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post #381 of 1466
He's 9 days old and already it begins...

Today from my MIL...
You know it's ok to let him fuss... no, I'm sorry it's not. Yes it is ok to let him make noises, but if he sounds distressed then he needs me.
You shouldn't hold him all the time, he'll smell your milk and will never be able to relax... WTF so I just imaine how much more soundly he sleeps ON ME as opposed to in the bassinet?

Then DH's aunt met him for the first time today. She was holding him out from her long ways and when he woke up that way he started screaming... not whimpering... but out and out screaming, he doesn't like that position, he feels completely insecure please don't do it. she cuddled him up to her just till he calmed and then held him out again, she wanted him to open his eyes... UGH! People are just incredible. Then she handed him off to grandma who held him for nearly 2 1/2 hours... Ummm NO do NOT keep my newborn from me for 2 1/2 freakin hours.

NExt Saturday is going to be fun when they play pass the baby at the annual 4th of July BBQ. DH is going to have to run interference. Let's hope he's REALLY hungry that day!
post #382 of 1466
That's another reason why I like to wear my babies. People don't try to grab them from your arms.
post #383 of 1466
Just remembered another... PLEASE do NOT PRESUME that just because my son is crying I am getting frazzled. The ONLY time since he was born I've honestly been frazzled was the first night after birth when he would not nurse... that was on 2 hours sleep after 18 hours of labor. MIL told baby to sssshhh when he was crying in his car seat today, "since we didn't want mommy getting frazzled". Thank you I handle stress a helluva lot better than that!
post #384 of 1466
My mother said something really weird today. She was talking about introducing solids to my son and I told her that he's still perfectly fine being exclusively breastfed.

She replied to me with "You really should give him some fruit now, because breast milk must be getting boring for him."

Eh?!
post #385 of 1466
since bm is strongly influenced by the foods mama eats and it changes flavor depending on mama's diet I would imagine it is one of the most "unboring" foods there is out there.
post #386 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Maeve View Post
That's another reason why I like to wear my babies. People don't try to grab them from your arms.
Yeah, put your baby in a sling. I'm so terrified to let others hold a new baby. They are so young, they don't understand what's going on. Plus, they don't have any kind of immune system yet. People will not ask to hold him if he's in a sling or even better - a wrap.

If anyone asks, I always say that my daughter is terrified of other people, but that I'd be glad to let them hold her when she grows out of it.
post #387 of 1466
I LOVED the old thread!

For some reason, my parents and in-laws have laid off in this last year or so of my DD's life. I think I got really good at ignoring their inane, impractical, and down right unhelpful suggestions!

The last time I dared (stupid, I know) to bring up a parenting issue to my mom it was in regards to my DD, then 18 months or so, and her poor sleeping. DD has never been a consistent sleeper and we've co-slept since day one. Anyway, mom's solution - "I just wouldn't get into bed with her anymore." At all, for anything, no nursing, no morning cuddles, no snuggles at night when DD is afraid. And then her emphatic, "I never didn't go to you kids!" lest I start thinking mom left me alone to cry. I can clearly remember going into my parents' room after a nightmare and being "allowed" to sleep on the floor next to their bed. Mom even put her hand down for me to hold. Wow, so caring.
post #388 of 1466
I've got a new one! Don't forget the comebacks, that was a good part of the old thread.

I was in the hospital for the weekend for surgery on my broken arm. I was blessed and determined to be in and out ASAP--I was admitted for about 8 hours. After surgery, the nurse very seriously sits down and gives me several reasons why she thinks I should stay. Granted, after surgery I shivered uncontrollably for a little while. But I asked for my husband and then asked, I think, when I could go home. But even before surgery, the surgeon had said I could get home midnight-1 am. He was very supportive of BFing too! So it likely said something on my chart.
So she is very serious and says, "You just came out of surgery, you could develop uncontrollable pain; the hospital is nice and quite; you can have a night away."
I was just smiling and nodding, so no smarts remarks, but drop
I am trying to rest, while I am at the hospital. I was concerned how co-sleeping would work when we got home (I think my husband likes it even more now that he's on nighttime diaper duty ). I had not been able to sleep longer than 15 minutes at a time (I checked every.single.time I woke up) between someone coming in to check my vitals(a very sweet CNA!) or sign more papers or something! Or I was waking up and asking my husband to call and check on MIL and baby(not sure how many times I asked, more than he called ) and crying missing her. I never cried for the pain. My MIL is wonderful, btw, I was not worried about her; I just knew my baby would need me when she went to sleep and woke in the night.

But the nurse was telling me we could have a night away at the hospital, while I'm trying to get comfortable on a hospital bed, and my husband is lying over on a cot. Not quite how I envision a 'night away'. Hmm, we could start a whole new side business for hospitals, "Come get a night away at your local hospital!" The food is cheaper than the Radisson.

Oh yeah, and I was also engorged for not having nursed for 9 hours. I pumped and dumped because of the x-rays, which I later read was unnecessary.

The same nurse also said she wouldn't BF while taking Percocet. I guess she's never done post-op recovery for c-sections. As if I'm going to stop nursing for a whole week! Hello, plugged ducts, mastitis and low supply!

