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post #81 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Irishmommy View Post
I don't see a resemblance between them, but there is nothing there at all to scream "couldn't be the father". Ds has awesome eyes!
He actually looks like he has lots of daddy's facial features/bone structure with momma's coloring.
post #82 of 1466
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Originally Posted by jessica_lizette View Post
He actually looks like he has lots of daddy's facial features/bone structure with momma's coloring.

Maybe he does, I don't see it. Then again, everyone thinks that my dd1 is a clone of me, and I don't see that either.
post #83 of 1466
I am just remembering my story to post here!

DS2 & DS3 are 14 months apart. DS2 is small for his age and DS3 is on the bigger side for his age...so they are pretty much the same size (wear the same size clothing) and because they are brothers look similar. This is a conversation that I had with a woman in the mall when they were younger.

Her: oh, such cute twins.
Me: <giggle> they actually aren't twins, but thank you
Her: Are you sure?

Seriously? Am I sure? Actually no, I'm not sure. Maybe I really did have twins and just don't remember it!!
post #84 of 1466
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Originally Posted by CanidFL View Post

Her – Is he Spanish?
Me – no. I am white and My DH is black
Her – but his father is Spanish?
Me – no. My DH is black.
Her – Your DH must be mad he’s not the father. That baby is Spanish.
Me – He is the father. I’m married and DH is the father and he is black.
Her – oh so you got married first then had a baby with your husband. That isn’t normal.
Me – hmmmm (totally speechless)

I am still in awe at this conversation. It was about 3 weeks ago and I can’t stop laughing about it.
I had a similar conversation with someone who was curious about my ds, who is 1/4 black and 3/4 Irish. She kept saying "Irish" when she really meant "black" and it was so funny, because I might have found it grossly offensive if she'd used the real words but it sounded okay with the substitution:

"That's what I thought! He really does look very Irish. I was just telling my hubby, 'I wonder why that girl is breastfeeding an Irish baby? She doesn't look Irish at all! At first I thought she was the babysitter, but then she couldn't breastfeed.' That baby looks so Irish! I didn't know you could have a baby who looked that Irish if you weren't Irish yourself!"
post #85 of 1466
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Originally Posted by CanidFL View Post

Her – Is he Spanish?
Me – no. I am white and My DH is black
Her – but his father is Spanish?
Me – no. My DH is black.
Her – Your DH must be mad he’s not the father. That baby is Spanish.
Me – He is the father. I’m married and DH is the father and he is black.
Her – oh so you got married first then had a baby with your husband. That isn’t normal.
Me – hmmmm (totally speechless)

I am still in awe at this conversation. It was about 3 weeks ago and I can’t stop laughing about it.
post #86 of 1466
I *heart* my Hubby---

Co worker to Hubby: So how's sleeping going with the new bub?
Hubby: I sleep pretty good since my wife is breastfeeding and none of us really wake up, unless he needs a nappy change.
Co worker: But don't you want to feed your baby? How will you bond?
Hubby: I DO feed my baby-I buy food for my wife and then she feeds him breastmilk, besides I had thee best bonding moment when my son was born and I caught him.

I have another Hubby story but Alex needs that nappy change so it will have to wait until another time....
post #87 of 1466
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Originally Posted by CAHemmerich View Post
She said to me "Oh, I'm sorry to wake you. I was just going to take her to the nursery quick for her MMR shot." Um, what part of no vaccinations and DO NOT take her from my room did they not understand?
Apparently understanding those instructions required the same skills necessary to know that even when vaxxing the MMR doesn't happen until over 6 months old.
post #88 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Down2Earth View Post
She plans on never having children so it would sort of be like explaining how to make fried chicken to a vegetarian.
Hey, I watched the Good Eats episode, I know how to make fried chicken!--hand it over to some one else to do and get on with stuff I'm competent at. On the other hand, if I was constantly coming up with stuff about cooking meat to friends who actually cook it on a regular basis, I'd expect them to tell me "no, it doesn't work that way", especially since I might passing my cooking "knowledge" on to other people.

Of course, as long as she's sticking to things as silly as your example, it's probably okay.
post #89 of 1466
This was a pregnancy comment, not a parenting one, but when I was nine months pg, my dad sent me this email:

According to CNN and a recent United Nations study, 1,600 women die in Afghanistan in every 100,000 live births. In comparison, only 12 deaths per 100,000 are recorded in the United States.

