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post #921 of 1466
I've actually gone on strike from calling my grandfather as he and his wife pester me each time I call asking how many words DS is speaking. His wife is pushy about it, and last time I asked them to stop giving me grief about it, DS is 16 months and says about 5 words. Ped isn't concerned yet and said not to be worried. I tell this to grandfather, whom then gets snippy and says, "Maybe he's Autistic". Totally inappropriate.

So I wait a few weeks and call to see how he is doing, and his wife is in the back demanding to know just how many words are being spoken by DS now. I'm done with them. This is the lady that told me Asian children are naturally smarter, thus my reason for struggling in math in college and not being as successful as her family which all have degrees, etc. Apparently our downfall is we're not Asian, so we must be slow.

/vent
post #922 of 1466
I have a girlfriend who is newly pregnant. It just so happens that her sister and 2 close friends that have just had babies, one of whom already has 2 other children.
So my friend is telling me that the mom of 3 is giving advice to the 2 other moms, saying she has always had her newborn in their cribs right away and sleeping through the night by a month old. Apparently she was telling them to let them cry otherwise it will get worse
My friend then tells me that her other friend finally is putting her baby in the crib to sleep, which is good b/c she was "too attached"

Don't worry, I spamed her with Dr Sears info and my personal beliefs.
post #923 of 1466
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Originally Posted by x.xiv.mmvii View Post
I've actually gone on strike from calling my grandfather as he and his wife pester me each time I call asking how many words DS is speaking. His wife is pushy about it, and last time I asked them to stop giving me grief about it, DS is 16 months and says about 5 words. Ped isn't concerned yet and said not to be worried.
My ds was the same way. Somewhere around 18 mo. it was like someone flipped a switch. He started talking nonstop--he's 14 years old now, and he has barely taken a break from talking--ever!
post #924 of 1466
A woman who is new to our synagogue is an anesthesia nurse. When I was talking about my labor with DS in her presence - but not to her - (53 hours of natural FTP, then a really traumatic c-section), she looked me straight in the eye and said "You're crazy. You know, there are medications for that, right? If you'd have been in the hospital, that NEVER would have happened. He'd have been out immediately!" I was so flabbergasted (because she was being SO rude) that I just said "You're absolutely right. I will NEVER go into the hospital to have a baby ever again!" She then looked at my friend and said "Well, I suppose when you're young you can afford to be stupid, right?" and walked away. Wow.

This is the same woman who when I sat down next to her 12 year old son before dinner said (in front of him) "I'm not sure you want to sit there - he's not very interesting when it comes to conversation." I proceeded to talk to him through the entire dinner, and we had TONS of fun talking about English football, cellphones, and random American trivia. He was a polite, well-spoken pre-teen, and I told him so after dinner.
post #925 of 1466
Wow! Some of these comments are SO rude! I can't believe it.

Here's my contribution. We started going to a homeschooling group and my son got into some things he wasn't supposed to while playing outside. Like a 4 yr old should know not to throw toys in the pool while the pool is littered with rocks and toys! Anyway, I knew he was a handfull and apologized. Next thing I know they started phoning me (and admitted to gossiping about me) and started talking about my children's salvation (I'm a Christian, but this was sooooo over the top!) and how my children will go to hell if I didn't start spanking them immediately! Then they asked me if I'd ever given him (my son) a good hiding. I said we didn't spank anymore, stopped that years ago because it wasn't what we wanted, plus it didn't work to discipline my children. The woman then proceeds to tell me that I spanked him the wrong way! She said I should spank him until he started crying over being in pain from the spanking and not because he was in trouble. Wow oh wow! Needless to say, we never went back to the homeschool group.
post #926 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Veronika01 View Post
Wow! Some of these comments are SO rude! I can't believe it.