We got home and got in bed just before baby woke up and needed to nurse. Waking up the next morning to our baby smiling at us and snuggling and blowing raspberries on my tummy--:::
post #389 of 1466
While at my MIL's a couple weeks ago, ds crawled to her dog's toy bin, and pulled out one of the doggy toys, and promptly stuck it in his mouth. I'm not really a germ/dirt nazi, but doggy toys are pretty yucky, as far as I'm concerned...So I took it from him, and said, "Nah, that ones yucky, lets chew on one of your toys".

At which my MIL piped up with: "Well, if dog saliva can heal wounds, I don't see why its bad for him", and then - THEN: "Its not like Daisy[the dog] licks her butt before she chews on her toys".

Oh really? Can you guarantee that?
post #390 of 1466
We spent the (too) long weekend with my MIL who must have asked me a million times if my 3 month old was on cereal yet. Nope, just breast milk thanks! She seemed perplexed that I have no intentions of introducing anything other than breast milk for at least 3 more months. This is the same lady who is totally fat-phobic and commented immediately on how fat my LO was getting, and not necessarily in a positive way. She also tried to take Nora out of my arms more than once in addition to constantly asking to hold her when I was in the middle of nursing her. When she did hold her for 20 minutes or so while I was in the shower, Nora got really fussy. Why? Because Grandma, who somehow managed to raise 4 kids of her own, didn't think that maybe her diaper needed changing! Oh well, at least she didn't have any problem with me washing diapers in her machine.
post #391 of 1466
Same here with the starting of the solids. My daughter isn't even 4 months old yet and the baby development book that I own says it's already time I started her on solids. The kid can't even sit up!
post #392 of 1466
ds isn't ready for solids at almost six months, but if you go by the "signs of readiness" some people use, he is definitely ready to start posting on the internet, lol! he doesn't grab at my plate anywhere nearly as much as he grabs at my keyboard.
post #393 of 1466
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Originally Posted by noordinaryspider View Post
ds isn't ready for solids at almost six months, but if you go by the "signs of readiness" some people use, he is definitely ready to start posting on the internet, lol! he doesn't grab at my plate anywhere nearly as much as he grabs at my keyboard.
Yes my DS too Actually last weekend I was out for lunch with friends who have a 7 mon old DD who they started on rice cereal at 5 mons. Anyway the dad asked me if Julian was still only on BM and I said yes and he asked if "that ever bothered me having to nurse him all the time" I answered no not at all (actually I am happy that I don't have to think about or prepare his food at all) and then he said "Well Emma was grabbing at food on the table all the time so they knew they had to start solids" I said "Yeah while Julian is always grabbing at my lap top but he is not getting one of those"
post #394 of 1466
I started having a dip in my supply the last couple days from a diet change and so I said something about it around my mother....ugh big mistake. First thing that flies out of her mouth "Do you need me to go get formula?"...Uh no mom! I told her I just needed to nurse and pump some more and eat some oatmeal.

So then my older sister comes over and she's playing with DS2 and start talking to him saying "You're gonna be starting on cereal and fruits soon aren't ya?" and before I could open my mouth my mother says "No he's not. She won't let him. I've already tried." LOL At least she's finally gotten the message!

I really hate that they think their pillars of wisdom when it comes to feeding my children. I've done a few years of research making sure I'm doing what I think is best for them...I'm not just picking up on a passing fad.
post #395 of 1466
Asking if our then 6-week old was eating solid foods yet. That made me realize that leaving him with some of the people we know will be scary, especially anyone in the baby boomer generation (where they'd give tiny babies cereal through a bottle to "help them sleep").
post #396 of 1466
I just got the greatest one... my grandmother explained to me that the reason my little man was fussy in the evenings was because it hurts babies to be held when they're going to sleep... thats funny since he only screams when I try to put him down :-P
post #397 of 1466
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Originally Posted by LilyPod View Post
But the kicker was this, towards the end of the conversation:

me: "You know the biological purpose of breasts is to feed your children, right?"

her: "No, breasts are for sex! They harden during orgasms to turn guys on."

Thanks alot, society. :
post #398 of 1466
[quote=LilyPod;11512233
me: "You know the biological purpose of breasts is to feed your children, right?"

her: "No, breasts are for sex! They harden during orgasms to turn guys on."

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Oh dear. This is just begging for a UAV.

Stupid isn't quite the word, but I can't think of a better one that wouldn't be considered name-calling.


How do people get these strange ideas?
post #399 of 1466
Thank goodness.... a way to pass these last few days before baby#2 arrives.... reading stupid comments! thanks for the new thread!

I'm sure I will be back with some of my own after I'm out and about with my newborn and 18mo for a while.

I bet the first thing I'll hear will be "wow.... looks like you have your hands full"

post #400 of 1466
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Originally Posted by bigeyes View Post
Oh dear. This is just begging for a UAV.

Stupid isn't quite the word, but I can't think of a better one that wouldn't be considered name-calling.


How do people get these strange ideas?
Honestly? I think it's because of a combination of sex taboos and school. Kids should be learning this stuff from their parents, but a lot of parents today are too embarrassed to talk to their kids about sex, so they wait for them to learn about it in school. Unfortunately, the teachers are not allowed to talk to kids about sex other than teaching them the textbook info, so they end up learning it form their equally clueless-about-sex friends : I think every stupid thing I've ever learned in my life I learned from a teenage friend.
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