The births in Afghanistan are at home. So statistically, there is a 1.6% chance of the mother's demise during childbirth at home. In the US, the probability of mom's death during childbirth is reduced to 0.012% since most births are in hospitals. Using these data, the chance of your death during childbirth is about 100 times greater if you have the child at home rather than in hospital.

Personally, I think it makes no sense to increase the probability of your death by a factor of about 100, and I encourage you to reconsider giving birth in a suitable hospital, both for your welfare and that of your baby.


?!?!?! I wrote back a novel-length email explaining the statistical FACTS about homebirth, along with links to studies, as well as pointing out a few of the scientific flaws in his conclusions. Unbelievable. He'd known for months that I was planning a homebirth, and he waited till the last minute to even bring up his "concern." Happily, we had a beautiful and perfect homebirth, and I'm so glad I was able to say I told you so!

And this one wasn't said to me, but I just have to share...a PP mentioned this comment:

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Originally Posted by MySweetSunlight View Post
"Are they twins?" While looking at my identical...twins. Nope, not twins, that couldn't be. They were just born at the same time. Actually, they're triplets, I left the third one at home in a drawer.
My mom had the same comment about me and my twin sister. She would take us out in identical (pink) outfits, with bows taped to our heads to show we were girls, in a double stroller. People would say, "Are they twins?" and then "Are they boys?" ?!? She started answering, "No, they're triplets, but their little brother is invisible."
post #90 of 1466
We spent Easter with DH's family and they are all very anxious for us to have a baby and we're close to starting ttcing but not just yet. so we're all sitting around drink kaluha and vodka and my glass was empty and DH was mixing the next round a I called out to him "Hey babe, Mommy needs a drink" I use the term Mommy since that's what DH calls me because of our furbaby. Well his Aunt looks at me and goes "mommy? Does that mean you have an announcement to make" I just looked at her and said "Yup, alcohol is really great when you're pregnant"

It was a little bit snarky but she'd been making crazy comments all day and by then I was really sick and tired of it.
post #91 of 1466
Oh man I have been reading and can not believe some of these posts (well the people in them) .

When I was pregnant I worked with a girl who had a toddler and she told me the best thing about being a parent was that you get to make all of the rules. My son is now 21 months old and making the rules is far, far, far from the best thing about being a parent.

Also when my son was only a week old we were eating dinner over at my MIL's mom's house (because a lot of family was visiting to see the new baby and her house was larger and such). Anyway they decided that I shouldn't have to lift a finger at dinner time and if the baby needed anything (minus nursing of course) MIL or Grandma-in-Law would take care of it. So dinner starts and DS is being held by MIL who then sets him in a swing. Instantly he is uncomfortable and making it clear that he wants to be held, GIL response "sometimes it is good for them to cry." What happen to they were going to take care of him, MIL agrees with GIL and they both are just eating despite the fact that the baby is crying. I am sitting next to MIL and simply say "can I just pick him up." Her reply "Honey you do whatever you want." I scoot out my chair and GIL jumps up and yells "you sit" and picks up DS. I have to admit that it was only about 3 seconds that DS was crying but it was one of the longest 3 seconds of my life. DS proceded to root and so I left the table to nurse him right away.

Later that week DS was napping and I was cooking pancakes. DS started to cry and his father who never took interest in holding DS or attempting to bond with him as an infant was home at the time. Since I was sort of tied to the stove I said "it is okay pumkin daddy's coming" so that my son would hear my voice. His dad snickered and then told me that it would be good for him to cry. At that moment I left the stove, everything still cooking and picked up my baby. BTW DS's dad and me are no longer together.

I tried to explain to my doctor that after months of researched I had made the choice not to vax. I shouldn't have started my statement off with, I wanted to learn more about them because my mom didn't vax me or my siblings and my sister made the decision to not vax her children. My doctor butted in saying that you can't go off of what your family did, people use to use horse and buggy but they don't anymore. WTH

It is late but I am sure that I will think of a lot more.
post #92 of 1466
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I undress ds and she gasps to see a cloth diaper.

NP: Ewww.. I didn't think anyone used those anymore, we have disposables you know.
Me: Mmmm
NP: Well you'll have to stop using them when he's 12 months old or he'll never learn to walk.
Me; Really? (with a smirk) We all walk just fine and we wore cloth.

