What is the worst/dumbest thing anyone has ever said to you about parenting stuff? II - Page 25

[nolonger]

Originally Posted by IceyTheBatmom

Umm, what? My son's first birthday, and you want to get (not make!) the cake? Uh-uh. Not happening.

My mil from hell did this EVERY YEAR for dd, even though she had dairy allergies and couldn't eat the pink piece of trash from the bakery and I'd already baked her a REAL cake! She didn't even ask me, just "Oh, you can put your funny vegetarian food on the counter where it won't get in the way if you don't want to eat dd's birthday cake."

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by cabbitdancer

"Everyone did it to me, so now it's my turn!"

She had to put up with that sort of BS and she's choosing to do it to you? Next time she whines about you nursing while talking on the phone "What on earth makes you think I'd care what you want? I used to take your feelings into account, but then you told me that it was your turn to be inconsiderate on purpose. So now you can suck it up and if you don't like it, don't call."

[LizLizard]

I had this great conversation a couple days ago, my mother is the queen of not thinking before she speaks.

Mom: "So is DD eating today?"
Me: "Not much, but no big deal... she'll eat when she's hungry."
Mom: "Did she poop?"
Me: "No poop today, probably because she isn't eating much."
Mom: "You know, Freud says that daughters hold back bodily functions to get back at their mothers for things they've done to them. What have you done to her?"
Me: "Are you joking?"
Mom: "No, she's smart, it's obvious she's doing this to get back at you."

Good friggin' grief.

[NewTennMom]

Ok, so technically this isn't about 'parenting' but about actually having the baby... it was just so crazy when I heard it, I thought of this thread, and HAD to post.

Last week, I got an ultrasound. According to the US, the baby weighs in at 4lbs 12oz, which, if you REALLY believe US weights, is a wee bit big.

When I told my sister this, she exclaimed, "Well you should ASK for a c-section! You don't want to rip your 'parts'!"

Yeah, like I want extra surgery. What was she thinking???

[Kappa]

[Mom: "You know, Freud says that daughters hold back bodily functions to get back at their mothers for things they've done to them. What have you done to her?"Me: "Are you joking?"
Mom: "No, she's smart, it's obvious she's doing this to get back at you."
QUOTE]


Sounds like my mom. She swears the baby cries because he is being abused. She asks "What have you done to him?" She also accuses me of feeding him inappropriate foods whenever she changes the diaper and the color/consistency/smell/volume is not to her liking. Not funny at all...
Sometimes mothers have to be cut off. There's a fine line between genuine concern gone wrong, and ridiculousness that a new parent should not have to put up with.

[edensmama]

What is it with grandma's and poop? My mom always says ds is either hungery or poopy. It gets annoying. I highly doubt that an infant can "get back" at their mother by not pooping, when they get older they will find other ways.

[amberskyfire]

Here's a lovely gem I got from my mother about an hour ago.

My cousin is having a baby and she wants to go back to work almost right away, so my mother will be nannying for her most of the week.

Today on the phone, my mother told me that my cousin couldn't wait another month for the baby and wanted to have him now and my mother agreed with her and advised her to ask her doctor to have a c-section so they could have the baby a month early!

And neither of them sees a problem with this.

When I shrieked at my mother for saying something like that to my little cousin, she replied "well, SHE was born two months early and she's fine."

:

[Awaken]

Originally Posted by Ravishing

I was grocery shopping when DS was around 5 months old. He was in his car seat, glazed over and about to fall asleep. An old man came over to look at my son and tried in vain to get his attention. The man then looked at me and told me that my son has very poor vision and can't focus on things. Obviously at that age he could. I was a little stunned and trying to be polite and get on with my shopping so I said "actually he's thinking about taking a nap right now." It might not have come out perfectly but I assumed the man would understand that DS was half asleep and not focusing on a whole lot more than the back of his eye lids at that point in time. The man snorted and said "yeah - thinking about it" and then walked away muttering like I'm some idiot who doesn't know the first thing about their child's ability to see clearly.

Sometimes I really dread going shopping because it seems like a lot of the people who feel the need to make a comment are the ones who are better off not saying anything at all.

people are so strange! Why would someone feel the need to come up to a stranger in a store and say something like that about their baby?

