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post #21 of 1466
My mil does the same thing in regards to who the babes look like. She won't ever say dd or ds has one of my traits. The kids are tall, so she says to dh, "well your dad was tall", i'm like "hello, i'm 6'0, maybe they get it from ME!" Grr. Their hair color comes from some distant relative on dh's side, their eye color, everything. She just can't stand that the kids look so much like me. My son looks exactly like my younger brother, but apparantly he doesn't, he looks just like dh's great grandpas, uncles brothers , cousin or something. Its crazy.
post #22 of 1466
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Originally Posted by FREEmom1120 View Post
I HATE when people say a baby looks like anyone other than the mother or father though.
That made me laugh because every time I show people a pic of me, DS, and DF, they start talking about how DS looks like DF. I've been with DF for 10 months - no, my 3-year-old is not his! People are always SO shocked.
post #23 of 1466
Well that's different I think. Really sweet actually.

My MIL always says her dd looks like dd's aunt, and that dh looks like his cousin. They both look exactly like her.

I was prepared to be pissed when she told me my dd looked like some distant relative. Luckily it hasn't happened!
post #24 of 1466
So far I've been pretty lucky and haven't had a lot of really irritating stuff to report. However I did call my mom to ask which vaccinations I was given as a child (all of them) and she made some off handed comment that "if you were smart you would get all of the inoculations you can". This irritated me becasue we were having a conversation about me learning about them and what they do and the affects. So if I were smart I would learn everything I could and then make an educated choice.
The conversation turned then to circumcision and she declared that uncirced men are gross, dirty and diseased. I corrected her and said that no, no and no, that an uncirced guy isn't any of those, and asked if that is what she thought of my DH.

So clearly my mother is not on board with my style of parenting.
post #25 of 1466
I was told I should stop breastfeeding my 2 1/2 year old because he will remember it and resent me for allowing him to bf for so long.
post #26 of 1466
MIL -- Oh, Baby's eyes are just so beautiful! What colour are they?
Me -- They're green.
MIL -- They look like they change colour with this clothes! Just like his Daddy! He must have his Daddy's eyes!
Me -- Baby has green eyes.
SIL -- MilkTrance, YOU have green eyes! I think he has your eyes!
MIL -- Colour changing eyes... just like his Daddy!

post #27 of 1466
I'm sure this one's been said before, but it naively shocked me to hear it in real life (today, in fact):

Baby: [wails]
Me: I'll feed her in a minute, just got to get the cake out of the oven.
MIL: Maybe she's thirsty!
Me: Yeah, I'll feed her in a sec.
MIL: No, maybe she wants a drink of water.
[Baby is two weeks old]
Me: We don't give her water, just milk; I'll feed her in a second.
MIL: No, they get thirsty as well as hungry.
Me: Er, well, breastmilk is liquid...
MIL: No, they need to have water in between feeds, if they get thirsty.
Me: I'll feed her in a second...

*sigh*
post #28 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Smokering View Post
I'm sure this one's been said before, but it naively shocked me to hear it in real life (today, in fact):

Baby: [wails]
Me: I'll feed her in a minute, just got to get the cake out of the oven.
MIL: Maybe she's thirsty!
Me: Yeah, I'll feed her in a sec.
MIL: No, maybe she wants a drink of water.
[Baby is two weeks old]
Me: We don't give her water, just milk; I'll feed her in a second.
MIL: No, they get thirsty as well as hungry.
Me: Er, well, breastmilk is liquid...
MIL: No, they need to have water in between feeds, if they get thirsty.
Me: I'll feed her in a second...

*sigh*
My mom is fixated on the idea that babies really want water. "I know when I'm thirsty I really want a glass of water! Milk isn't refreshing or thirst-quenching!" Good grief. It drives me crazy.
post #29 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Smokering View Post

Baby: [wails]
Me: I'll feed her in a minute, just got to get the cake out of the oven.
MIL: Maybe she's thirsty!
Me: Yeah, I'll feed her in a sec.
MIL: No, maybe she wants a drink of water.
[Baby is two weeks old]
Me: We don't give her water, just milk; I'll feed her in a second.
MIL: No, they get thirsty as well as hungry.
Me: Er, well, breastmilk is liquid...
MIL: No, they need to have water in between feeds, if they get thirsty.
Me: I'll feed her in a second...

*sigh*
One of my clients said this to me a few days ago. She called to see how the baby and I were doing and every time she calls, she acts like my pediatrician and asks me a hundred questions about how I'm taking care of the baby (this woman doesn't even HAVE children and has never been around any). She's always asking how long the baby sleeps, how often, how often I'm feeding her, etc.

When she called a few days ago, she wanted to know if I was giving the baby (only 2 weeks old) water. I said no and she, utterly shocked, said "doesn't she ever get thirsty?"

Of course she does. My breast milk is made of saltine crackers, after all :
post #30 of 1466
I know! It really threw me... I mean, what a weird thing to say. Baby kittens and puppies and so on don't drink water, do they? And we don't see them dehydrating all over the place. Plus, little Rowan isn't even back up to her birthweight yet--well, maybe she is, she's being weighed tomorrow--anyway she certainly isn't obese, so why would I want to fill her little tummy up with something which contains no nutrients or calories? Very odd...
post #31 of 1466
re: the water thing...my MIL was told by their GP (who was her doc, the kids' doc, and the guy who attended the births of my husband and his sister) to give bottles of water. Since my MIL liked to sleep in, it was her oldest son's job to go in and give my hubby a full bottle (the BIG glass ones) of water when he woke up in the crib, before she would get up to nurse him or give him food.