NP: Well that was before, modern kids just won't be able to do it.
Uhhm & oh and a great big
post #93 of 1466
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Originally Posted by lisavark View Post
According to CNN and a recent United Nations study, 1,600 women die in Afghanistan in every 100,000 live births. In comparison, only 12 deaths per 100,000 are recorded in the United States.

The births in Afghanistan are at home. So statistically, there is a 1.6% chance of the mother's demise during childbirth at home. In the US, the probability of mom's death during childbirth is reduced to 0.012% since most births are in hospitals. Using these data, the chance of your death during childbirth is about 100 times greater if you have the child at home rather than in hospital.

Personally, I think it makes no sense to increase the probability of your death by a factor of about 100, and I encourage you to reconsider giving birth in a suitable hospital, both for your welfare and that of your baby.
I believe I read that Holland has the highest rate of homebirths of any "first world nation" yet has such a low rate of death during childbirth, both for mother and baby, that they go years between deaths.

I would think a lot of it has to do with sanitation, education, and access to quality hospitals WHEN NEEDED.

I had a homebirth and never for a second feared for my life or the baby's. Or either of our health. (An OB told me if I had a homebirth that he would be mentally retarded.)
post #94 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Neth Naneth View Post
My doctor butted in saying that you can't go off of what your family did, people use to use horse and buggy but they don't anymore. WTH
<sarcasm>Yeah, we all know now how harmful it was for us as a species to ride in buggies. Thank God we now have motor vehicles. I can't for the life of me figure out how our species escaped becoming extinct!</sarcasm>
post #95 of 1466
I used to look after a little boy 6 months older than my dd. I would often have them out together in the double pram and was used to people making remarks about them as they really did look quite similar. I had really had my fill one day when an older lady made disapproving comments to her friend. We were on our way home from the park and both kids were quite grubby - we were in the lift together so I don't know why she didn''t think I would hear.

Anyway she asked me if they were twins. No I said, he is 2 and a half and she has just turned two. Then, I couldn't help myself because she looked so horrified, I whispered to her 'different fathers'!!! After an audible gasp, she replied "but wasn't that hard on you dear, having them both so close together?'

I still laugh about that day! he he
post #96 of 1466
This one was 800 miles away with my 2 old high school friends, one of which is very educated on matters of pregnancy, birth, and breastfeeding because she's pregnant, and the other who's very educated about a lot of other things but tends to say things about stuff she knows nothing about. LOL, we all have a few of those.

Anyway, H was in the hospital after having just delivered her son, who was 2 days old when C went to visit her. H put her son to the breast to nurse, and he promptly pooped in his diaper. C said, 'You need to train him not to do that, or his wife is going to hate him someday!'

I hope H saw the humor in it (instead of, say, seeing it as disapproval of BF ultimately leading to weaning).
post #97 of 1466
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Originally Posted by amberskyfire View Post
This is funny because my baby looks absolutely nothing at all like me or my husband. She looks like nobody I've ever seen before. I always joke that I'm so glad I had her at home because if they had brought her to me in the hospital, I would have gone ballistic and told them to take it away and bring me my baby!
I think it's funny too! Aside from hair and eye color (which we get from our father) my full sister and I look NOTHING like our parents! We look like our Grandmother's sisters, whom we've never even met (they live in Germany). None of our cousins got the same German genes (aside from the boobs). They all have brown eyes like their fathers and grandfathers. (Sis' and my father has a different father than all his siblings - it's COMPLICATED! ).
post #98 of 1466
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Originally Posted by CAHemmerich View Post
She said to me "Oh, I'm sorry to wake you. I was just going to take her to the nursery quick for her MMR shot." Um, what part of no vaccinations and DO NOT take her from my room did they not understand?
The MMR shot has never been given at birth...you must have misheard?
post #99 of 1466
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Originally Posted by ThreeBeans View Post
The MMR shot has never been given at birth...you must have misheard?
maybe the nurse was just saying MMR since that one is "necessary" obviously, moreso than the Hep B that mama had already declined... but was really going to give Hep B.
post #100 of 1466
A nurse at the neurologist's looking at Sunshine in my lap and her sister running around on the floor-
"So sad, you can see the child your daughter would've been."
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