This from an ex coworker who I could not STAND.
One day at work she was boasting to our other coworkers that she knew the best parenting trick to keep teenage girls from getting pregnant. She said that when her daughter was eleven or twelve, she had another baby (my coworker, not her daughter). She boasted
"When the baby was born, I made my daughter completely take care of the baby all by herself. She had to change all of the diapers, do all of the feedings, even at night, and I didn't have to lift a finger the whole time. I told her that's what having a baby is like and she'd better not get pregnant as a teenager. That's how you teach girls not to get pregnant when they are young. It'll ruin your childhood."
I was absolutely HORRIFIED at this woman. For one thing, it's horrible to teach children that having kids is a punishment. For another, it was HER baby, not her daughter's baby. Her daughter didn't decide to have the baby, SHE did, which makes the baby MOM's responsibility, not the daughter's.
And for GOODNESS' SAKE, the daughter never got pregnant, so why on earth would you punish her in advance for something she's never even done? Ruin her childhood? Yeah, it ruins your childhood. She ruined her daughter's childhood and made that poor kid raise a child she never got pregnant with and never wanted almost on her own and even have to get up for the night feedings while HAVING TO GO TO SCHOOL!
And that, I believe, is the most messed up parenting advice I've ever heard.
And our coworkers' responses on hearing this little bit of advice? They all agreed that she was some kind of genius and would all be doing that with their daughters if they had any.