Here's my contribution. We started going to a homeschooling group and my son got into some things he wasn't supposed to while playing outside. Like a 4 yr old should know not to throw toys in the pool while the pool is littered with rocks and toys! Anyway, I knew he was a handfull and apologized. Next thing I know they started phoning me (and admitted to gossiping about me) and started talking about my children's salvation (I'm a Christian, but this was sooooo over the top!) and how my children will go to hell if I didn't start spanking them immediately! Then they asked me if I'd ever given him (my son) a good hiding. I said we didn't spank anymore, stopped that years ago because it wasn't what we wanted, plus it didn't work to discipline my children. The woman then proceeds to tell me that I spanked him the wrong way! She said I should spank him until he started crying over being in pain from the spanking and not because he was in trouble. Wow oh wow! Needless to say, we never went back to the homeschool group.
scary
post #927 of 1466
I have one to add, although its not my story, it happened to my mother. My mom had 4 kids total and all of us were adopted. As she got home from running errands one day she was unloading all us kids this woman approached her and gave her a long schpeal about how she is contributing to overpopulation and yada yada yada.... my mom didnt say a word until she stopped talking and said "all my kids are adopted." The lady didnt know what to say and just left. how presumptuous!
post #928 of 1466
A few weeks ago I was living at my mom's with my almost 3 yo, and 5 wk old at the time. I was trying to get our belongings packed up for a move and was mentioning how hard it was when I had someone demanding me all day long. My younger, single, brother who has no children chimed in. He told me to put the baby down and "Let him cry. He needs to learn to be by himself anyway, right?" I immediately informed him that he is not ever allowed to give me parenting advice.

Later he pulled me aside and apologized. He said he realizes he has no clue what parenting is about and that if anyone knows, it is me. Thanks, Bro.
post #929 of 1466
My MIL insisted the whole time I was pg that the best thing for teething is milk bones...dog biscuits, from the store, just like you'd buy for the dog.
Baby was born and she got word I thought that was a terrible idea, so she told it to me again but said she made them from scratch. Like I had forgotten that she said that? Nice lie.

She also says that when DH was a baby his doctor told her that every time he got the hiccups it meant he was growing. I smiled and nodded, and a few weeks later she said that every time DH got hiccups he grew an inch...if this baby grew an inch each time he'd be four feet tall by now!
post #930 of 1466
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Originally Posted by pear-shaped View Post
This one makes me really angry and I hear it often. Lots of people tell me that my daughter will be closer to dh when she gets older because "girls are always closer to their fathers and boys are always closer to their mothers." It's a cultural thing here. I hate it because I feel that it discounts everything I do for dd (and I get very little help from dh!) I also hate it because it smacks of essentialism.

OMG I HATE the gender bias crap. Though in my situation it's people telling me DS will be closer to DH because he's a male and they would be into male things. I'm the biggest tomboy I know (at 32, I was STILL collecting Transformers toys) and the only thing I would opt out of in regards to "male" stereotyped interests would involve questionable magazines if you get my drift. And I go on to remind said folk that I'm far more apt to go fishing than do my nails, but they insist I'm going to be left all alone at home while the guys do "guy things." Again, like all the effort I put into being a good mommy will be for naught because i'll just be ditched to the curb in favor of Mr. Man. Ironically, if our son wants to learn how to catch snakes, he better learn it from mama because papa won't go there!
post #931 of 1466
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post #932 of 1466
Originally Posted by Ellp
My neighbor across the street is a new immigrant from Russia and she mentioned that she does this with her baby (now 1). Get them to sleep and lay them down in a stroller on their back deck (fenced). Put the baby monitor on and you can do whatever you like noise-wise inside the house.

She said this is what they do in Russia and it makes the babies sleep longer. In winter you just bundle them up really well!

I don't know if she realized that we get wildcats, raccoons and bears in our area...

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Originally Posted by BarnMomma View Post
Not defending a baby left ALONE outside to nap but I know DS sleeps like a rock when he naps outdoors. Hubby and I would bundle up ds and walk him in the stroller and he'd fall asleep. When we came home I"d park the stroller, and just sit next to him and read on the deck. Winter/spring/summer/fall. He'd sleep 3+ hours and wake up SO happy.

Fresh air is fantastic for babies and kids. Our ped even suggested sleeping with the window open at night (in winter) and it made a huge difference in all of our sleep quality. We all just bundle up under our down comfoters and wear fuzzy wool PJs. The body heat alone keeps us cozy and the freah air at night is so clearing and refreshing. Good for the immune system too!
This is actually a common thing all over northern Europe. While I used to put DS on the deck where I could see him (I'd keep an eye on him from the other side of the window, just in case a cat were to jump into the stroller) DS would nap outside all year long while we were living in Norway. Even in 10 degree F weather. It's brilliant, because the fresh air is so good for them and if they are bundled up well, they are nice and warm. (People there have strollers and sleeping bags that are warmer than the ones you typically find here in the States.) DS never sleeps as well indoors, and he gets irritable quicker if he's been inside for a long time. People sleep with the windows open in the winter there too. As long as you have warm bedding, it's a great way to sleep.

