I've been reading this post, and trying to get up courage to post. I just want to say that I appreciate everyone's honesty and willingness to talk on here.
I've been struggling for the past few years with the realization that I'm a lesbian. In fact, I think I figured it out right after DH and I got married a few years ago. Like someone up thread said, it was a DUH! moment where I finally realized that straight girls probably don't think about having sex with other girls. DOH!
I have not said anything to DH. I'm pretty sure I'm not bi, because even though I love him and we have a GREAT relationship, I'm just not into guys. He's never come out and said anything, but I think he must suspect that I'm at least bi because he's always making jokes about me "doing it" with other girls.
I just don't want to hurt my husband. I love him SO MUCH and our family life is so perfect. We rarely ever argue or fight, although I've been really testy lately because I'm trying to work through my own thoughts and I just don't have patience for anything.
I also don't want him to say, "Ooh, let's have a threesome," because I'm not really into that. I just know that would be the first thing he'd say. The other day, we were talking about a threesome (a frequent topic at our house) and he said that if I turned out to be gay like on Friends, he'd just have to move the other girl into our house because he wouldn't want to lose me. I just wouldn't want to do that because I don't want to screw up my kids. (No judgement on anyone who lives the poly life, I think it's awesome, just not something I think I could ever do. I'm mainly afraid that my kids, when they got older, would want to know why I would be married to their dad but have a relationship with a woman, too.) Anyway, if we ever decided to have a threesome, I'd rather make it a twosome.
So...anyway. I'm not sure if I'm even going to hit post on this. The good thing is that no one knows me here, so I don't have to worry about this getting out. But typing this out really helps me to feel like I've FINALLY told someone my secret, even if none of you know me.
Some advice on whether or not you think I should tell my DH would be awesome. I just feel like there is no point in telling him because I don't really want to do anything about it. I don't want to go out and find a girlfriend, and I don't want to break up our marriage. So is there even any point in telling him? I don't want to hurt him.