments about miscarriages, yea, im right there with ya. The comments I got were so hurtful...
post #1437 of 1466
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Originally Posted by kriket View Post
I love Kraft Dinner. Its my weak spot : But I'm not a baby!
I've never fully outgrown my weak spot for Kraft Dinner (my mom didn't feed it to us...but grandma did). I've also given it to my kids, which I suspect is a mistake. But, even though I'm not fond of jarred baby food, I can't imagine advising anyone to feed their child (of any age!) Kraft Dinner, in order to avoid feeding them crap!
post #1438 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Storm Bride View Post
I've never fully outgrown my weak spot for Kraft Dinner (my mom didn't feed it to us...but grandma did). I've also given it to my kids, which I suspect is a mistake. But, even though I'm not fond of jarred baby food, I can't imagine advising anyone to feed their child (of any age!) Kraft Dinner, in order to avoid feeding them crap!
Exactly the point! DD has totally had Kraft on occasion (well not anymore due to her dairy sensitivity) and I wouldn't think that was a big deal. I just didn't get the whole "Kraft > Jarred food for a 7 month old" equation. Does not compute. lol
post #1439 of 1466
Yet another!

I can hardly believe this happened. Today I took my 14-month-old to an event in town and she was riding in the Ergo on my back. This complete stranger walked up to my baby to say hi and she had this enormous cookie in her hand that she was eating. It was about half gone.

The woman smiles at my baby and then GAVE HER THE COOKIE. Ew! After she had been eating on it and the edges were wet and everything! I was just horror-struck. The woman seemed so nice and I didn't want to hurt her feelings, so I said "oh, I'm so sorry, she can't have that - she's allergic." I took it away from my daughter and gave it back to the woman.

:Puke
post #1440 of 1466
Ewww!!
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