Is it any wonder he has serious issues in knowing when he is hungry (he will go from feeling full to absolutely starving in a matter of minutes), and in eating when he's not hungry b/c he somehow worries he won't ever get fed again...



I realized I had a worst thing said, though the lady said it to my husband.

Background...I'm very "Irish" in appearance, with the light skin and blue eyes and blond brown red curly hair. My hubby is Korean, Portuguese, and Welsh, with the darkest eyes you've ever seen (one optometrist has ever been able to actually see where his pupil begins and iris ends, ONE) and black hair (his welsh/portuguese dad also had black hair along with his Korean mom), and he tans easily.

Our son arrived with serious Ronald McDonald hair (RED wild and curly).

His eyes were first blue, then green, then hazel. And now they are...amber. It's the only way to describe them without flat out saying that he has red eyes. Many strangers get confused looks and say "his eyes match his hair, I've never seen that". Neither have we.

OK but this is when he was still blue-eyed, so I've gotten off the track.

We went shopping for some clothes for me. I went into a dressing room. Baby was very small. We didn't own a stroller until DS was 2 years old, so hubby is holding baby, hotsling, diaper bag, and purse. Standing outside the women's dressing room.

Woman walks by, looks him up and down, looks at the baby...says...."You look as though you stole that child." And walked away.


Later on when DS was of playing-in-playground age, they were at the playground at our apt complex, having a grand time while I made dinner. They came in, much earlier than expected, DH almost in tears. They left, quickly, because he heard a woman on her balcony overlooking the play area, calling the police on him because there was a strange man in the playground who didn't have a child that looked like him there. We could feel glad that she was vigilant, but these were our *neighbors*.
post #32 of 1466
My MIL always insists that I need to rub/stroke the back of my newborns heads as often as possible or they will be cone headed for life. Every time she would come over she'd spend the entire time rubbing the baby's head.
post #33 of 1466
Mil said that my wearing my baby wasn't good for her. I took dd for a walk yesterday, ( it was sunny and nice ) I also had my dog with me. She touched her cheek and said she was cold. Uggg *if* she were cold she wouldn't be sleeping so peacfully.

She also questioned my mw what *we* should give her when my milk isn't enough for her. : stupid woman

That *we* won't be taking her outside for 3 months. told my mw this )

that her first words were going to be Oma

Whenever she cries mil always ohhhhh you can't find your sleep. Duhhhh no wonder when you are yelling in her ear.

My baby was screaming on Easter ( DH whole family was here ) and they kept saying ohhh poor baby, to many strangers for you and they still wanted to pass her around.

I hate it when mil tells me to put her down.

she is MY baby I wish they would leave me the heck alone!!!
post #34 of 1466
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post #35 of 1466
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Originally Posted by milkybean View Post

Woman walks by, looks him up and down, looks at the baby...says...."You look as though you stole that child." And walked away.


Later on when DS was of playing-in-playground age, they were at the playground at our apt complex, having a grand time while I made dinner. They came in, much earlier than expected, DH almost in tears. They left, quickly, because he heard a woman on her balcony overlooking the play area, calling the police on him because there was a strange man in the playground who didn't have a child that looked like him there. We could feel glad that she was vigilant, but these were our *neighbors*.

That's HORRIBLE! I'm so sorry for your DH.
post #36 of 1466
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Originally Posted by elisent View Post
My MIL always insists that I need to rub/stroke the back of my newborns heads as often as possible or they will be cone headed for life. Every time she would come over she'd spend the entire time rubbing the baby's head.
That is funny...of course we get a couple of times a week the question, how did you get your baby's head so round? She does have a nice shaped head but we did not have an hand in doing anything.
post #37 of 1466
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post #39 of 1466
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Originally Posted by In Exile View Post
Oh, I remembered a good one from being pregnant...

We have friends that love to play at a local bar, open mike night. Happens to be one of the last great dive bars with loooots of smoke. So, she said to me, oh, that's too bad, I would have loved for you guys to play with us, but it's such a smoked filled place...
Her husband heard that and "educated" her right away: "Honey, the baby is in her belly, there's no way the baby could get hurt".
Right...

Oh, by the way, she is a teacher in primary school...

But aside from that blooper nothing else came...
I wouldn't be around second-hand smoke when I was pregnant. That's not good for a fetus or a mom. Or did I read this post wrong?
post #40 of 1466
On a different message board, I was defending my parenting practices. I stated that I didn't want a child that jumped when I said jump (with a lot more detail and explanation) but that my children (and the kids in my class) do what I need them to do the majority of the time.

Someone jumped on me and said, "To me following directions the first time is very important. I mean, honestly...I can teach a dog to sit and stay in a single day. Surely, a two year old child is smarter than a dog, right? "

I sat staring at my screen with my mouth wide open (where's that jaw dropping smilie when I need it.)
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