[Mommy2Austin]

Originally Posted by amberskyfire

Here's a lovely gem I got from my mother about an hour ago.

My cousin is having a baby and she wants to go back to work almost right away, so my mother will be nannying for her most of the week.

Today on the phone, my mother told me that my cousin couldn't wait another month for the baby and wanted to have him now and my mother agreed with her and advised her to ask her doctor to have a c-section so they could have the baby a month early!

And neither of them sees a problem with this.

When I shrieked at my mother for saying something like that to my little cousin, she replied "well, SHE was born two months early and she's fine."

:

O.M.G. Are people really that completely clueless???!!!

Retorical question.

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by amberskyfire

Here's a lovely gem I got from my mother about an hour ago.

My cousin is having a baby and she wants to go back to work almost right away, so my mother will be nannying for her most of the week.

Today on the phone, my mother told me that my cousin couldn't wait another month for the baby and wanted to have him now and my mother agreed with her and advised her to ask her doctor to have a c-section so they could have the baby a month early!

And neither of them sees a problem with this.

When I shrieked at my mother for saying something like that to my little cousin, she replied "well, SHE was born two months early and she's fine."

:

And you'll look like a total UAV if you aren't shocked and horrified when the baby ends up in the NICU (: that at 36 weeks it's only for a few days). Do they make "I'm sorry for you, but you know it's your own fault." cards?

"I'm sorry that you're feeling blue,
But you know why, 'cause I told you,
I told you just a month/week/day ago
You'd be better off if things went slow."

[ernalala]

It was one of the first very nice springtime days so when I took my almost 1yo out for a stroll I went to sit on a bench while he was in the stroller, facing the pleasant morning sun.

Two elderly man were sitting on another bench close by. Then they walked by and actually one of them had the nerve to MOVE the stroller/my child so that my child would not be facing the sun:! In addition commenting that my son shouldn't be in the sun like that .

If There's ANYTHING that makes me mad about interfering in parenting by others, especially strangers, is touching or moving my baby without asking and/or in a way I do NOT WANT.

I gave them very fierce looks while moving my son again and said that my baby IS facing the sun because in spite of their assumption the sun IS good for him!

(by the way summer sun here is way too strong, so springtime, early mornings in summer and noon for autumn/winter are the best for sun exposure and vitamin D skin consumption).

Luckily they did not attempt moving DS a second time!

[MusicianDad]

Once in a blue moon we get someone who asks us what are we going to do if DD grows up straight.

Um... send her to repairative therapy and make her a lesbian I guess.

Most likely I'll help her pick out her wedding dress when she meets the man of her dreams.

[Mommy2Austin]

Originally Posted by MusicianDad

Once in a blue moon we get someone who asks us what are we going to do if DD grows up straight.

Um... send her to repairative therapy and make her a lesbian I guess.

Most likely I'll help her pick out her wedding dress when she meets the man of her dreams.

OMG thats special lol

I hope you pick out a lovely dress together

[paquerette]

Originally Posted by sapphire_chan

And you'll look like a total UAV if you aren't shocked and horrified when the baby ends up in the NICU (: that at 36 weeks it's only for a few days). Do they make "I'm sorry for you, but you know it's your own fault." cards?

Ah, but what if they're not too broken up over the NICU thing cause it gives her some extra recovery time at home alone? : I've heard of people being like that.

[jessica_lizette]

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[MusicianDad]

Originally Posted by jessica_lizette

Whenever I'm pissed off at my hubby I hold my poop for like three days to get back at him. Works like a charm.

...WTH does not pooping have to do with revenge?

Sounds more like she's never bothered to look up the mean of "anal retentive" and just stuck her own definition on it.

[elisent]

Originally Posted by MusicianDad

Sounds more like she's never bothered to look up the mean of "anal retentive" and just stuck her own definition on it.

[IceyTheBatmom]

I got more, from my dad. Mostly he just hassels me about avoiding junk food.

1. One time he was going on about how I was way too cautious about feeding DS, and I told him "Fine, if you're such an expert, go get some honey out of the kitchen for him, so he can get botulism and die." He turns to my mom and says "I think some people are way too caught up in the 'he could die' thing." She started to agree, but then I said, quite loudly, "I think some people are way too caught up in the 'telling me how to raise my kid,' thing." Then my mom laughed, and agreed with me, wholeheartedly.