Again--not defending leaving a baby completely unsupervised...(though people do that quite often in Europe and you never hear of anything happening)...and while child abductions hardly ever happen (unlike the US) there is always the worry that a cat might get into the netting that covers the stroller or a dog jump up at it...or something.

Sorry, just had to comment. If a similar thread were posted on a European board, people would probably say it was crazy that American babies sleep inside all the time (not to mention, stay inside all winter.) It's all cultural differences...
post #933 of 1466
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Originally Posted by LaurenB View Post
I've gotten several comments on Ramona's round head too. But a few older women have taken it a step farther to then ask me if I had a cesarean. "Beautiful round head! She's a cesarean baby, right?" I know they don't mean to be rude or hurtful, but the first couple of times this came up it was all I could do not to burst into tears. Yes, cesarean.

lol my baby ended up a c-section too, but he was born with a huge cone head. I dont know how, I only got to 8 cm!
post #934 of 1466
Another MIL story...

DS is three weeks old, crying and fussing. I try rocking him and walking around with him and of course nursing him. He's still fussing because, well, he's three weeks old.

MIL: "Hm, maybe your milk is bad."

I looked straight at DH and said "All right, everyone out!"

(Sidenote: I nursed DS for over two years and still every once in a while feel some milk leaking.)
post #935 of 1466
"You're not old enough to have kids"

Said multiple times... too many to count... even one by a coworker who was my union rep and should have been aware of my age and another by a friend of my MIL....

Really?? I'm (*cough*29*cough*), and my oldest is 2. Surely 27 is old enough to have a baby... no?


Maybe I should have said, "Thanks! I hope I look like I'm 10 for many more years to come, since that's how old I was when I started my period!"

Or this gem from my (usually crunchy safety minded but frugal)mom: "I don't know why you need to buy a carseat for the baby when there's a perfectly good one out in the garage". Because there have been no advancements in carseat safety since the early 80's.
post #936 of 1466
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Originally Posted by sophieslion View Post
My FIL said 'eeeewww...his not circumcised? we'll sort him out when he comes to stay with grandpa...we dont want him with infections all his life'


GAAAAH!!! needless to say, my son will NEVER EVER go and stay there!!
Holy.....and here I am, having kept DS from alone time with grandma b/c I'm worried she'll slap his hand or feed him meat! And you have THAT to worry about????!!!!! I'm so sorry!

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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan View Post
If he brings this up again, can I suggest a look of horror and "just WHY exactly are you talking about slicing off part of my son's PENIS?" Bonus points if you get any males in the room to wince.
Heh heh heh.
post #937 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Narn View Post
In this culture it seems common to treat pets like babies and babies like pets.
I have a friend pregnant with twins who has a pet pig. This pig weighs more than she does. The pig sleeps in bed with her and her boyfriend. They bought a platform bed so the pig can get up and down.

When the twins come, they go into their own room and the pig stays (at least that's what they say now, haha) because according to her boyfriend "the pig HAS to sleep with us, he will freak out".

For the record, they brought this pig to a party at my house once and someone wanted to take a picture and this man had a FIT because he didn't want the pig laying on the ground-he didn't want the pig to get dirty.
post #938 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Livviesmom0207 View Post
I have a friend pregnant with twins who has a pet pig. This pig weighs more than she does. The pig sleeps in bed with her and her boyfriend. They bought a platform bed so the pig can get up and down.

When the twins come, they go into their own room and the pig stays (at least that's what they say now, haha) because according to her boyfriend "the pig HAS to sleep with us, he will freak out".

For the record, they brought this pig to a party at my house once and someone wanted to take a picture and this man had a FIT because he didn't want the pig laying on the ground-he didn't want the pig to get dirty.
O...M...G! What happens the day that Piggy gets too big for the house?? Or walks on one of the kids?? Or gets sick because he's being forced to do something unnatural to his nature? Ugh!! How can people be so shortsighted and ridiculous? :
post #939 of 1466
There is an off the grid thread somewhere around here that I just read where they were talking about how pigs eat ANYTHING. Like baby ducks...whatever.

I think that twin mama has bigger problems than the pig sleeping next to her (or the oversized porkchop in bed with them), ykwim???

LOL
post #940 of 1466
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Originally Posted by Mommy2Austin View Post
O...M...G! What happens the day that Piggy gets too big for the house?? Or walks on one of the kids?? Or gets sick because he's being forced to do something unnatural to his nature? Ugh!! How can people be so shortsighted and ridiculous? :
Yeah she's about 7 months pregnant and having trouble sleeping with HOOFS in her back. Priorities anyone?
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