2. My parents came over a couple days ago, and my dad asked "How long did that cloth diaper thing last?" I explained that the ones from the seriously overpriced diaper service sucked, and only really worked until DS got 'wiggly,' around 2 and 1/2 or 3 months old. Dad started to look smug, so I followed with "But the ones I'm sewing now don't leak nearly as much as those ones did, and he's bigger, so the disposibles cost more, so we're getting back in to it. Turns out washing them isn't as difficult." That wiped the look of his face.

3. So then a few subject changes later, he asked if his dear grandson was sleeping through the night. A common question, but much more reasonable now that DS is 10 months old. I said "Nope. I don't expect him to, either." Dad says "Isn't that the goal? Get him to sleep through the night? So you can sleep? You look like you need it." I explained that DS had taken two 30 minute naps in place of his usual two 1-1/2 to 3 hour naps that day, and that I do sleep through the night. DS goes to his bed for naps during the day, and for the first 'chunk' of the night, then when he wakes up, if DH is still up, he puts DS in the bed with me, or I'll get up and move him, so we get about 3 hours of time to ourselves, and DS can eat in his (and my) sleep until morning. The look on dad's face was 'Wow. You sure got that figured out.'

[heidirk]

Ahhh, (wiping tears from my eyes) I've been reading this thread all day! I love it.

I have a few things of my own to add, but first I'd like to offer a response to this:

[QUOTE=ernalala;11710684]Well, this is similar advice as I got from a pediatric dietician (free consultation offered by the hospital where DS1 was born and where he has his pediatrician). She insisted that now he is '6mo' (corrected age only less than 5mo!) I SHOULD start him on solids, I said sth about starting with some vegetables and fruit if I see he's ready, then she kept on telling me and INSISTING that my little baby should be put on REAL MEAL SOLIDS and IRON containing foods containing meat!, egg!, and that he should finish (finish!) three bowls of solids EVERY SINGLE DAY, and based on a strict scheme!!! I was not that super well informed yet about everything about babies but my common sense and mother instinct told me that this woman just didn't KNOW ANYTHING about what babies really need in their diet, which was of course still LOTS of breastmilk for the coming months (and beyond only I hadn't that clue yet :-)./[QUOTE]

IMO you're quite right about the timing, and expecting any baby to 'finish' a meal. That's too much too soon!

Just wanted to let you know that the IBCLC reccomends veggies, meats and egg yolks as first foods, because of the very low incidents of allergies with those foods. If you have philosophical objections to meat eating, that's be a different story, of course, but there is some good evidence to support the introduction of grains and fruits as first foods as contributing to obesity.


Here are my gems!

From my Mother- You really should get him a walker so he can scoot around the house on his own! (DS was about 4 mos)
me- Mom, it's not good for them to learn to walk that way, and it can damage their feet.
mom- No seriously honey, it teaches them to be good problem solvers! (and learning to crawl/walk doesn't?)
This is the same woman who let me take a trip down a flight of stairs in my walker as a infant! :

Then there was the very young male teller at the bank:
I had just mustered my painful postpartum self enough to walk a block to the bank, and I had DS in the sling.
Teller- That's a new way to carry a baby! (I see his supervisor visibly tense up)
Me- Actually, it's a very OLD way to carry a baby.
Supervisor relaxes, and smirks at ignorant young teller.


Then there's my grandmother, to whom it was recomended that she stop BF'ing her DD (my aunt) because she had mastitis. She said to me, 'I should have known I didn't need to do that, I grew up on a goat farm, and I should have asked my father what to do. Why, when a nanny got an infection, the first thing we did was milk her every chance we got!

Go, Granny, Go!

[chattie67]

I had 3 people gang up on me last weekend and ask me if "That baby is sleeping in his own bed yet?" and went onto say "have you considerred the psychological damage you are doing to him?"
I replied "everyone has their own opinions about what's right or wrong, babies don't come with hand books but I know far more people with separation anxiety and emotionally unstable people who btw were born in the era when everyone thought the CIO way was the only way then I have friends who are 40 and still want to sleep with their mama's"

Then I told them that if he still wanted to sleep with me by the time he got married then he and his new wife could support me. LOL :